Trai
2009-09-25, 08:57 AM
Some of you that follow the relationship advice thread may remember a while back my attempt to start a relationship with a friend. We went to prom together and we're now in college a couple hours apart; I confessed my feelings but got the answer I expected-- he wasn't interested in a long-distance relationship, but was okay with staying friends.
I hadn't known until maybe a couple weeks before prom that this same friend had had an eating disorder for a while. Not many people had known; I found out through a documentary on the subject he did for a class project. I told him that I thought he was really brave for putting it out there and we talked a bit about the subject, but that was about it.
He's attending one of the Ivy League schools and he mentioned having a heavy workload; we've been keeping in touch through Facebook. I'm still not sure whether or not I still have feelings for him, but I just wanted to be a good friend still since I cared about him and worried still.
Anyway, I went to check his Facebook this morning and learned that he's taking the rest of his semester off and checking into an out-of-state hospital for his eating disorder. He asked everyone to write to him and such, and I added to the people wishing him good luck and hoping he'd get better. I just want to know if anyone has ideas of how I can possibly support him or do anything to help. Even if he doesn't feel for me the way I felt about him, I'm still really worried about him and just wanted to ask the Playground for any ideas.
I hadn't known until maybe a couple weeks before prom that this same friend had had an eating disorder for a while. Not many people had known; I found out through a documentary on the subject he did for a class project. I told him that I thought he was really brave for putting it out there and we talked a bit about the subject, but that was about it.
He's attending one of the Ivy League schools and he mentioned having a heavy workload; we've been keeping in touch through Facebook. I'm still not sure whether or not I still have feelings for him, but I just wanted to be a good friend still since I cared about him and worried still.
Anyway, I went to check his Facebook this morning and learned that he's taking the rest of his semester off and checking into an out-of-state hospital for his eating disorder. He asked everyone to write to him and such, and I added to the people wishing him good luck and hoping he'd get better. I just want to know if anyone has ideas of how I can possibly support him or do anything to help. Even if he doesn't feel for me the way I felt about him, I'm still really worried about him and just wanted to ask the Playground for any ideas.