valadil
2010-07-22, 10:59 PM
I have to vent. I'm not looking for advice about my situation - I know the answer is to just talk it out like adults. Commiseration and affirmation that I'm not an insensitive clod would be helpful though.
So I game with a lot of people. I have a group from high school (A), a group from college (B), and a group of my wife's theater friends who I'm trying to get to know better. They would be group C, but they don't enter into things so they don't get a label.
In group B everybody is a GM. When one game finishes somebody else takes over and runs the next one. I like this dynamic, although I don't like that the group has a set of general assumptions that gets imposed on everyone (fudging is encouraged, group must be cohesive, PC death is a sin). It's not the assumptions that I mind, it's their imposition. But that's besides the point.
I ran my last two campaigns for group B. Inevitably, war stories from those games made their way to group A. They seemed jealous, so I told them I'd run for them next.
So I started a game for group A. I got 3 of those players, but the other ones I had in mind didn't work out. I invited a couple people who had just joined group B to my new group. They missed out on my two previous games and they got along with group A at a party I threw, which is why I picked them.
One of the players in group B doesn't like this at all. I'm not sure if he objects to me running for a separate group or if he's jealous he wasn't one of the players I picked.
I was expecting that I'd have to explain myself when he first heard he was left out. That was fine, whatever. But the other game started 6 months ago and he's still making snide remarks about it. It's like he thinks I'm cheating on the group or something (and not in a game sense).
I don't like being forced to choose people. I don't see why it's unacceptable to share my time. I can understand some jealousy that I picked two players from group B over the others, but those two were new to the group and I'd never run for them. And I thought they'd get along with group A better (and I was right about that).
On top of that, I actually went back and counted how much GMing I've done. As I mentioned, my last two campaigns were for group B. They were 18 and 12 sessions long. Group A had my previous two campaigns which were 8 and 6 sessions. At the time I decided to run for A, B had had literally more than twice the gaming sessions that A did. And I've never even thought about GMing for C.
Thanks for reading. I feel better now. And yes, I know the answer is to just talk to the player from B. If I'm still pissed off next time I see him, I will.
So I game with a lot of people. I have a group from high school (A), a group from college (B), and a group of my wife's theater friends who I'm trying to get to know better. They would be group C, but they don't enter into things so they don't get a label.
In group B everybody is a GM. When one game finishes somebody else takes over and runs the next one. I like this dynamic, although I don't like that the group has a set of general assumptions that gets imposed on everyone (fudging is encouraged, group must be cohesive, PC death is a sin). It's not the assumptions that I mind, it's their imposition. But that's besides the point.
I ran my last two campaigns for group B. Inevitably, war stories from those games made their way to group A. They seemed jealous, so I told them I'd run for them next.
So I started a game for group A. I got 3 of those players, but the other ones I had in mind didn't work out. I invited a couple people who had just joined group B to my new group. They missed out on my two previous games and they got along with group A at a party I threw, which is why I picked them.
One of the players in group B doesn't like this at all. I'm not sure if he objects to me running for a separate group or if he's jealous he wasn't one of the players I picked.
I was expecting that I'd have to explain myself when he first heard he was left out. That was fine, whatever. But the other game started 6 months ago and he's still making snide remarks about it. It's like he thinks I'm cheating on the group or something (and not in a game sense).
I don't like being forced to choose people. I don't see why it's unacceptable to share my time. I can understand some jealousy that I picked two players from group B over the others, but those two were new to the group and I'd never run for them. And I thought they'd get along with group A better (and I was right about that).
On top of that, I actually went back and counted how much GMing I've done. As I mentioned, my last two campaigns were for group B. They were 18 and 12 sessions long. Group A had my previous two campaigns which were 8 and 6 sessions. At the time I decided to run for A, B had had literally more than twice the gaming sessions that A did. And I've never even thought about GMing for C.
Thanks for reading. I feel better now. And yes, I know the answer is to just talk to the player from B. If I'm still pissed off next time I see him, I will.