onthetown
2010-07-25, 11:59 AM
I saw my doctor the other day and was given a prognosis of schizophrenia and possibly an anxiety disorder (I can't really call it a diagnosis as it will be awhile before I can go see a shrink to have them figure it out). This was brought on by the fact that I've been short of breath but my pulmonary function tests showed that I don't have asthma; when she asked if I thought it could be related to anxiety, I finally opened up to everything I had been putting off telling her (I was convinced that I wanted to get the breathing taken care of first before all the mind-related things).
I'm constantly paranoid about pretty much everything, especially dying in my sleep -- I've slept with my bedroom window open through all weather because I'm convinced, somehow, that it will save me. It might not be rational, but it's the only way I can sleep at night. That is, it's the only way I can sleep at night if I don't get a random pang of pain somewhere in my body; the instant I feel any pain, even if it's just a mild headache from worrying, I'm convinced that I'm dying of cancer or something equally bad. I have panic attacks over things that I shouldn't panic over, like how I took 20 minutes to compose myself after I saw a few ants crawling on my helmet out at the barn... but I don't have any phobias of bugs or any of the things that I freak out over. Sometimes I just panic for no reason. I've isolated myself to the point where I only see one friend on a regular basis, I only have two others that I really care for, and the others I'm scared to see because I'm paranoid that they hate me now. I do have interests and hobbies, but they're things that I can do alone so that I don't have to go out -- drawing, writing, music, spending time with my horse, making jewellry, etc. When I drink (not often -- one cooler every few weeks), I drink at home, often alone. If I see people talking, I automatically get paranoid to the point of crying that they're talking about me behind my back.
And the kicker: I have hallucinations. I didn't think that they were hallucinations, but my doctor gently assured me that no, people are not walking across the house's floorboards at night and I don't have to worry about them coming into my room to kill me. When I heard the door open but went in to find that it was closed, it likely never opened. All of the other noises and sounds that I've been hearing that freak me out because they don't seem to have a source? Pretty likely hallucinations.
(She's an incredible doctor, by the way. I used to be scared of her, but she's the kindest soul I've ever met.)
She's thinking schizophrenia because my father is a schizophrenic and it runs through families -- 40% of people who have one parent that have schizophrenia will also be diagnosed with it. Though there's a wide range of symptoms, mine are actually very constant with paranoid schizophrenia and with my father's old symptoms before he was medicated (with the exception that my hallucinations are auditory and his were visual).
She's going to set up an appointment with a shrink for me, but it will be many months before I can see said shrink -- still, she says, it's better to have an appointment and wait for months than never have one just because it's a bit of a wait. She doesn't want to miss anything because of my father's history. She also said that an anxiety disorder is a possibility, though not as much of one as schizophrenia, because of my panic attacks (I might just be getting them from the stress of living with the schizophrenia, if I have it).
As for the breathing... She said that she really wants to treat what's going on in my mind, as it's the most important problem we have right now. She gave me anti-anxiety medication to try to calm me down, since my symptoms get worse depending on how worked up I am (especially the hallucinations). This may also help the breathing if it's related to anxiety.
These meds are actually anti-depressants as well (I'm not depressed, I'm just taking them for the calming effect) and it's driving me crazy trying to get used to them. I've talked with my father and people who have been on anti-depressants or have gone through this, and they told me not to worry and that it might take a few days to get used to them. I felt sick and dizzy and weak and helpless the first day, then anxious and hyped up yesterday, and today I'm just extremely tired. Seems like I'm going in the right direction.
So, I'm waiting months for a true diagnosis. Until then, I'm on these meds that will calm me down and hopefully alleviate some of my symptoms, but I had more hallucinations last night before I fell asleep -- I heard several people walking up the basement stairs and through the kitchen and hallway toward my room, but everybody in the house was asleep. I'm glad I know now that they're just hallucinations, but they're nerve-wracking nonetheless.
I've grown up with mental illness being in the house because of my father, who didn't handle himself very well and often went off his medications so he could drink every night. I've been able to cope with it because I was coping with somebody else's problem; all I was doing was living my day to day life and trying to make my dad feel good. I've never actually had to cope with having it myself.
How do I do it? I haven't told my mother yet; it would be her worst nightmare to think that I'm turning out like my father, and my step-father would inevitably find out (even if I asked her not to tell him) and have a whole new angle to torment me from. Because I can't talk back to him (I may be 20 years old, but I still live at home and they don't make me pay rent so you couldn't pay me to be rude to them), my mother will think that I don't mind the teasing and she'll join in on it. I've told my dad about the medications as far as they're supposed to help my breathing, but not about what might be causing it -- I think he would be very upset, but moreso at himself than at me, and he's in a good place right now and I don't want to ruin that. My three close friends know about it and are trying to help me through it... But how do I cope with it myself?
Also: I went out on a limb and tried telling an older friend about it. We've reconnected recently because I'm going out to see her horse and spend time with him while she's at work, and she's a very empathetic person. Instead of support, all I got was denial. She didn't once tell me that it's okay to have a mental illness and that she wouldn't love me any less for having it; instead, she spent half an hour trying to convince me that I didn't have anything "wrong" with me and she didn't believe I was "like my father". Apparently, because I grew up in that environment, she believes that my doctor and I have labeled me to have it. My symptoms, including the hallucinations, are figments of my imagination because I've convinced myself that I have schizophrenia. Uh, hello? I never once convinced myself that I had any mental illness. I've thought about the possibility, but I haven't put much to it until now. When she realized I wasn't buying it, she changed direction and told me a story about a lady... "She wasn't schizophrenic, she was psychic. She believed all schizophrenics are psychic and just operate on a different level of existence." So, the noises across my floorboards? Spirits on a different level of existence. I'm sorry, but I think I want to treat my hallucinations instead of making money off of them claiming to be psychic -- especially since I'm the only one to hear them. She ended the conversation by saying, "Don't worry, onthetown, I don't think there's anything wrong with you." Needless to say, I'm a little disgusted with her right now.
Anyway, original topic. How do I cope with my symptoms until I can get a diagnosis?
I'm constantly paranoid about pretty much everything, especially dying in my sleep -- I've slept with my bedroom window open through all weather because I'm convinced, somehow, that it will save me. It might not be rational, but it's the only way I can sleep at night. That is, it's the only way I can sleep at night if I don't get a random pang of pain somewhere in my body; the instant I feel any pain, even if it's just a mild headache from worrying, I'm convinced that I'm dying of cancer or something equally bad. I have panic attacks over things that I shouldn't panic over, like how I took 20 minutes to compose myself after I saw a few ants crawling on my helmet out at the barn... but I don't have any phobias of bugs or any of the things that I freak out over. Sometimes I just panic for no reason. I've isolated myself to the point where I only see one friend on a regular basis, I only have two others that I really care for, and the others I'm scared to see because I'm paranoid that they hate me now. I do have interests and hobbies, but they're things that I can do alone so that I don't have to go out -- drawing, writing, music, spending time with my horse, making jewellry, etc. When I drink (not often -- one cooler every few weeks), I drink at home, often alone. If I see people talking, I automatically get paranoid to the point of crying that they're talking about me behind my back.
And the kicker: I have hallucinations. I didn't think that they were hallucinations, but my doctor gently assured me that no, people are not walking across the house's floorboards at night and I don't have to worry about them coming into my room to kill me. When I heard the door open but went in to find that it was closed, it likely never opened. All of the other noises and sounds that I've been hearing that freak me out because they don't seem to have a source? Pretty likely hallucinations.
(She's an incredible doctor, by the way. I used to be scared of her, but she's the kindest soul I've ever met.)
She's thinking schizophrenia because my father is a schizophrenic and it runs through families -- 40% of people who have one parent that have schizophrenia will also be diagnosed with it. Though there's a wide range of symptoms, mine are actually very constant with paranoid schizophrenia and with my father's old symptoms before he was medicated (with the exception that my hallucinations are auditory and his were visual).
She's going to set up an appointment with a shrink for me, but it will be many months before I can see said shrink -- still, she says, it's better to have an appointment and wait for months than never have one just because it's a bit of a wait. She doesn't want to miss anything because of my father's history. She also said that an anxiety disorder is a possibility, though not as much of one as schizophrenia, because of my panic attacks (I might just be getting them from the stress of living with the schizophrenia, if I have it).
As for the breathing... She said that she really wants to treat what's going on in my mind, as it's the most important problem we have right now. She gave me anti-anxiety medication to try to calm me down, since my symptoms get worse depending on how worked up I am (especially the hallucinations). This may also help the breathing if it's related to anxiety.
These meds are actually anti-depressants as well (I'm not depressed, I'm just taking them for the calming effect) and it's driving me crazy trying to get used to them. I've talked with my father and people who have been on anti-depressants or have gone through this, and they told me not to worry and that it might take a few days to get used to them. I felt sick and dizzy and weak and helpless the first day, then anxious and hyped up yesterday, and today I'm just extremely tired. Seems like I'm going in the right direction.
So, I'm waiting months for a true diagnosis. Until then, I'm on these meds that will calm me down and hopefully alleviate some of my symptoms, but I had more hallucinations last night before I fell asleep -- I heard several people walking up the basement stairs and through the kitchen and hallway toward my room, but everybody in the house was asleep. I'm glad I know now that they're just hallucinations, but they're nerve-wracking nonetheless.
I've grown up with mental illness being in the house because of my father, who didn't handle himself very well and often went off his medications so he could drink every night. I've been able to cope with it because I was coping with somebody else's problem; all I was doing was living my day to day life and trying to make my dad feel good. I've never actually had to cope with having it myself.
How do I do it? I haven't told my mother yet; it would be her worst nightmare to think that I'm turning out like my father, and my step-father would inevitably find out (even if I asked her not to tell him) and have a whole new angle to torment me from. Because I can't talk back to him (I may be 20 years old, but I still live at home and they don't make me pay rent so you couldn't pay me to be rude to them), my mother will think that I don't mind the teasing and she'll join in on it. I've told my dad about the medications as far as they're supposed to help my breathing, but not about what might be causing it -- I think he would be very upset, but moreso at himself than at me, and he's in a good place right now and I don't want to ruin that. My three close friends know about it and are trying to help me through it... But how do I cope with it myself?
Also: I went out on a limb and tried telling an older friend about it. We've reconnected recently because I'm going out to see her horse and spend time with him while she's at work, and she's a very empathetic person. Instead of support, all I got was denial. She didn't once tell me that it's okay to have a mental illness and that she wouldn't love me any less for having it; instead, she spent half an hour trying to convince me that I didn't have anything "wrong" with me and she didn't believe I was "like my father". Apparently, because I grew up in that environment, she believes that my doctor and I have labeled me to have it. My symptoms, including the hallucinations, are figments of my imagination because I've convinced myself that I have schizophrenia. Uh, hello? I never once convinced myself that I had any mental illness. I've thought about the possibility, but I haven't put much to it until now. When she realized I wasn't buying it, she changed direction and told me a story about a lady... "She wasn't schizophrenic, she was psychic. She believed all schizophrenics are psychic and just operate on a different level of existence." So, the noises across my floorboards? Spirits on a different level of existence. I'm sorry, but I think I want to treat my hallucinations instead of making money off of them claiming to be psychic -- especially since I'm the only one to hear them. She ended the conversation by saying, "Don't worry, onthetown, I don't think there's anything wrong with you." Needless to say, I'm a little disgusted with her right now.
Anyway, original topic. How do I cope with my symptoms until I can get a diagnosis?