No brains
2011-09-01, 11:16 PM
Alright internet, I know I shouldn't go to you for help OR tell you anything about myself, but I need to ask someone.
I've had this friend for a while see, we've always enjoyed the company of each other, in person and later online, and we stayed friends through tough times (more on that below).
I was speaking to this friend through AIM the day before yesterday, and through mutual boredom, we agreed to meet in person for the first time in over a year.
Just tonight however, I had heard that this friend of mine received some bad news; their fiance had broken up with them.
I am greatly attracted to this friend of mine (if you wonder, we share the same orientation). I was immediately torn at hearing this news. My dear friend had suffered a great loss, but now they were available for my affections.
Now I am no simple beast. I will not swoop in like a vulture and try to gorge on the carrion of an engagement. Indeed, I had fallen to this very temptation once in the past, and this friend was one of few who stood by me when the tornado of emotional confusion ripped into the life of my former crush and I. In fact, the event was even more hauntingly similar, in that my former crush had also stayed an online friend after knowing me in person, who had fallen out of a relationship THE MOMENT I finally had the chance to see them in person.
I will be a strong, tactful human being and offer my support to my friend in this troubled time for them. It is still likely that I will see them in person soon and I will be as supportive as my friend needs, while still staying the course of the original plan and having a nice time with one of the few people each of us has who actually listens to us.
But where do I draw the line? Where in offering emotional support, offering an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on do I know I am still being a good friend and not succumbing again to my lesser self? How do I survey this minefield of sore emotions without igniting a blast that will tear apart the relationship with another dear friend?
If there is anyone who can, I implore you to help me. I want to be a good person in handling this. Also, if there are any trolls who just want to inject humor into this serious situation.. go ahead, just make sure they're damn good jokes because I could go for a laugh right now.
I've had this friend for a while see, we've always enjoyed the company of each other, in person and later online, and we stayed friends through tough times (more on that below).
I was speaking to this friend through AIM the day before yesterday, and through mutual boredom, we agreed to meet in person for the first time in over a year.
Just tonight however, I had heard that this friend of mine received some bad news; their fiance had broken up with them.
I am greatly attracted to this friend of mine (if you wonder, we share the same orientation). I was immediately torn at hearing this news. My dear friend had suffered a great loss, but now they were available for my affections.
Now I am no simple beast. I will not swoop in like a vulture and try to gorge on the carrion of an engagement. Indeed, I had fallen to this very temptation once in the past, and this friend was one of few who stood by me when the tornado of emotional confusion ripped into the life of my former crush and I. In fact, the event was even more hauntingly similar, in that my former crush had also stayed an online friend after knowing me in person, who had fallen out of a relationship THE MOMENT I finally had the chance to see them in person.
I will be a strong, tactful human being and offer my support to my friend in this troubled time for them. It is still likely that I will see them in person soon and I will be as supportive as my friend needs, while still staying the course of the original plan and having a nice time with one of the few people each of us has who actually listens to us.
But where do I draw the line? Where in offering emotional support, offering an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on do I know I am still being a good friend and not succumbing again to my lesser self? How do I survey this minefield of sore emotions without igniting a blast that will tear apart the relationship with another dear friend?
If there is anyone who can, I implore you to help me. I want to be a good person in handling this. Also, if there are any trolls who just want to inject humor into this serious situation.. go ahead, just make sure they're damn good jokes because I could go for a laugh right now.