Melayl
2011-12-09, 11:10 PM
Have you ever really wanted something, I mean really wanted something? Dreamed about it and prayed for it for years, and then finally gotten it, only to find it it doesn't please you the way you thought it would?
I find myself in such a situation tonight. My wife's stepfather -- an evil, foul, dangerous man that I have hated for near 15 years with passion that continues to disturb me -- died tonight suddenly. Likely a heart attack, though I haven't heard specifics yet.
I know it may sound petty or cruel to have fantasized about his death -- and yes, it disturbs me that I did. I have my reasons -- for the sake of forum rules, I don't think I'll delve into those, but suffice to say his actions toward my wife cannot ever be forgiven by mortal hearts. Yeah, I know I need professional therapy regarding the issue.
By all of my previous reasoning, I should be ecstatic right now. My family is safe from him now, and my despised foe now faces his eternal reckoning. Yet I find -- partially to my relief -- that I am not finding all the joy I thought I would at this moment. I am glad he is dead, I won't deny it, but not the way I thought I would. I feel sadness for the rest of my wife's family, as I expected to. They did love him, after all, no matter what he was to me and to my wife. It is more than that, though. Perhaps my soul has not been as tarnished by my rage as I thought it had. Perhaps this is what it feels like to start finding closure.
I haven't yet had the opportunity to discuss the ramifications of tonight with my wife. She is tied up at a catering at the moment, but I did inform her. I'm not sure how she will feel, either. She did hate him, though not to the extent I did. The human brain is good at blocking things it doesn't want to remember, I'm told. I wouldn't know -- I have never let myself forget what happened. She was "raised" by him for 16 years, though, and not all of those memories were bad.
I guess I just needed to get this off of my chest to an impartial ear. I knew the Playground was always here, and even if this particular thread is never read, it did help to express things here.
I find myself in such a situation tonight. My wife's stepfather -- an evil, foul, dangerous man that I have hated for near 15 years with passion that continues to disturb me -- died tonight suddenly. Likely a heart attack, though I haven't heard specifics yet.
I know it may sound petty or cruel to have fantasized about his death -- and yes, it disturbs me that I did. I have my reasons -- for the sake of forum rules, I don't think I'll delve into those, but suffice to say his actions toward my wife cannot ever be forgiven by mortal hearts. Yeah, I know I need professional therapy regarding the issue.
By all of my previous reasoning, I should be ecstatic right now. My family is safe from him now, and my despised foe now faces his eternal reckoning. Yet I find -- partially to my relief -- that I am not finding all the joy I thought I would at this moment. I am glad he is dead, I won't deny it, but not the way I thought I would. I feel sadness for the rest of my wife's family, as I expected to. They did love him, after all, no matter what he was to me and to my wife. It is more than that, though. Perhaps my soul has not been as tarnished by my rage as I thought it had. Perhaps this is what it feels like to start finding closure.
I haven't yet had the opportunity to discuss the ramifications of tonight with my wife. She is tied up at a catering at the moment, but I did inform her. I'm not sure how she will feel, either. She did hate him, though not to the extent I did. The human brain is good at blocking things it doesn't want to remember, I'm told. I wouldn't know -- I have never let myself forget what happened. She was "raised" by him for 16 years, though, and not all of those memories were bad.
I guess I just needed to get this off of my chest to an impartial ear. I knew the Playground was always here, and even if this particular thread is never read, it did help to express things here.