Dezea
2014-05-16, 07:48 AM
Hey guy.
At first - As usual - let me apologize on the account on my poor english. (For I'm French, hrmmm)
So let me introduce the context : We'r a group of 5 buddies, all friend for quite some years already, and most of us had been roleplaying for quite some time too. One of us - Whom we'll call Bob - wanted to GM a Pathfinder scenari of his own as an introduction for two of our friend who were eager to discover what a RPG trully is.
One of them - Whom we'll call Mat - is really, really, really entouthiast. About one thing. One - Little - Fu..; - Thing. Shoping. And Shoping more. And arguing with the shopkeeper for 2 or 3 hour straight, given the opportunities.
Now, I mean, why not ? Having a beginner to get so involved is quite great. But It also get absolutely frustrating, looking at the fact that we are all pretty busy guy, with wife, kids and the pretty lack of "Free time" implied. And most of all, for anything unrelated to business, Mat is just "That guy". You know, that guy, that you can quite compare to a chair, exept that that chair is able to throw some dices, sometimes. He give absolutely no **** about what happends in fight, during important RP with an NPC or whatsoever. Quite frustrating, really.
So, obviously, when last session Mat started to argue for the sake of a piece of bread, we all sighed a bit but said nothing, after all, he's a friend, and if it's his way to have fun, why not. Moreover we were all coming back to town after a 4 session dungeon, and having some nitpicking with a Bartender was actually quite refreshing. But when he decided to go with all the money we made to get some stuff for the team, problem started to arise.
We were absolutely not in a mood to let him go into shopping frenzy for 3+ IRL times. And talking this out is quite impossible, as he is quite the "Don't you dare steal me my right to enjoy myself" type. So we tried to argue for 10 IRL minutes about the fact that this were quite selfish of him to steal our gaming session on shopping purpose. He answered that it was quite selfish of us to not let him have his fun after 4 booooooooring dungeon session. And that if his fun was to shop, it shouldn't be considered "less important" that monster killin', maiden savin' and village pillagin'.
Well. Why not. But to hasten things up, we asked for him to give back our share of the treasure (He convinced us in the first session of our play to let him handle the money - Wich is obviously a mistake looking at it from now, but seemed a good idea at the time, as it was quite appreaciable to see a beginner take responsabilities by himself) so we could buy our own stuff, and let him spend one hour on his on the sake of his fun - And to the GM despair, as he his growing quite tired to impersonnate arguing shopkeeper 90% of his gaming free time.
Exept that he said no.
Reasons being that :
- He his entitled the safety fund, he should also be entitled the responsabilities of using them
- Our share are too hard to divide, since some of us had more contribution that the other
- This is selfish and absurd, as a wizard doesn't need as much as a fighter, and as such we shouldn't split money, but ise it wisely together
- He is quite good at lowering the price, so if we let him do his bargaining, we would have much better price.
Obviously, all of this reasons screamed a big "LET ME HAVE MY FUN, GUY".
Now, we should maybe had let him get his way. After all we had 4 sessions of good ol' dungeoning fun, could have been fair to let him enjoy himself. Moreover even if clearly not the real reasons behind it, all of his arguments were true. And it's a really great IRL friend. But as you can guess, we really weren't ready for another "Watch your buddy play, while you sit and snort" sessions. So we asked the money another time. Then another time, exept with a kinda less friendly voice. Then the threat, and as a sad ending, the wizard using dominate person, getting the money, and telling him to just sit here while we would do the shopping.
Here I know, it was pretty stupid from us to not just take our share, leave him is, and go on our own shopping as we implied first. Mat were obviously absolutely mad of us, screamed quite a bit, and then, throw some big tantrum, packed his affairs and left.
So here is the thing : How would you guys have handled this, knowing that even with his horrible gaming habits this guy if your friend, you don't want to hurts his feeling too hard (Mission failed, obviously), and that talking this out friendly seems actually quite hard ?
Moreover, have you already encounter those type of gamer ? And have you found way to give them what they wanted without alienating the rest of the party ?
Thanks for the read !
At first - As usual - let me apologize on the account on my poor english. (For I'm French, hrmmm)
So let me introduce the context : We'r a group of 5 buddies, all friend for quite some years already, and most of us had been roleplaying for quite some time too. One of us - Whom we'll call Bob - wanted to GM a Pathfinder scenari of his own as an introduction for two of our friend who were eager to discover what a RPG trully is.
One of them - Whom we'll call Mat - is really, really, really entouthiast. About one thing. One - Little - Fu..; - Thing. Shoping. And Shoping more. And arguing with the shopkeeper for 2 or 3 hour straight, given the opportunities.
Now, I mean, why not ? Having a beginner to get so involved is quite great. But It also get absolutely frustrating, looking at the fact that we are all pretty busy guy, with wife, kids and the pretty lack of "Free time" implied. And most of all, for anything unrelated to business, Mat is just "That guy". You know, that guy, that you can quite compare to a chair, exept that that chair is able to throw some dices, sometimes. He give absolutely no **** about what happends in fight, during important RP with an NPC or whatsoever. Quite frustrating, really.
So, obviously, when last session Mat started to argue for the sake of a piece of bread, we all sighed a bit but said nothing, after all, he's a friend, and if it's his way to have fun, why not. Moreover we were all coming back to town after a 4 session dungeon, and having some nitpicking with a Bartender was actually quite refreshing. But when he decided to go with all the money we made to get some stuff for the team, problem started to arise.
We were absolutely not in a mood to let him go into shopping frenzy for 3+ IRL times. And talking this out is quite impossible, as he is quite the "Don't you dare steal me my right to enjoy myself" type. So we tried to argue for 10 IRL minutes about the fact that this were quite selfish of him to steal our gaming session on shopping purpose. He answered that it was quite selfish of us to not let him have his fun after 4 booooooooring dungeon session. And that if his fun was to shop, it shouldn't be considered "less important" that monster killin', maiden savin' and village pillagin'.
Well. Why not. But to hasten things up, we asked for him to give back our share of the treasure (He convinced us in the first session of our play to let him handle the money - Wich is obviously a mistake looking at it from now, but seemed a good idea at the time, as it was quite appreaciable to see a beginner take responsabilities by himself) so we could buy our own stuff, and let him spend one hour on his on the sake of his fun - And to the GM despair, as he his growing quite tired to impersonnate arguing shopkeeper 90% of his gaming free time.
Exept that he said no.
Reasons being that :
- He his entitled the safety fund, he should also be entitled the responsabilities of using them
- Our share are too hard to divide, since some of us had more contribution that the other
- This is selfish and absurd, as a wizard doesn't need as much as a fighter, and as such we shouldn't split money, but ise it wisely together
- He is quite good at lowering the price, so if we let him do his bargaining, we would have much better price.
Obviously, all of this reasons screamed a big "LET ME HAVE MY FUN, GUY".
Now, we should maybe had let him get his way. After all we had 4 sessions of good ol' dungeoning fun, could have been fair to let him enjoy himself. Moreover even if clearly not the real reasons behind it, all of his arguments were true. And it's a really great IRL friend. But as you can guess, we really weren't ready for another "Watch your buddy play, while you sit and snort" sessions. So we asked the money another time. Then another time, exept with a kinda less friendly voice. Then the threat, and as a sad ending, the wizard using dominate person, getting the money, and telling him to just sit here while we would do the shopping.
Here I know, it was pretty stupid from us to not just take our share, leave him is, and go on our own shopping as we implied first. Mat were obviously absolutely mad of us, screamed quite a bit, and then, throw some big tantrum, packed his affairs and left.
So here is the thing : How would you guys have handled this, knowing that even with his horrible gaming habits this guy if your friend, you don't want to hurts his feeling too hard (Mission failed, obviously), and that talking this out friendly seems actually quite hard ?
Moreover, have you already encounter those type of gamer ? And have you found way to give them what they wanted without alienating the rest of the party ?
Thanks for the read !