Jon_Dahl
2015-12-09, 10:29 AM
For the past four years, I studied during late evenings after work. I did all this to prepare myself for university and it was a very good idea. It worked marvellously and I got this general idea about various subjects and a solid studying rhythm.
There was just one problem: Him.
The guy at the back row... He never missed a chance to disrespect me, laugh at my mistakes, make some bad comments about my "stupid questions". All that for about 3 or 4 years. That was the only thing that bothered me.
Now, by a chance, I noticed his mug in Facebook! It was him alright! I wasted no time and I wrote him that I had suffered so much because of him, but I thanked him for making me a stronger person and that I was doing really great and continuing with my studies even though I had made such idiotic questions.
His reply surprised me completely.
He had never realized that he had bullied me. He didn't remember any of the stuff. I told me that he had been bullied a lot when he was a kid (pre-teen). He commented the offensive stuff that he had told me and he said that he always says immediately whatever comes to his mind, and it's not meant to offend anyone. He just can't help it. Then he wished me all the best in the future and I was completely confounded. I could've not been more surprised, just impossible.
What is the lesson of this story? I will leave that to you, but I feel vindicated, relieved but also a bit sad... for him. I just wanted to share this with you. Thank you!
There was just one problem: Him.
The guy at the back row... He never missed a chance to disrespect me, laugh at my mistakes, make some bad comments about my "stupid questions". All that for about 3 or 4 years. That was the only thing that bothered me.
Now, by a chance, I noticed his mug in Facebook! It was him alright! I wasted no time and I wrote him that I had suffered so much because of him, but I thanked him for making me a stronger person and that I was doing really great and continuing with my studies even though I had made such idiotic questions.
His reply surprised me completely.
He had never realized that he had bullied me. He didn't remember any of the stuff. I told me that he had been bullied a lot when he was a kid (pre-teen). He commented the offensive stuff that he had told me and he said that he always says immediately whatever comes to his mind, and it's not meant to offend anyone. He just can't help it. Then he wished me all the best in the future and I was completely confounded. I could've not been more surprised, just impossible.
What is the lesson of this story? I will leave that to you, but I feel vindicated, relieved but also a bit sad... for him. I just wanted to share this with you. Thank you!