Sajiri
2017-09-05, 08:07 PM
Stop making more games, that is :smalleek:
So I've mentioned on this forum quite a few times that I commonly do one player, one DM games (its just very hard to get a group together around here). It goes pretty well, we can be flexible on the times and days we play, can include a lot of plots and themes we might not otherwise use if we had more people, and can put a bigger emphasis on Roleplay. I'm usually the player, since I honestly just dislike DMing, but I do occasionally run games so my DM can have a turn to be the player.
But the problem is, my DM just keeps coming up with more and more games he wants to run. Currently we're at 7 (8 if you include the one we take turns DMing sessions for), and there's a few others he's tossed out as ideas he wants to run someday. We tend to play them anywhere from a couple days to a few months worth at once before we rotate to a different game for a while. The last several that he's started, I've been resistant to doing, but now he's planning for another game and I just really, really don't want to do it.
I think all of his settings are great, and I have a lot of fun with each game he runs, but it's honestly just starting to stress me out a lot with so many unfinished games. None of them have been abandoned (just on hiatus til we come back to them) but some of them have been quite a long time that they might as well have been abandoned. He pitched this new idea to me, and while it sounds fun, I was clear to him that I'd really rather we finish at least one of the existing ones before we start another. He just insists they'll get finished, but keeps on planning for this new one. I've tried to tell him gently that while I do think it's a fun idea and I'd like to do this new one someday, I am more interested in some of the games we already have going. He doesnt seem to grasp how much it stresses me out and that I dont really want to do it.
Unfortunately, as I've experienced in the past with another game idea he's come up with, if I just straight out tell him I dont want to do something, he takes great offense to it, and I dont want him to think I dislike his idea. If I show even a little bit of interest in it when he talks about it, he seems to think he's convinced me into it, but if I dont show enough interest, he gets offended or disappointed that I dont seem to like it. To make it worse, every time he comes up with a new game I feel obligated to have to come up with something new to DM for him (he's never said that I have to do that, its just how I personally feel, w hich adds to the stress).
It should be as simple as "I dont want to do this game right now, how about later?" but I cant seem to get that through to him without offending, or without him just going ahead and planning for it anyway when I'd rather just do one of the existing 7/8 games we already have. Anyone have any ideas on how to handle this?
So I've mentioned on this forum quite a few times that I commonly do one player, one DM games (its just very hard to get a group together around here). It goes pretty well, we can be flexible on the times and days we play, can include a lot of plots and themes we might not otherwise use if we had more people, and can put a bigger emphasis on Roleplay. I'm usually the player, since I honestly just dislike DMing, but I do occasionally run games so my DM can have a turn to be the player.
But the problem is, my DM just keeps coming up with more and more games he wants to run. Currently we're at 7 (8 if you include the one we take turns DMing sessions for), and there's a few others he's tossed out as ideas he wants to run someday. We tend to play them anywhere from a couple days to a few months worth at once before we rotate to a different game for a while. The last several that he's started, I've been resistant to doing, but now he's planning for another game and I just really, really don't want to do it.
I think all of his settings are great, and I have a lot of fun with each game he runs, but it's honestly just starting to stress me out a lot with so many unfinished games. None of them have been abandoned (just on hiatus til we come back to them) but some of them have been quite a long time that they might as well have been abandoned. He pitched this new idea to me, and while it sounds fun, I was clear to him that I'd really rather we finish at least one of the existing ones before we start another. He just insists they'll get finished, but keeps on planning for this new one. I've tried to tell him gently that while I do think it's a fun idea and I'd like to do this new one someday, I am more interested in some of the games we already have going. He doesnt seem to grasp how much it stresses me out and that I dont really want to do it.
Unfortunately, as I've experienced in the past with another game idea he's come up with, if I just straight out tell him I dont want to do something, he takes great offense to it, and I dont want him to think I dislike his idea. If I show even a little bit of interest in it when he talks about it, he seems to think he's convinced me into it, but if I dont show enough interest, he gets offended or disappointed that I dont seem to like it. To make it worse, every time he comes up with a new game I feel obligated to have to come up with something new to DM for him (he's never said that I have to do that, its just how I personally feel, w hich adds to the stress).
It should be as simple as "I dont want to do this game right now, how about later?" but I cant seem to get that through to him without offending, or without him just going ahead and planning for it anyway when I'd rather just do one of the existing 7/8 games we already have. Anyone have any ideas on how to handle this?