Kesnit
2018-07-15, 09:15 AM
PEOPLE INVOLVED
Me
Sylvia - My wife
Nathaniel - Jennifer fiance.
Jennifer - The "disinterested player"
Jac - Nathaniel and Jennifer's friend/roommate/live-in nanny.
Cynthia - Nathaniel's business partner
BACKGROUND
Sylvia and I have known the others for almost 2 years. We started off in a LARP N ran that was held at Cynthia's house. At that time, Nathaniel, Jennifer, and Jac (along with Nathaniel and Jennifer's now 3-year old son) lived 5 hours away from me, Sylvia, and Cynthia. Since then, Sylvia and I moved about 30 minutes away from them. After Nathaniel found a great workshop site (Nathaniel and Cynthia are professional crafters), Cynthia moved down as well.
We play at Nathaniel, Jennifer, and Jac's house ("E House"). Since Nathaniel and Cynthia are often out of town for shows on weekends during the spring, summer, and fall, we run multiple games. When Nathaniel is around, Jac runs a Pathfinder game. When he is out of town, we've cycled through a few different games. (I started a Changling the Lost game and a 5E game, but both only lasted 2 sessions. S ran a 3.5 adaptation of World's Largest Dungeon. S just started a Scion game.)
It can be crazy, with them fixing dinner, and dealing with the little one. (The kid is rather well behaved. Put him in his chair with cartoons and he is entertained for hours.) We are friends outside of game, so sometimes we get sidetracked talking about various things other than game. But when we actually sit down to game, we want to game. Or at least, most of us do... I am really not sure about Jennifer.
She builds characters she likes, and is involved in that process. She likes being at the table and having the story presented. But when it gets down to actually playing, she gets absorbed in playing on her phone. For example...
In the Scion game, Jennifer built "The Face." (I actually tweeked my character a little to remove much of the social stuff so she could have that role.) When we were given our first mission, Jac and I came up with a few ideas, one of which put Jennifer's character (and her very high socials) in a starring role. Jennifer, on the other hand, was on her phone and not involved in the planning. (Initial planning took up that game sessions, so we have not put anything into action yet.) Sylvia and I talked later, and are of the opinion that Jac and I will have to do much of the planning (even though Jennifer wants to be the party leader), and then just tell Jennifer what her character needs to do.
Last night in the Pathfinder game, Sylvia almost lost it with Jennifer. I will start by saying Sylvia and I were later getting to E House than normal because we had gone to an event about 2 hours away and didn't get back as early as we had planned. There was chatting about various things and dinner to be eaten (Sylvia and I had had a late lunch and planned to get dinner after game). All of this together, we started playing around 7. Since the last game ended with Cynthia and Jennifer's characters meeting the rest of us, there was some soft RP while everyone got acquainted. The first combat was about 8, which is also munchkin's bedtime. Jennifer went to put munchkin to bed, but then rather than come back to the table, stood in the doorway talking to Cynthia's husband, who had arrived about 7. (He's also a gamer, but is not in any of the games yet because he is still in the process of moving, so only comes down once a month.) When she did come back, we had to recap everything that had happened. After she took her turn, she pulled out her phone until her turn came around. Again, we had to recap everything that had been done since her last turn, since she was not paying attention. Combat ended before she took her third turn.
The party moved on, and Jac set up the next encounter. By this point, Sylvia and I are getting hungry (it was about 9:30). But since we were late getting started (partially through our fault), we didn't want to cut the evening short by leaving. Plus, the next encounter sounded like it would be really cool. (It was.) We RP-ed until we got to the point where combat was going to happen. Jennifer spent this time on her phone.
Combat starts. Jennifer is near the top of initiative, and knows she wants to cast Summon Nature's Ally. However, since she is playing a Druid variant that is dinosaur focused, she didn't know what she could summon at any spell level and needed to look it up. She told us to go on and let her look it up, then she would take her turn. We got through the rest of the round, and she still didn't know what she was doing. By this point, it's about 11:15. Cynthia's husband recommended recording where we were and stopping for the night.
Sylvia and I are getting really frustrated with Jennifer. It's clear she wants to be involved, but when it comes to being engaged in the game, she isn't. We don't want to quit gaming because Jac, Nathaniel, and Cynthia are good players. However, Jennifer seems to want to be the center of attention, but does not pay attention enough to really be the center of attention. This happens in every game, regardless of the system. Sylvia is close to confronting Jennifer and calling her out, but we don't think that would go over well with Jennifer.
Any ideas?
Me
Sylvia - My wife
Nathaniel - Jennifer fiance.
Jennifer - The "disinterested player"
Jac - Nathaniel and Jennifer's friend/roommate/live-in nanny.
Cynthia - Nathaniel's business partner
BACKGROUND
Sylvia and I have known the others for almost 2 years. We started off in a LARP N ran that was held at Cynthia's house. At that time, Nathaniel, Jennifer, and Jac (along with Nathaniel and Jennifer's now 3-year old son) lived 5 hours away from me, Sylvia, and Cynthia. Since then, Sylvia and I moved about 30 minutes away from them. After Nathaniel found a great workshop site (Nathaniel and Cynthia are professional crafters), Cynthia moved down as well.
We play at Nathaniel, Jennifer, and Jac's house ("E House"). Since Nathaniel and Cynthia are often out of town for shows on weekends during the spring, summer, and fall, we run multiple games. When Nathaniel is around, Jac runs a Pathfinder game. When he is out of town, we've cycled through a few different games. (I started a Changling the Lost game and a 5E game, but both only lasted 2 sessions. S ran a 3.5 adaptation of World's Largest Dungeon. S just started a Scion game.)
It can be crazy, with them fixing dinner, and dealing with the little one. (The kid is rather well behaved. Put him in his chair with cartoons and he is entertained for hours.) We are friends outside of game, so sometimes we get sidetracked talking about various things other than game. But when we actually sit down to game, we want to game. Or at least, most of us do... I am really not sure about Jennifer.
She builds characters she likes, and is involved in that process. She likes being at the table and having the story presented. But when it gets down to actually playing, she gets absorbed in playing on her phone. For example...
In the Scion game, Jennifer built "The Face." (I actually tweeked my character a little to remove much of the social stuff so she could have that role.) When we were given our first mission, Jac and I came up with a few ideas, one of which put Jennifer's character (and her very high socials) in a starring role. Jennifer, on the other hand, was on her phone and not involved in the planning. (Initial planning took up that game sessions, so we have not put anything into action yet.) Sylvia and I talked later, and are of the opinion that Jac and I will have to do much of the planning (even though Jennifer wants to be the party leader), and then just tell Jennifer what her character needs to do.
Last night in the Pathfinder game, Sylvia almost lost it with Jennifer. I will start by saying Sylvia and I were later getting to E House than normal because we had gone to an event about 2 hours away and didn't get back as early as we had planned. There was chatting about various things and dinner to be eaten (Sylvia and I had had a late lunch and planned to get dinner after game). All of this together, we started playing around 7. Since the last game ended with Cynthia and Jennifer's characters meeting the rest of us, there was some soft RP while everyone got acquainted. The first combat was about 8, which is also munchkin's bedtime. Jennifer went to put munchkin to bed, but then rather than come back to the table, stood in the doorway talking to Cynthia's husband, who had arrived about 7. (He's also a gamer, but is not in any of the games yet because he is still in the process of moving, so only comes down once a month.) When she did come back, we had to recap everything that had happened. After she took her turn, she pulled out her phone until her turn came around. Again, we had to recap everything that had been done since her last turn, since she was not paying attention. Combat ended before she took her third turn.
The party moved on, and Jac set up the next encounter. By this point, Sylvia and I are getting hungry (it was about 9:30). But since we were late getting started (partially through our fault), we didn't want to cut the evening short by leaving. Plus, the next encounter sounded like it would be really cool. (It was.) We RP-ed until we got to the point where combat was going to happen. Jennifer spent this time on her phone.
Combat starts. Jennifer is near the top of initiative, and knows she wants to cast Summon Nature's Ally. However, since she is playing a Druid variant that is dinosaur focused, she didn't know what she could summon at any spell level and needed to look it up. She told us to go on and let her look it up, then she would take her turn. We got through the rest of the round, and she still didn't know what she was doing. By this point, it's about 11:15. Cynthia's husband recommended recording where we were and stopping for the night.
Sylvia and I are getting really frustrated with Jennifer. It's clear she wants to be involved, but when it comes to being engaged in the game, she isn't. We don't want to quit gaming because Jac, Nathaniel, and Cynthia are good players. However, Jennifer seems to want to be the center of attention, but does not pay attention enough to really be the center of attention. This happens in every game, regardless of the system. Sylvia is close to confronting Jennifer and calling her out, but we don't think that would go over well with Jennifer.
Any ideas?