Lisselys
2021-03-12, 12:07 PM
Hello everybody!
I'm sorry if this sounds a lot like a rant, but I'm seriously in doubt about what to do and if, as the title says, I'm the A.
I'll try to be as honest as possible, and if you want more details I'll be happy to give them.
I've been playing a game online with my friends since last September. For those interested, it's a 5e D&D game. It's a pretty standard game, and although we had some discussions, pretty much everything was fine and everyone had fun.
I should make a disclaimer right now, to give you some kind of perspective: I'm a pretty loud and center-of-attention type, and right now I'm playing a bard. This would make you shiver, but trust me, it's not that bad.
My character thinks everything that happens around him is based on a story, and everything will follow story rules: BBEG, evil villains, plot twist, secondary quests, etc etc.
This does not mean in any way that he is stupid, just that he will try to justify everything that happens around him by saying that his party is the heroes party of this story, and we are going to save the world. I don't usually steal the scene from other players, and while I admit that sometimes I interfere with their actions (this is something we always did, and other players also sometimes did it to me) I never intentionally undermined their actions. This means that if they are monologuing I won't interfere, but 50% of the time I will be the one arguing with the BBEG instead of other players.
My rants usually go about boosting other characters' power, saying that they are the heroes and that everyone should look up to them etc etc. , but still.
The point is, I talk a lot. And it's pretty much fine at my table, no one ever complained too much (I asked) and I realize when I should shut up and just give other players their glory.
However, last 2 sessions something different happened. Another friend of ours joined our party. The introduction was pretty quick, since my character just assumed that since he is in a story and there was a single adventurer alone in a crowd, with no actual guidance, he should be our new party member (we lost an npc not long ago). (Yeah, I forced things a little, but it was for the sake of the group and everyone just went along with it, since it allowed us to play together faster)
His character is a Drow, and our first encounter went pretty well. We were outside a city that was overcrowding with refugees, and we basically helped them ease the crowd that was trying to get in.
All was good.
Last session, tho, while we were in the city, another character started giving food to the refugees, starting a small fight.
In an attempt to ease the crowd, I went in the middle of the plaza where refugees were camped and tried to give a little speech about being thankful to the city and the guards, and that the heroes will save them and give them their cities back.
I landed a nice roll, succeding, but then the new player started actively trying to sabotage me and pissing people off, by countering every argument of mine in order to sow chaos. Whatever I would say, he would just shift argument in order to piss more people off and getting them out at me.
I tried my best but still, we needed the intervention of the mayor of the city in order to calm the crowd, basically meaning that we failed to calm the city and we didn't achieve our goal of starting with a positive influence on the refugees.
Now, let me be clear, the entire group and I always had fun and poked each other in game, but actively undermining another character's action is a big no no for me, and no one ever did this to another player.
I understand that he is playing as a "chaotic" type of character, but still. I didn't wanna speak up about it and, after a while, I excused myself and went offline. I may be a little whiny about not having my cake and eating it too, but it seriously hurt me how he actively tried to antagonize me while, in theory, we are playing together.
Now, and this is why I feel I'm the A**, is that instead of talking to him I spoke to the DM about how I felt, and he disclosed to me that he actually allowed him to play a "douchy" type of character in order to spice things up. He felt pretty bad about his choice, and I feel like I put him in a rough spot.
Was it wrong to speak about it with my DM? How should I have handled this discussion?
Thank you very much for all your inputs!
I'm sorry if this sounds a lot like a rant, but I'm seriously in doubt about what to do and if, as the title says, I'm the A.
I'll try to be as honest as possible, and if you want more details I'll be happy to give them.
I've been playing a game online with my friends since last September. For those interested, it's a 5e D&D game. It's a pretty standard game, and although we had some discussions, pretty much everything was fine and everyone had fun.
I should make a disclaimer right now, to give you some kind of perspective: I'm a pretty loud and center-of-attention type, and right now I'm playing a bard. This would make you shiver, but trust me, it's not that bad.
My character thinks everything that happens around him is based on a story, and everything will follow story rules: BBEG, evil villains, plot twist, secondary quests, etc etc.
This does not mean in any way that he is stupid, just that he will try to justify everything that happens around him by saying that his party is the heroes party of this story, and we are going to save the world. I don't usually steal the scene from other players, and while I admit that sometimes I interfere with their actions (this is something we always did, and other players also sometimes did it to me) I never intentionally undermined their actions. This means that if they are monologuing I won't interfere, but 50% of the time I will be the one arguing with the BBEG instead of other players.
My rants usually go about boosting other characters' power, saying that they are the heroes and that everyone should look up to them etc etc. , but still.
The point is, I talk a lot. And it's pretty much fine at my table, no one ever complained too much (I asked) and I realize when I should shut up and just give other players their glory.
However, last 2 sessions something different happened. Another friend of ours joined our party. The introduction was pretty quick, since my character just assumed that since he is in a story and there was a single adventurer alone in a crowd, with no actual guidance, he should be our new party member (we lost an npc not long ago). (Yeah, I forced things a little, but it was for the sake of the group and everyone just went along with it, since it allowed us to play together faster)
His character is a Drow, and our first encounter went pretty well. We were outside a city that was overcrowding with refugees, and we basically helped them ease the crowd that was trying to get in.
All was good.
Last session, tho, while we were in the city, another character started giving food to the refugees, starting a small fight.
In an attempt to ease the crowd, I went in the middle of the plaza where refugees were camped and tried to give a little speech about being thankful to the city and the guards, and that the heroes will save them and give them their cities back.
I landed a nice roll, succeding, but then the new player started actively trying to sabotage me and pissing people off, by countering every argument of mine in order to sow chaos. Whatever I would say, he would just shift argument in order to piss more people off and getting them out at me.
I tried my best but still, we needed the intervention of the mayor of the city in order to calm the crowd, basically meaning that we failed to calm the city and we didn't achieve our goal of starting with a positive influence on the refugees.
Now, let me be clear, the entire group and I always had fun and poked each other in game, but actively undermining another character's action is a big no no for me, and no one ever did this to another player.
I understand that he is playing as a "chaotic" type of character, but still. I didn't wanna speak up about it and, after a while, I excused myself and went offline. I may be a little whiny about not having my cake and eating it too, but it seriously hurt me how he actively tried to antagonize me while, in theory, we are playing together.
Now, and this is why I feel I'm the A**, is that instead of talking to him I spoke to the DM about how I felt, and he disclosed to me that he actually allowed him to play a "douchy" type of character in order to spice things up. He felt pretty bad about his choice, and I feel like I put him in a rough spot.
Was it wrong to speak about it with my DM? How should I have handled this discussion?
Thank you very much for all your inputs!