Kesnit
2023-04-09, 04:49 PM
My wife and I have been playing in an oWoD mixing pot LARP for over 6 years. The game has been going on for a lot longer than that. It hasn't always been a barrel of monkeys, but it was fun most of the time.
Then last night happened...
The ST had sent out a message on the group text chain asking who would be at game. Since this is Easter weekend and we had family in town, we said we would not be able to make it. Another player, Maxwell, said it was his birthday and his family wanted to celebrate, so he, his brother, and his roommate would not be at game. A third player, Otto, originally said he would be there. Then he sent a text Saturday afternoon saying he didn't feel well, thought he may have COVID, and would not be at game. This is where the blow-up starts...
The Assistant ST sent a text in the chat to Otto telling him he could go to game and wear a mask. This would be fine, except Otto has almost no self-esteem or self-confidence and could easily read that comment as "why aren't you coming to game? You can just wear a mask for crying out loud!" Then Maxwell said his family told him to go to game, then later sent a message saying his youngest child said she wanted him to stay home, so he would not be at game.
The ST sent another text asking everyone to confirm whether they would be at game. Then he sent a rather passive-aggressive text berating Otto and Maxwell for going back and forth on whether they would be at game and that he is annoyed with people changing their minds.
Maxwell sent back a very angry text, pointing out that a game is a game and that family is important. Apparently he was already frustrated with the ST because he went on to say that he was completely done with game and that he and his group (brother and roommate) would not be going back to game - ever.
This morning, my wife sent a text saying she was upset with the AST telling Otto to just wear a mask since several players (including me and my mother-in-law) are at high risk if we got COVID (due to preexisting conditions) and it's poor form to encourage players to show up when they are sick. (My father-in-law died of COVID complications January 2022.) This led to a text exchange between the ST and my wife where the ST jumped on my wife for (in his words) telling other people what to do and pointing out she is not their mother. (Those are the polite phrases used.) He also interpreted my wife's comment that she wasn't coming back to game (which is not what she said, nor what she intended). My wife and the AST (who is a close friend) also had a private text exchange where the AST berated my wife. I did not see those text exchanges until they were over because I was doing an online training.
This afternoon, my wife and I went to the local coffee shop/bookstore so she could get out of the house and clear her head. When we left, I was not sure if I wanted to go back to LARP or not. (I mostly enjoy the game, but there have been things going on that have frustrated me.) By the time we got home, we'd mostly decided that we are done with this LARP and are thinking about reaching out to Maxwell to see if he (and his crew) would be interested in a tabletop game - system TBD.
Then last night happened...
The ST had sent out a message on the group text chain asking who would be at game. Since this is Easter weekend and we had family in town, we said we would not be able to make it. Another player, Maxwell, said it was his birthday and his family wanted to celebrate, so he, his brother, and his roommate would not be at game. A third player, Otto, originally said he would be there. Then he sent a text Saturday afternoon saying he didn't feel well, thought he may have COVID, and would not be at game. This is where the blow-up starts...
The Assistant ST sent a text in the chat to Otto telling him he could go to game and wear a mask. This would be fine, except Otto has almost no self-esteem or self-confidence and could easily read that comment as "why aren't you coming to game? You can just wear a mask for crying out loud!" Then Maxwell said his family told him to go to game, then later sent a message saying his youngest child said she wanted him to stay home, so he would not be at game.
The ST sent another text asking everyone to confirm whether they would be at game. Then he sent a rather passive-aggressive text berating Otto and Maxwell for going back and forth on whether they would be at game and that he is annoyed with people changing their minds.
Maxwell sent back a very angry text, pointing out that a game is a game and that family is important. Apparently he was already frustrated with the ST because he went on to say that he was completely done with game and that he and his group (brother and roommate) would not be going back to game - ever.
This morning, my wife sent a text saying she was upset with the AST telling Otto to just wear a mask since several players (including me and my mother-in-law) are at high risk if we got COVID (due to preexisting conditions) and it's poor form to encourage players to show up when they are sick. (My father-in-law died of COVID complications January 2022.) This led to a text exchange between the ST and my wife where the ST jumped on my wife for (in his words) telling other people what to do and pointing out she is not their mother. (Those are the polite phrases used.) He also interpreted my wife's comment that she wasn't coming back to game (which is not what she said, nor what she intended). My wife and the AST (who is a close friend) also had a private text exchange where the AST berated my wife. I did not see those text exchanges until they were over because I was doing an online training.
This afternoon, my wife and I went to the local coffee shop/bookstore so she could get out of the house and clear her head. When we left, I was not sure if I wanted to go back to LARP or not. (I mostly enjoy the game, but there have been things going on that have frustrated me.) By the time we got home, we'd mostly decided that we are done with this LARP and are thinking about reaching out to Maxwell to see if he (and his crew) would be interested in a tabletop game - system TBD.