The Arms & Equipment Guide has a huge list of day-to-day mundane and magical items to chose from. It's technically 3.0, but a lot of DM's ok it.
If you're looking for contraceptives, you could try the Book of Erotic Fantasy. They have stats on those and cosmetics.
Also check out Sandstorm, Stormwrack, and Complete Scoundrel for some other day-to-day survival stuff that may be of interest to you.