I can certainly sympathize with that feeling. I remember once I started as the Duke of Flanders in the earliest start date and after Charlemagne inherited his brother's kingdom. He gave me like 4 counties strewn across the map. It wasn't a huge amount, but it was enough to propel me into one of the most powerful dukes in the realm.
i do prefer games where I get challenged, because in my opinion...even with all the changes with Conclave. It is way too easy to snowball out of control. I feel a lot of it has to do with the idiocy of the AI outside of any kind of mechanical limitations.