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Thread: Drama at the Gaming Table
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2011-11-18, 09:42 PM (ISO 8601)
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Drama at the Gaming Table
Our group swaps out DM's every so often to give everyone a break from the hot seat. Two in our group have become embroiled in a spat. One is now refusing to play when the other DM's, and the other is refusing to participate at all (player or DM) if the first is going to be present. (Another player had already quit this DM's campaign, but that didn't seem to get this reaction from this DM). The reasons for the spat are many, but seem to boil down to each being greatly annoyed by the other's play (or DM) style. We other players are still friends of both of them (at least for now), even the one who quit this DM's game a while ago.
This causes a bit of a problem for whoever else is DMing. Do they:
- Let them sort out among themselves who is going to play and who isn't? (Perhaps resulting in both showing up and one leaving in a huff)
- Choose one over the other, and thereby make the loser disappointed
- Decide that they can either both show up, and play, or neither of them can show up, and if one of them does they can only watch
Or something else? Any input from others in groups that have "gone south" like this is appreciated.Last edited by Lord of Shadows; 2011-11-18 at 09:43 PM.
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2011-11-18, 09:56 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Drama at the Gaming Table
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2011-11-18, 10:00 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Drama at the Gaming Table
Yes, our next session is tomorrow, and thankfully it is with another group member DM-ing. It seems like it will be hard for him to not be put on the spot no matter who shows up or who plays. Unless the unthinkable happens and they have this all sorted out by then (this has been brewing for a few weeks).
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From the Tears of Blood GiTP Forums 2004-09: "20 million dead. Whatcha gonna do with 20 million dead? You can’t bury ‘em, no time or energy to dig the graves. You could chuck ‘em somewhere out of the way. Or you could burn ‘em. But, but what if those things angered someone, or put a bad curse on 'em? Maybe gettin’ rid of ‘em is better. Just a thought. Hey, you could help us!"
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2011-11-18, 10:29 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Drama at the Gaming Table
It's their problem. If they show up to GM 3's game and start causing some ****, that GM needs to tell them to take it elsewhere and handle it. Seems easy to me.
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2011-11-18, 10:33 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Drama at the Gaming Table
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2011-11-18, 10:53 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Drama at the Gaming Table
I will try to sum it up in the proverbial nutshell, though it will be glossy...
The player who refuses to attend this particular DM's sessions takes a long time on his turns, and sometimes messes up on rules. He also seems to like to play "complicated" characters, but then gets frustrated when he messes up. He has been like this as long as we have known him (several years in most cases).
He alleges that the DM has insulted him, to the point of calling him stupid (much of this has happened just between them, apparently in e-mails, texts, and phone calls). He says the DM ignores any arguement he puts forward, regardless of its merits. He can be a bit annoying at the gaming table, but no one else who DM's (including myself) have this much trouble with him. He announced in a posting on our message board that he was no longer going to play under that DM and some reasons why.
The DM in question is quite the opposite when it comes to both preparedness and rules. He expects the players to be ready when he comes to them in the rotation. As both a player and a DM he looks for loopholes and nooks and crannies in the rules that can be taken advantage of.
He claims that he can "no longer tolerate this player's ways" and basically says he just cannot stand to be around the player. Period. On a message board we are using, each DM has their own forum, and this DM just a few days ago deleted all of this players posts from "his" forum. He claims that since that player no longer participates in his campaign, nothing he says is relevant to it. There were ongoing discussions regarding strategy and options in the campaign that the player was contributing to, without any disruption.
That was the last straw for me, and why I am seeking advice here.
If we tell the DM to hit the road, there are one or two others who may follow, and the whole group could fall apart. Perhaps we need a "Time Out"
Also, there was a player who refused to participate in this DM's campaign a few weeks ago and that did not cause this level of conflict. But that player may have handled it differently, just bowing out instead of making a public posting announcing it.Last edited by Lord of Shadows; 2011-11-18 at 11:08 PM.
"Save your tears, my fetid friends, the dead have Wept enough!"
The Tears of Blood Campaign Setting Updated 15 Dec 2019
From the Tears of Blood GiTP Forums 2004-09: "20 million dead. Whatcha gonna do with 20 million dead? You can’t bury ‘em, no time or energy to dig the graves. You could chuck ‘em somewhere out of the way. Or you could burn ‘em. But, but what if those things angered someone, or put a bad curse on 'em? Maybe gettin’ rid of ‘em is better. Just a thought. Hey, you could help us!"
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2011-11-18, 11:17 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Drama at the Gaming Table
"Save your tears, my fetid friends, the dead have Wept enough!"
The Tears of Blood Campaign Setting Updated 15 Dec 2019
From the Tears of Blood GiTP Forums 2004-09: "20 million dead. Whatcha gonna do with 20 million dead? You can’t bury ‘em, no time or energy to dig the graves. You could chuck ‘em somewhere out of the way. Or you could burn ‘em. But, but what if those things angered someone, or put a bad curse on 'em? Maybe gettin’ rid of ‘em is better. Just a thought. Hey, you could help us!"
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2011-11-18, 11:27 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Drama at the Gaming Table
Aaaah I understand. One is a rules lawyer and the other is a story bore. This kind of disagreement is normal between these play styles as the two play types view their paradigms as the basis from which the game flows. The story bore views the rules as a way to translate and play the story and narrative. The rules fir them are the vehicle that moves the story, a mechanical necessity. The rules lawyer views the rules as the bounds of the game, the provider of goals, and the origin of reason for character action, what drives their abilities, and what is allowed. The story is a narrative structure that simple ties together the die roles.
I suggest alternating between complex board games foe the rules lawyer and Mage The Ascension for the story bore as reward and visa versa to teach lessons.I will be master of "pushy pull slidy nothingf@c$1ng stacks" also known as 4th edition.
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2011-11-18, 11:36 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Drama at the Gaming Table
Personally I think the rules lawyer is being the jerk here. He's the one I'd ditch.
Could they alternate participation? Let them each run a game on a bi-weekly basis. The rest of the party (minus the other GM of course) plays both games.If you like what I have to say, please check out my GMing Blog where I discuss writing and roleplaying in greater depth.
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2011-11-18, 11:58 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Drama at the Gaming Table
Oookay, the Rules Lawyer is acting like a jerk, but that doesn't mean he's the one that needs to be dropped. It does mean that he has antisocial tendencies so keep an eye on him for the future.
Presuming that you want to keep doing this rotating DM thing, you can just announce who is DMing for whatever given stretch of time. The aggrieved Player can sit out that week and come back later. That's the easy way to do it, if you all want to be friends.
Personally, I'd ditch the rotating DM seat -- if they're all running the same game. Far better to have each person DM their own game with their own Player list and, if time is an issue, rotate through the games over the course of a month. That way nobody has too much downtime, nobody's DM-toes are getting stepped on, and everyone can just simmer down.
Plus, if the Rules Lawyer finds out that nobody wants to play in his campaigns, he might decide to re-examine his style; perhaps ask the people who quit why they did so.
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2011-11-19, 12:01 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Drama at the Gaming Table
All that I say applies only to myself. You author your own actions and choices. I cannot and will not be responsible for you, nor are you for me, regardless of situation or circumstance.
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2011-11-19, 04:14 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Drama at the Gaming Table
Sorry, I kinda glossed over that part. Each DM does have their own campaign, we are not all doing the same thing.
Well, he has had two players (plus one player's girlfriend, who plays only part time anyway) all quit his Campaign and from the looks of it, more people quitting is causing a Berserker rage... I keep hoping that he will wise up and realize what effect this is having, and after this last outburst (deleting messages) there are more people questioning his ability to DM.
Good advice, thanks!"Save your tears, my fetid friends, the dead have Wept enough!"
The Tears of Blood Campaign Setting Updated 15 Dec 2019
From the Tears of Blood GiTP Forums 2004-09: "20 million dead. Whatcha gonna do with 20 million dead? You can’t bury ‘em, no time or energy to dig the graves. You could chuck ‘em somewhere out of the way. Or you could burn ‘em. But, but what if those things angered someone, or put a bad curse on 'em? Maybe gettin’ rid of ‘em is better. Just a thought. Hey, you could help us!"
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2011-11-19, 04:17 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Drama at the Gaming Table
Yes, that is kind of what we are doing now, although this latest incident just happened this week, and tonight is the first time we would be playing since then. The question bugging me (as one of the DM's in the rotation, thankfully not tonight) is how to not come across as the bad guy when one of them doesn't play and thinks (for whatever reason) that they were "screwed" by that DM.
Last edited by Lord of Shadows; 2011-11-19 at 04:28 PM.
"Save your tears, my fetid friends, the dead have Wept enough!"
The Tears of Blood Campaign Setting Updated 15 Dec 2019
From the Tears of Blood GiTP Forums 2004-09: "20 million dead. Whatcha gonna do with 20 million dead? You can’t bury ‘em, no time or energy to dig the graves. You could chuck ‘em somewhere out of the way. Or you could burn ‘em. But, but what if those things angered someone, or put a bad curse on 'em? Maybe gettin’ rid of ‘em is better. Just a thought. Hey, you could help us!"
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2011-11-19, 06:19 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Drama at the Gaming Table
Tell them to sort it out or their both out of the campaign. If they can't put things aside why should it interfere with your fun?
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2011-11-19, 09:01 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Drama at the Gaming Table
We are in session tonight with a different DM. The rules-lawyer did not show up, but the other player did. All is well, tonight..
"Save your tears, my fetid friends, the dead have Wept enough!"
The Tears of Blood Campaign Setting Updated 15 Dec 2019
From the Tears of Blood GiTP Forums 2004-09: "20 million dead. Whatcha gonna do with 20 million dead? You can’t bury ‘em, no time or energy to dig the graves. You could chuck ‘em somewhere out of the way. Or you could burn ‘em. But, but what if those things angered someone, or put a bad curse on 'em? Maybe gettin’ rid of ‘em is better. Just a thought. Hey, you could help us!"