LGBTAitP - Part 20: Critical Hit!

[noparlpf]

Hey, Kender, as the resident period expert, is there such a thing as a "safe day"?

[pffh]

I can see the strength of "hir" over the x or z versions, but does "hir" cover enough ground?

I've seen "hir" used as an object, in place of "him" and "her", but as the subject of a sentence, what takes the place of "he" or "she"?

So this came up in the "quick note" thread and I didn't find anything satisfactory with a quick googling so now I'm wondering if anyone here uses hir and if you do what do you prefer to use instead of she or he? Or is Hir just used instead of him, her, she and he?

[Kneenibble]

I feel even more driven to drink than usual after a crummy dating experience this week. I could use some gay Internet hugs.

[Nix Nihila]

I feel even more driven to drink than usual after a crummy dating experience this week. I could use some gay Internet hugs.

I've got plenty of internet hugs for you. And cuddles, chocolate, tea, and some photos of hot men looking quite fashionable, should you want any of them.

*commences with the hugging*

[Cobra_Ikari]

I feel even more driven to drink than usual after a crummy dating experience this week. I could use some gay Internet hugs.

*snuggles for Kneen*

Boo crummy dates.

[supernerd]

I feel even more driven to drink than usual after a crummy dating experience this week. I could use some gay Internet hugs.

The guy with whom I have affirmed a state of mutual attraction(it's complicated stuff involving parents) says that I act like a 7 on the Kinsley scale(which 6 is exclusively homosexual). Is that gay enough?
*hugs really tightly*

[Triscuitable]

I feel even more driven to drink than usual after a crummy dating experience this week. I could use some gay Internet hugs.

I'm afraid I must respectfully decline.

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Or at least, issues with contact.
Here's a digital hug instead.

*HUGGINGNESS*

[Kneenibble]

I've got plenty of internet hugs for you. And cuddles, chocolate, tea, and some photos of hot men looking quite fashionable, should you want any of them.

*commences with the hugging*

These things you offer are the highest medicines, mademoiselle. Thank you. *hugs*

*snuggles for Kneen*

Boo crummy dates.

Boo indeed.
Hello by the way, scarce but fine person.
*hugs*

The guy with whom I have affirmed a state of mutual attraction(it's complicated stuff involving parents) says that I act like a 7 on the Kinsley scale(which 6 is exclusively homosexual). Is that gay enough?
*hugs really tightly*

Too gay is not nearly gay enough, in my book!
*hugs*

I'm afraid I must respectfully decline.

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Or at least, issues with contact.
Here's a digital hug instead.

*HUGGINGNESS*

Heh.
I appreciate the spirit of hug at least. Thank you.


Urge to drink... falling.
not that I could it's a holyday and the stores are closed early, but never mind
lousy Louis Riel

[turkishproverb]

I feel even more driven to drink than usual after a crummy dating experience this week. I could use some gay Internet hugs.

*HUGS* sorry for the bad date. Hopefully it'll get better. *hugs*

*snuggles for Kneen*

Boo crummy dates.

Hi cobra! *hugs*

I'm afraid I must respectfully decline.

Spoiler

Show

Or at least, issues with contact.
Here's a digital hug instead.

*HUGGINGNESS*

...I think I know what that's from...

[Triscuitable]

...I think I know what that's from...

Good. It's a shame so few know of it. I'm not even a romantic, and I loved it!

[Cobra_Ikari]

Hi cobra! *hugs*

Hey, Turkish. =3 *snuggles*

EDIT: I know what it's from, and I've never cried so much in my life.

Also, possibly best/second best soundtrack ever.

[Serpentine]

Hey, Kender, as the resident period expert, is there such a thing as a "safe day"?

Seeing as no one's answered you yet...
There are peaks and troughs in female fertility. You're more likely to get pregnant on some days than others. However, using them as contraception is extremely tricky and unreliable at best, and completely useless at worst, and close enough to completely useless to make it an extremely bad idea to try on average.
Women may be completely infertile during their periods, but I honestly wouldn't be surprised if even that's not true.

[Arachu]

I feel even more driven to drink than usual after a crummy dating experience this week. I could use some gay Internet hugs.

Technically I qualify as a bi/lesbian... Still male-bodied, though. *hugs*

Oh, how tempted I am to draft up some blueprints for an electrolytic thingy... Like, in case I ever get parts that would actually work... [/sing-song]

[Kindablue]

Happy birthday, Soft Serve!

I feel even more driven to drink than usual after a crummy dating experience this week. I could use some gay Internet hugs.

That's no fun. *gay internet hug*

[Asta Kask]

I feel even more driven to drink than usual after a crummy dating experience this week. I could use some gay Internet hugs.

I'm straight. Can I hug you anyway?

[Deth Muncher]

Man, this is weird. I never thought I'd actually be posting here for "for me, for realsies" advice. But uh, here it goes.

So, I...hm. How to put this...okay. I am physically a man. I have a sexual and romantic preference for women, and not for men. I have no desire to lose my penis via surgery. And yet...I just don't really feel like a guy? If that makes sense? This is something I've been bouncing around in my head for a while, and I'm trying to figure out what this is. Personally, I find myself at odds with many gender conventions for guys - I'm just...kinda...neutral? Is that a thing? But before you say yes or no, I guess my main point here is I'm not sure if I'm actually [insert PC term for whatever that is] or if I'm just an "enlightened individual" - as in, I can look past gender conventions because I see them for what they are - societal constructs. Or maybe they aren't mutually exclusive?

I'm sorry, this whole post is just a big jumble, but that's where my head is at too and I'm afraid it's difficult to make any sense of things. If this sounds like anything that makes sense to any of you, I'd greatly enjoy your input.

EDIT:

Also,

I feel even more driven to drink than usual after a crummy dating experience this week. I could use some gay Internet hugs.

It's not a gay internet hug, but you can have one from me none the less. And a promise of precisely one drink, should you ever visit my locale.

[Arachu]

Man, this is weird. I never thought I'd actually be posting here for "for me, for realsies" advice. But uh, here it goes.

So, I...hm. How to put this...okay. I am physically a man. I have a sexual and romantic preference for women, and not for men. I have no desire to lose my penis via surgery. And yet...I just don't really feel like a guy? If that makes sense? This is something I've been bouncing around in my head for a while, and I'm trying to figure out what this is. Personally, I find myself at odds with many gender conventions for guys - I'm just...kinda...neutral? Is that a thing? But before you say yes or no, I guess my main point here is I'm not sure if I'm actually [insert PC term for whatever that is] or if I'm just an "enlightened individual" - as in, I can look past gender conventions because I see them for what they are - societal constructs. Or maybe they aren't mutually exclusive?

I'm sorry, this whole post is just a big jumble, but that's where my head is at too and I'm afraid it's difficult to make any sense of things. If this sounds like anything that makes sense to any of you, I'd greatly enjoy your input.

There are a couple of things that could be - agender (the total lack of a gender), genderqueer (having both masculine and feminine aspects), androgyne (somewhere... Between genders? Need to learn more about that one)... There's a list of terms on the first page of every thread (it's quite useful).

Technically you wouldn't "lose" your penis through SRS (Sexual Reassignment Surgery) so much as you would have it reconfigured into another shape. Preferring one set of genitals over the other doesn't define gender so much, though (which may or may not prove convenient to me if/when I ever decide how I feel about mine... :/).

In any case, *hugs* - I hope you figure it out eventually.

[Asta Kask]

Deth Muncher, see if you can find something here:

[Triscuitable]

Man, this is weird. I never thought I'd actually be posting here for "for me, for realsies" advice. But uh, here it goes.

So, I...hm. How to put this...okay. I am physically a man. I have a sexual and romantic preference for women, and not for men. I have no desire to lose my penis via surgery. And yet...I just don't really feel like a guy? If that makes sense? This is something I've been bouncing around in my head for a while, and I'm trying to figure out what this is. Personally, I find myself at odds with many gender conventions for guys - I'm just...kinda...neutral? Is that a thing? But before you say yes or no, I guess my main point here is I'm not sure if I'm actually [insert PC term for whatever that is] or if I'm just an "enlightened individual" - as in, I can look past gender conventions because I see them for what they are - societal constructs. Or maybe they aren't mutually exclusive?

I've always felt like that. Gender neutral. I honestly wouldn't care if I had gender reassignment, but then again, that's not cheap. I'll stick with what I have because that's how the cards were drawn.

... That's an excellent metaphor. I'll have to save that.

[The Succubus]

Seeing as no one's answered you yet...
There are peaks and troughs in female fertility. You're more likely to get pregnant on some days than others. However, using them as contraception is extremely tricky and unreliable at best, and completely useless at worst, and close enough to completely useless to make it an extremely bad idea to try on average.
Women may be completely infertile during their periods, but I honestly wouldn't be surprised if even that's not true.

Its partly down to this but also due to the fact that sperm cells can survive for up to a week after leaving the male. As Serpy said, its not a good idea.

[KenderWizard]

I feel even more driven to drink than usual after a crummy dating experience this week. I could use some gay Internet hugs.

*hugs*

Hey, Kender, as the resident period expert, is there such a thing as a "safe day"?

Seeing as no one's answered you yet...
There are peaks and troughs in female fertility. You're more likely to get pregnant on some days than others. However, using them as contraception is extremely tricky and unreliable at best, and completely useless at worst, and close enough to completely useless to make it an extremely bad idea to try on average.
Women may be completely infertile during their periods, but I honestly wouldn't be surprised if even that's not true.

Sorry; I was asleep!

As Serps said, there's a cycle of fertility. Trying to not make babies by only having sex during the less fertile parts is called the "rhythm method", here at least, and is way popular among strict Catholics and presumably other groups who don't go in for contraception. But it's not very effective, is never completely "safe", and the only way to do it properly at all is to constantly monitor your temperature, bodily fluids, periods, etc, which most people don't bother with. Like Succubus said, the sperm can last quite a long time as well. In theory, the "safest" time is right before the period. But obviously if you go too soon, the egg might still be viable and if you go too late, the sperm might last until the new egg is released.

So no, not really, is the answer!

[Mono Vertigo]

Aaaand today, I learnt!
Thanks for the small lesson on fertility, guys.

[Heliomance]

Currently doing something simultaneously exhilarating and terrifying. For the first time ever (discounting crossdressing themed parties) I'm out in public en femme. I know I don't look male at first glance, and I havent noticed many -or indeed any - double takes, so I can't help but think I might actually be passing!

[turkishproverb]

Aaaand today, I learnt!
Thanks for the small lesson on fertility, guys.

And now you know.

[Mono Vertigo]

Currently doing something simultaneously exhilarating and terrifying. For the first time ever (discounting crossdressing themed parties) I'm out in public en femme. I know I don't look male at first glance, and I havent noticed many -or indeed any - double takes, so I can't help but think I might actually be passing!

Go you!
You're pretty, and I believe it's going to go well.

[Asta Kask]

Currently doing something simultaneously exhilarating and terrifying. For the first time ever (discounting crossdressing themed parties) I'm out in public en femme. I know I don't look male at first glance, and I havent noticed many -or indeed any - double takes, so I can't help but think I might actually be passing!

Big step. Here's hoping everything goes well.

[Heliomance]

Current confused stare count: 1.

I have bumped into several people I know, though, and they all recognised me. Wonder what they thought?

[Asta Kask]

As long as that's the worst that happened, I'd count it as a win. I've heard stories of brutal beatings and even murder...

[Heliomance]

Aye, though I imagine that's unlikely walking around university campus during the day.

[Asta Kask]

Read the new blog post about coming out here.