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2007-07-25, 09:10 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes And Advice, Part Two
Oh, heck yeah. I mean, I wouldn't go there, but I can definitely see the appeal.
Remind me to tell all my women friends that you don't believe in them. I think they'll find that amusing. Or did you just phrase that badly, and were only talking about your own relationships?
Because, yeah, I know some guys who are never friends with women except in that they want in their pants, which is basically what it sounds like you're talking about, here.
Far from the truth, I don't hit on every woman I meet and I'm not a cold blooded SOB who approaches women compulsively just to "get into their pants". I'm just honestly explaining how I find that attraction plays a very important role in my relations with women. And besides I really get along better with women. Not flirting all the time, mind you
That's no standard at all. That would include all my friends, male, female, pets, abtract art, gravity, whatever. I have female friends to whom I have no sexual attraction. And, for that matter, I have female friends to whom I'm very sexually attracted. And you know what? They're good, true, valued, cherished friends, and that has little or nothing to do with sex.
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2007-07-25, 09:44 PM (ISO 8601)
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2007-07-25, 09:51 PM (ISO 8601)
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I would just try my best to avoid them, while not being unpolite. Say hi if you must but then wander away purposefully, even if it is just to the restroom to check your eye make up, you know, just in case. ;) If you can't hold your alcohol, I would suggest not drinking. If you can, I still suggest not drinking. I've found tense situations only get tenser when drinking is involved.
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2007-07-25, 10:10 PM (ISO 8601)
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Good plan. I can hold quite a bit of alcohol, which is my problem. I shall avoid it.
*sigh* in all honesty I'm more worried about what my friend Meagan will do than I. She's like me, except about 80 times more evil. That and she has this tendancy to be mean and up-front for me because I have a tendancy to avoid conflict like the plauge.
Ah well no matter what happens I'll do my best to be nice. Thanks guys
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2007-07-25, 10:10 PM (ISO 8601)
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Sure...Alcohol seems to be a mood intensifier...not much more IMHO.
For Puppi, I'd say obviously go, but be careful and try to avoid uncomfortable situations. Without hiding or generally having to devote too much energy or thought to someone you don't like. Just enjoy the day, I'm sure you can handle it all.
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If you think it could make the situation get out of your hands yes.
*sigh* in all honesty I'm more worried about what my friend Meagan will do than I. She's like me, except about 80 times more evil. That and she has this tendancy to be mean and up-front for me because I have a tendancy to avoid conflict like the plauge.
PS- I know it's not happening for a while, but I'll post pics and such whenever the wedding's done =P. No matter what I think it's going to be a heck of a time.Last edited by FdL; 2007-07-25 at 10:13 PM.
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2007-07-25, 10:24 PM (ISO 8601)
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I used to have a lot of female friends, but now that I have a serious girlfriend, I realize that they weren't so much friends but semi-regular hookups or girls I strung along during more exclusive relationships.
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2007-07-25, 10:28 PM (ISO 8601)
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2007-07-25, 10:31 PM (ISO 8601)
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I went to a wedding last August and say friends I hadn't seen in 5 years... it was nice, thought life there seemed almost dystopian from what I remember. A lot of my friends are getting married, and most of them can't even drink yet...
Anyway enjoy it.
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2007-07-25, 11:03 PM (ISO 8601)
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Advice time, well things are going great with the girl I like, we've been watching movies, baking, playing guitar hero, and talking alot. However, it's all been done at my house. I wasn't sure weather or not to ask if she wants to hang out at barnes and noble or something. I also still can't tell if there is any trace of attraction for me.
Oh, and remember I'm 14ish.Last edited by zeratul; 2007-07-25 at 11:10 PM.
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2007-07-25, 11:05 PM (ISO 8601)
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Some of this guy's blog topics are frickin' hilarious, but this one is probably some of the best advice you can get.
http://blogs.smh.com.au/lifestyle/al...ry_best_p.html
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2007-07-25, 11:25 PM (ISO 8601)
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Oh, so you would invite me if I was less random? Nice ^^
(hmmm...I'm starting to sound like D'anna Biers)
As usual, you guys all have excellent advice.
What do people do at a Barnes & Noble??? Get some coffee, shop around?
Well that's ok, but my advice is don't do anything that you don't usually do...
Unless it's a date. Or a "date". There it's important to make a difference I guess. Because it's a different situation.
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2007-07-25, 11:31 PM (ISO 8601)
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I tend to hang out at barnes and noble, they let you read stuff in the cafe at the one I go to.
Also, I'm not really sure weather they are dates or not. They've been called dates by others. But I and her have never dicussed the nature of these get togethers.Last edited by zeratul; 2007-07-25 at 11:35 PM.
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2007-07-25, 11:36 PM (ISO 8601)
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Cool then, do that. Invite her to hang out with you there.
(Excuse me for my ignorance, we don't have those kind of places around here. :p)
Edit: They are "dates" then ;)
I knew this was the case. Been there.
Well, I guess it's ok to begin with. Eventually you'll see if it evolves into a situation where you feel comfortable enough to tell her that you like her. But don't stress yourself, have fun.Last edited by FdL; 2007-07-25 at 11:42 PM. Reason: more polite version
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2007-07-25, 11:46 PM (ISO 8601)
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2007-07-26, 02:41 AM (ISO 8601)
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I think you've got the right idea, here. It's a very special day for someone who is neither of you. Don't start anything, and don't encourage anything starting, and if something does start take the high road no matter what. A wedding is not a long period of time.
Yeah, I figured that might be the case, but what you wrote was "men and women".
I am not good at mincing words. The logic, however, still stands, as I will explain:
This doesn't add up very well with your statement that you don't believe in friendship between yourself and women. If you get along better with them and aren't trying to get into their pants, then how can you say you don't believe in friendship? One of those has to give. Either you can be friends with them, or you're always trying to get into their pants, or there's some other reason being sexually attracted to them means you can't be friends that you simply haven't gotten across yet.
So, when you said you can't be friends with women due to attraction, my natural conclusion was a variant on the usual case as illustrated by Tor the Fallen:...And therefore is not exclusive to women. You can't use "liking" in the general sense to explain why you believe in being friends with other men but not women, because you can "like" in the general sense either. The distinction must, by plain definition, be sexual.
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2007-07-26, 03:14 AM (ISO 8601)
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I may be way off base here, but in my experience her agreeing to spend time with you after you confess an attraction (and she doesn't clarify otherwise immediately) generally means that it's returned on some level. At the worst, she doesn't see you the same way but seems to like hanging out with you and that can't be a bad thing, right?
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2007-07-26, 04:14 AM (ISO 8601)
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Dammit, Zeb, you got there first. Yeah, zeratul - what he^ said. At the very least, you've got a friend who appreciates you telling her the truth.
Fdl - pretty much what everyone else said (why do I always get here after almost everyone else on this thread has posted?!) Have a good time, and avoid the object of displeasure, except maybe a polite 'hello' if a meeting is inevitable.
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2007-07-26, 07:52 AM (ISO 8601)
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I don't know if until Friday would be long enough. Personally, I would give it a couple of weeks. If he really is thinking that you are hiding things from him, a couple of days with no contact might be interpreted by him as you hiding something from him. It might need to be longer for him to clue in to the fact that you just don't want contact with him.
Oh well, time to reevaluate, figure out the warning signs that come with this breed of Jerk, and avoid the subspecies in the future.MudBunny
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2007-07-26, 07:58 AM (ISO 8601)
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Go to the wedding anyways. If you don't go, you are letting this person control your life. However, once at the wedding, ignore her. She does not exist. Don't drink, as that path can only lead to trouble in this situation.
Remember, you are there to support your friends on their journey into a new stage in their relationship, not to re-hash old problems with this woman.MudBunny
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2007-07-26, 09:06 AM (ISO 8601)
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2007-07-26, 01:00 PM (ISO 8601)
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2007-07-26, 01:12 PM (ISO 8601)
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Eh, I decided to say "whatever" and just let myself be visible. He didn't end up IMing me until late last night (I'd say around 10ish), and I was studying so I told him that. Afterwards we talked for a little bit. It went ok. I'm still on guard, though, because last time there was a day inbetween our two fights. If he tries it again tonight, I'm telling him we can argue to his hearts content on Friday, but I have a test to study for. If he has decided to drop it, then that's ok. --' I hoping he has just dropped it. I'm still going to be wary in our conversations and such for a while, though.
My mom and I talked about it and agreed if he can drop it, then allow the friendship to continue, but if it even starts to happen to let him know friendship isn't going to work. Now let us hope that tempers can be kept in check.
Zeratul, if she knew before you guys started hanging out, she probably likes you, too. But why not ask? Worst that happens is she doesn't like you romantically but does as a friend. And in that case, you've gained a friend. :)
Cheers,
SykaShow me how pretty the world is
'Cause I envy the way that you move
Show me how pretty the world is
'Cause I want something a little bit louder
Show me how pretty the world is
'Cause you're brilliant when you try
Show me how pretty the whole world is tonight
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2007-07-26, 06:19 PM (ISO 8601)
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That's horrible. I just want you to know how horribly sexist that is, and remind you that you are talking about just over 50% of the worlds population. Most people are not that horrible, so what do you have against my gender? We aren't all the same, and women have a reputation for being b***** as well. I ask that you refrain from that sort of sexist comment in future.
yours sincerely
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2007-07-26, 06:25 PM (ISO 8601)
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Oooooo kay. Let's all please get off this topic. It's been beat to death, everything that can be said has been said thrice, and I'm kinda scared this could possibly lead to thread lockage.
Moving on, nothing to see. *moves everyone away from the police tape*
Cheers,
SykaShow me how pretty the world is
'Cause I envy the way that you move
Show me how pretty the world is
'Cause I want something a little bit louder
Show me how pretty the world is
'Cause you're brilliant when you try
Show me how pretty the whole world is tonight
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2007-07-26, 06:54 PM (ISO 8601)
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Seriously, there are people who actually find the thread usefull. It's not here for flaming, trolling, or anything like that. So stop doing all of the above, we don't want it locked!
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2007-07-26, 10:42 PM (ISO 8601)
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I'm trying to remember who it was, but someone on these threads a while back (I think), mentioned that they used to use creatine (a dietary supplement to build muscle) and they found themselves more irritable while using it. I was wondering who it was. Because he apologized again tonight, and jokingly made a reference that his brother and he had discussed it and attributed it to roid rage in the form of creatine since he'd had more than the recommend dosage (he did clarify it with, he wasn't blaming it on that, just joking). Until I said I'd heard that it can cause mood issues. He was surprised.
Except it took me googling, "emotional side effects of creatine" to get even anecdotal evidence, and it was only on one page. *shakes head* This is why I don't put stuff in my body that I don't know what it will do. I'm probably going to bring it up again at some point in the future, if only to ask that he not take more than the recommended dose.
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SykaShow me how pretty the world is
'Cause I envy the way that you move
Show me how pretty the world is
'Cause I want something a little bit louder
Show me how pretty the world is
'Cause you're brilliant when you try
Show me how pretty the whole world is tonight
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2007-07-26, 11:06 PM (ISO 8601)
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RE: Creatine
That was me, Syka. I didn't read anything that said it could do that, but all the evidence suggests to me that creatine was the problem. I also want to make sure that I'm clear that I also know several people who use it with no problems whatsoever so I wouldn't declare it a bad product, just a bad product for me, and possibly for your friend also.Want to meet some of the most awesome people on the internet? Come to the Baltimore/DC Area RenFest Meetup 2012!
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2007-07-26, 11:48 PM (ISO 8601)
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Nah.
Tor recommends you crush your enemy publically, and the wedding is precisely the place where you can get away with this.
Now, it may be counter-intutive; it's supposed to be a perfect day and all. For the bride. After your morph into a boozehounding-expletive spewing-bitchslapping-hair pulling-chair throwing destructosaurus and consequent rampage, you have some very convienent excuses.
1. You're a woman, sometimes your emotions get the better than you.
2. It was a wedding, your womanly emotions were running high.
3. School and the break up has your womanly emotions all stressed out.
It's win-win. You get drunk AND smash some dumb bitch AND don't get in trouble, AND probably hook up.
I say go for it. You've got nothing to lose, but a lot to gain. If you're lucky, you'll never have to attend a wedding again (except maybe your own), and thus avoid these sticky social situations all together.
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2007-07-27, 12:17 AM (ISO 8601)
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Oh. Just realized, HellPuppi. You nemesis is a "she", not a guy. Sorry, I work the forums late.
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2007-07-27, 01:09 AM (ISO 8601)
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S'arright FdL, You took the time to read my bitching and I'm never precisely clear when it comes to my wording.
And Tor, destroying a wedding...that ALMOST sounds fun enough to be worth it...'destructosaurus' hehehe....
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