Relationship Woes And Advice, Part Two (Read First Post)

[Rex Idiotarum]

Nonsense, that's what the Book of Erotic Fantasy was made for.((Actual Book, Good read, fair pictures))

[Hell Puppi]

I don't think there was a boob goddess, though....

Heh blessings include a bigger rack, or a bigger rack on your S.O.


Edit: I feel like I'm in High school again. I'm giggling about boobs.

[Rex Idiotarum]

Create Holy Milk?

[Tor the Fallen]

Somehow I imagine a kahli-like deity, but with a ginormous rack, shirtless. The boob goddess. If you anger her she curses you with sagginess.

I fear I have started something...but the thought of a dnd game with the Boob Goddess is something too funny to not think of

One thing that I've never really cared for in D&D, and most fantasy, is how virtually every character is pulled from a model decorating Maxim or GQ. I mean, when was the last time you saw a bitch like this in fantasy?

Or for that matter, an overweight, balding, middle aged man with a slight slouch who also happened to be a brutal assassin/criminal lord? Just about every picture ever published has more sixpacks than a fratparty.

[Hell Puppi]

Indeed...well it's a problem with a lot of things nowadays, I suppose. In the actual books it doesn't give you much leeway, but I guess that's where you have to be creative and not get too bogged down in the 'everyone is a freaking supermodel' while actually playing.
I mean seriously, most chick armor? It's like a metal bra.
The only ugly people are orcs. Sort of. I'm sure someone has played a pretty orc.
Er wow that's a whole 'nother tangent. Someone get us back on track?

[Rex Idiotarum]

Relationships... Over the past two weeks, I remembered why I loved her so much, and still do. Fun times, almost too fun. It's a drag when her parents won't even let you say goodbye one last time, then you have to go behind their backs to do it. O! Well, it was fun while it lasted...

[Serpentine]

Why didn't they want you to say goodbuy? Seems odd.

[Syka]

Wow, I'm impressed.

Have all relationship woes been solved or is everything going underground? Either way, I hope everyone is doing well!

Cheers,
Syka

[Jibar]

Oh, all these problems haven't been solved yet. There's just a momentary lull while summer makes you all feisty, frisky and happy.

@V Hey, no need for those eyebrows. I don't wanna encorouge them. I've just had my mating season, it's you human's turn to have your disgusting mating habits.

[Vampiric]

@^ for a sentence like that, you should've used an emoticon that my bro likes to use on msn - the 'suggestive' eyebrows - going up and down, except these look like giant caterpillars...

[FdL]

Wow, I'm impressed.

Have all relationship woes been solved or is everything going underground? Either way, I hope everyone is doing well!

Nah, it's all underground. :p

Actually, I've been wanting to ask a girl out...She's really cool. But I think I haven't managed the situation very well so far (an understatement). You know, she has a friend, on whose party I met her (let's call her MR). Then I asked about her to her friend, who had invited me to the party because I know her from university since day one...
Well, I think i screwed it up because the friend knows I like MR, and MR does too, but somehow I ended up telling MR I wanted to ask the other girl out :S
It got a little tangled up, but the thing is MR is the one I like and I'd want to go out with... :S

I should do it straight away, but I'm too blunt with these things and I don't know if the situation is beyond repair (although MR kinda knows I like her and she's told me recently she's looking for someone).

*sigh* I'm definitely no good at this. Why do I complicate things so much? I should call it quits :p Anyway, don't pay much attention to my confused mind streaming through the keyboard.

[magicwalker]

@FdL: Sounds like you are making things difficult for yourself. You want to be with girl. Girl wants to be with you. Be together.

Of course, that might be an oversimplification.. but the advice remains. You want something, go get it.

Your timing seems to be pretty good, too.

[Syka]

Yah, I'd just ask MR out. Coffee, some such. That way you can maybe segue it into a "date" or some such.

If she already knows she likes you, than you probably have a good chance. Even with the confusion.

Cheers,
Syka

[Zeb The Troll]

Yeah, I'd agree with that sentiment. It seems that if someone who knows you are interested in her mentions that she's looking for someone, that would be a pretty clear opportunity to offer to be that someone. Or at least explore the possibility. Good luck!

[Dragonrider]

Yeah...

and COMMUNICATE. It's ALL about communication.

[Yiel]

Yeah...

and COMMUNICATE. It's ALL about communication.

Someone please drill this information into my partner's brain.

[Hoggy]

I'd happily do that for you right now.

Oh wait, not literally... Dayum.

/rethink

[Dragonrider]

Someone please drill this information into my partner's brain.

For a lot of people (myself included) it's definitely not as easy as it sounds (and I'm not saying it sounds easy). I don't think I volunteered one scrap of information about my emotions to anyone until...last month? that was when my mom and I really started getting close and I actually felt I could tell her things about myself. And this is my own mother, who gave birth to me sixteen years ago and probably knows me better than anyone else.

No, relationships are not easy for me. But I really do work. And I guess that's the important thing.

[Sir_Norbert]

No, relationships are not easy for me. But I really do work. And I guess that's the important thing.

It should be, if you have a partner who's patient enough to recognise that you're working :)

[Thrawn183]

Yeah, it really is the thought that counts.

I'm currently in the, "What part of, 'Can I take you out to dinner Friday evening?' does not come across as a date!?" I really don't want to have to break out the "And this is a date" brick over the phone because it isn't very suave or chic, but sometimes desperate times call for desperate measures. [/minirant]

[Zeb The Troll]

Yeah, it really is the thought that counts.

I'm currently in the, "What part of, 'Can I take you out to dinner Friday evening?' does not come across as a date!?" I really don't want to have to break out the "And this is a date" brick over the phone because it isn't very suave or chic, but sometimes desperate times call for desperate measures. [/minirant]

Someone misinterpreted that?

[Cyrano]

Obviously someone very desperately looking for a free dinner.
Ain't happenin', people.

[FdL]

Well, the original quote from MR was when she was showing me some photos of a party, when I asked if that was the guy she was dating she replied (translated ):

"He's not my boyfriend. And I don't think he'll (ever) be. So I'll have to look for another one, hehehe"

This was nice to hear...But well, I had semi-told her that I'd like to go for a cup of cofee with her and she had replied back then that she was seeing someone. Which could again be one of those polite excuses girls give to me.

*logs to MSN to se if she's on*

And well, she probably knows I like her because the other girl, which is her best friend must have told her (I wasn't really subtle, she showed me some photos of the two and I asked her to send them to me and she did, cyber-giggling). But as to my actual conversations with MR, I don't know if she just takes compliments politely or if she's really flattered when I tell them. I guess I'll try to be a little more direct.

So really, magicwalker, don't know if she wants to be with me. I'm not totally sure if I can be with someone right now, but it would be good I think. It just feels natural to talk to her and everything...She always tells me she finds our conversations interesting, though I'm the one who talks most. And she says I'm "funny" :)

Thrawn183, I laughed at your comment, because it's like that. Sometimes I feel the need to make it explicit that it's a date, because if not sometimes girls think we're going out as friends :(. It has happened recently, and then it's difficult to deal with. So I try to humorously include the expression "you and me" into the invitation. It cracks them up, I tell you

Syka, hey there, new avvie! ^^ Thanks for the advice, thanks to all.

[Zeb The Troll]

FdL, this sounds like it might have been a timing issue. As with so many others, it sounds like the worst case scenario is that you go out and have a good time and you end up being friends. Never a bad thing.

[Syka]

Just wait for the signature change. ;) This mind screw brought to you by Mistaken Identity Week.

As for making it explicitly a date, I feel ya. Guy-I-Broke-Up-With asked me to dinner for this Saturday. I told him I'd get back to him. Then, yesterday, I asked if it was as a date type thing or just friends (cause I'm willing to date, but we need to get some things cleared up, or if it's as friends I really can't afford the place he wants to go to). His response was, I don't know. I then realized today, as with other occasions where he has asked me a head of time to go to dinner, it might be with his parents, which I'm totally cool with as I love them to death. So, I'm going to tell him if the invite is still open, I should be able to go, but I'm going to talk with him afterwards. Get it hammered out.

My mom said didn't I feel like maybe I wasn't taking pride in myself and I explained it like this: The way I see it, he's trying and thinking he can maintain the fuzzy casual dating situation with me. So I'm going to be making it clear that it either needs to be exclusive or just friends, no in between.

:)


So thrawn, I feel ya buddy. But sometimes we are just in a place where we want to convince ourselves it's not a date. Literally, the first....month and a half that I was with this guy, I kept telling people we weren't dating. >>' For a month of that we were hanging out every night.

Cheers,
Syka

[FdL]

She's online, chatting with her right now. I'm going to fire the cannons (meaning, I'm probably shyly going to ask her out for some coffee, I don't want to scare her like I usually do with girls). Stay tuned.

Edit: This is crush-cam, the new reality show. Will our intrepid contestant succeed or have his hopes crushed in front of the worldwide audience? The thrills! :p

[Thrawn183]

She somehow didn't realize that it was meant as a date. I just don't know how much more blunt you can be without hitting somebody upside the head with the phone.

Fortunately, the planning was a little rocky, so nothing's happened yet: which means we avoided the situation of me informing her I thought it was a date after we were already there... that can just be ugly.

Since I have finals this week and then fly out to Alaska till the start of next semester I'll probably just put off dealing with it till then, because there's nothing I can realistically do in the meantime.

[FdL]

Crush-cam update:

Bombed :(

The conversation was going well (I need to create a friendly atmosphere before making the move), but before I could do my thing she mentions she's seeing someone. The guy she talked about, apparently it's still on. She even showed me a pic :S

Then I still told her I was planning on asking her out. She took it well, meh... :S Crap...This always happens to me...I hate it when they "my boyfriend" me out of the blue.

I need a random hug. Just a little hug and I'll be back to my usual manageable level of depression :p

But I'm not giving up yet...I'll retire slightly to plan a new strategy and wait in the shadows. Something went wrong here, and it will be improved next time.

[Hell Puppi]

Awwww *hugs*

Next time, maybe.

[FdL]

Awwww *hugs*

Next time, maybe.

Aww, thanks, Puppi. That was a nice sweet hug ^^

And yeah, next time it will be better. I believe in evolution and improvement through mistakes! :) (Only according to that I should be much better by now, heh :P)