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2019-02-24, 12:27 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Jul 2012
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
So, in the interest of having it out there for everyone to have time to find and keep it relevant, I have made a new thread, here for everyone to be able to add themselves. That way, even those who may not pop in here like they used to, have somewhere to say that they are still willing to help out, even if they do't want to come back in here for whatever reason.
Sadly, I don't think such a pace exists where I am. But I will keep looking and hoping and see what I can do.
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2019-02-24, 01:25 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Aug 2009
Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
I'd be willing to be listed in the OP as someone who can talk about asexual and aromantic issues.
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2019-02-24, 02:57 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Apr 2011
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- Someplace Nice
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Wrong link. This is the one you wanted.
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2019-02-24, 09:57 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Jul 2012
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Huh. Well, thanks, Eldest.
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A novella about a wizard and a rock star, cross-dimensional travel, and healing wounds neither knew were there.
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2019-02-24, 05:29 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Feb 2010
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- Home
Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Alamryn Kven, a druid who tries very hard not to be useless.
Celesta Halla, a fearless barbarian.
Jheren Falconer, a drifter ranger.
Rhenner Calami, a snarky medic with an untrustworthy memory.
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2019-03-07, 01:53 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Jul 2012
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- In the Final Frontier
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
I have a counselor appointment tomorrow. She does a lot of LGBT+ work, and asked for my preferred name when I set the appointment. So hopefully this time I have someone who doesn’t think I’m not really trans and just can’t deal with my bullying issue.
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A novella about a wizard and a rock star, cross-dimensional travel, and healing wounds neither knew were there.
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2019-03-10, 02:34 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Mar 2019
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- Phoenix, AZ
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Today is coming out day for me. I disclosed it privately to a few people only for those people to eventually cross me and out me against my desire. I'm not hiding myself anymore. I can't take the pain of hiding and I no longer want to suffer any anguish over having to be hidden in the closet.
I'm transgender. Male-to-female.
For the sake of living a healthier life and being healthier in mind and body coming out is a necessity. I've taken to over-eating in the past from being in the closet. No more tears, no more pain.
I want to live a healthier life. It starts with being truthful.Last edited by Dragonquetra; 2019-03-10 at 03:51 PM.
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2019-03-10, 03:19 PM (ISO 8601)
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- May 2012
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- Germany
Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
How did it go?
(Anyone who tries to tell you you're not actually trans should shut up and possibly step on a lego <.<)
Coming out can be a huge relief, but it sucks when it happens against our will or before we are ready. But I hope everything will go smoothly now!
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Update on the name/gender marker change: I did some more research about what exactly the new law covers and also talked about it with my therapist. There's a legal loophole that technically makes it okay for non-intersex trans people to use the new law as long as we have a doctor who writes a note that we have a "variation of gender/sex development". My therapist strongly recommended me to use that option, considering how bad this whole situation has been for my mental health. So I am actually going to do this.
... if everything goes as planned, I might have legally changed my name and gender marker in less than a month.You can call me Juniper. Please use gender-neutral pronouns (ze/hir (preferred) or they/them) when referring to me.
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2019-03-10, 03:47 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Sep 2008
Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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2019-03-10, 03:52 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Mar 2019
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- Phoenix, AZ
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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2019-03-10, 10:35 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Jul 2012
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- In the Final Frontier
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
It went great. I walked in, and she greeted me with my preferred name (Ashleigh). We started talking, and I think it went well. Granted, we spent my hour talking about my kids, because that is a huge block in my road right now, but I don’t think she is going to gatekeep.
Good to hear. And if you ever need help, or an ear, or anything, we are all here to support you.
Co-Founder of LUTAS.
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A novella about a wizard and a rock star, cross-dimensional travel, and healing wounds neither knew were there.
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2019-03-11, 03:40 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
4 days to go until surgery! It's happening this Friday! *screams*
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2019-03-11, 07:19 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Auckland, NZ
Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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Rich is a better writer than that!
Free speech?
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2019-03-11, 04:54 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Jul 2012
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- In the Final Frontier
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Co-Founder of LUTAS.
For all you lesser superheroes out there.
Custom STO avatar by Durkoala.
A novella about a wizard and a rock star, cross-dimensional travel, and healing wounds neither knew were there.
Spoiler: Online stuffsLentrax has a Deviantart now, check it out!
Streaming Monday, Wednesday, and Friday at 11CST on Twitch.
Follow me on Twitter!
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2019-03-13, 07:00 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Nov 2009
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- Arizona
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2019-03-13, 08:09 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Jun 2009
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- The land of corn
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Hi everybody. Long time no see.
So. I don't really know how to go about figuring this out for sure for myself, but it's been floating in the back of my mind for several years now and only recently decided to be a surface thing. I'm pretty sure I'm either nonbinary or genderfluid. I haven't told many people yet in real life because I don't have that many I feel comfortable sharing with. I'm also right close up to the end of my PhD, so while I really do think speaking to a gender therapist to talk it out would be good, I simply don't have the time.
I'm also nervous as hell because my partner and I are slowly opening things up in our marriage, and I've got a lunch date with this woman we both happen to have a crush on and I'm really hoping it goes well. I'm okay with whatever outcome - if she's not interested, interested in only me, interested in only my partner, or interested in both of us. I just haven't directly told someone I had a crush on them since high school and I'm feeling super nervous.
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2019-03-15, 02:29 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Nov 2008
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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2019-03-16, 03:59 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Jan 2007
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Tidying done - I've successfully thrown out my junk
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2019-03-16, 05:22 AM (ISO 8601)
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2019-03-16, 05:24 AM (ISO 8601)
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- May 2010
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- Its Complicated
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2019-03-16, 08:38 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Jul 2007
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- France
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Woot! Awesome, Helio!
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2019-03-17, 01:41 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Jul 2012
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- In the Final Frontier
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Co-Founder of LUTAS.
For all you lesser superheroes out there.
Custom STO avatar by Durkoala.
A novella about a wizard and a rock star, cross-dimensional travel, and healing wounds neither knew were there.
Spoiler: Online stuffsLentrax has a Deviantart now, check it out!
Streaming Monday, Wednesday, and Friday at 11CST on Twitch.
Follow me on Twitter!
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2019-03-17, 02:13 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Mar 2019
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Posted this on Facebook, thought I'd share it here.
Being in denial of being transgender has done a lot to me, notably not being able to love myself. After my father died it's like a switch clicked and I started to process through all the self-loathing and self-hatred. Now that I a know who I am, more accurately, being attuned to the truth that I am female has allowed me love myself. It's not my interests that define me, more it is the pure joy that I feel when I am connected to that wellspring of femininity...that love is what does define me.
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2019-03-26, 05:16 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Jan 2012
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- Alaska
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
How are father/daughter relationships supposed to look?
My dad is trying, he really is, but he's a talentless parent because "don't be like the abusive !!!! who raised me" doesn't give very good guidance on what TO do. He cobbled together a vague, non-toxic idea of how to relate to a son from I have no idea where and subjected it to me inflexibly, ignoring all indicators that it might not be working.
Now? He's totally off the edge of the map. I'm incredibly frustrated because his wife just died, he wants me around more, he's trying to be my father, I want my daddy, and the two are NOT the same thing. I feel like there's some huge stuff that's just... missing, and I don't know what or how to explain any of it. It's really frustrating trying to visit, and I want to make things a bit better."We were once so close to heaven, Peter came out and gave us medals declaring us 'The nicest of the damned'.."
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2019-03-26, 07:03 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Jul 2006
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2019-03-26, 07:26 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Jul 2007
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- France
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Yeah, can't help you with father/daughter relationships, I only hear from my father on Christmas and on my birthday (and he hears from me on Christmas and his birthday), so...
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2019-03-26, 07:50 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Sep 2014
Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
You're going to have to really clarify the bolded. Because honestly this all just comes off as....well rather selfish honestly. His wife just passed away and he wants you around because he loves you and values your support. Sure, there's things going on on your end but honestly? This isn't about you. You and him and this new wrinkle can wait. Should wait. Until he's had some time to grieve and to right himself. I understand you want to be comfortable and that surely will make him more comfortable but maybe ask him what you can do to help that?
To the rest...there's no handbook on how to be a parent. I don't know you or him or your relationship but the way you describe it really rather rubs me the wrong way. Taking a pot shot at your pop for being a "talentless" father...just makes you look bad. At least you had a father and at least he tried and good on him for trying to be a better parent than he got. Parents can only do the best they do and they mess up from time to time. That's just how it goes. The others are being rather gentle about this but honestly...I think you should cut your father some slack. You're not particularly entitled to have your father and your relationship with your father to be the way you want. There's two people involved.
I don't know if you've sat down with him and discussed any of this with him because you haven't indicated you have or haven't. The only real solution is to suggest you do in fact do that. If the answer is he can't fulfill the role you want him to...I guess that will be a shame. But he doesn't owe it to you.Last edited by Razade; 2019-03-26 at 07:52 PM.
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2019-03-27, 08:29 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Sep 2010
Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
It would be great if you could explain the situation for people who are new to this thread. For example, is this your biological father, since you seem to miss your daddy and call his wife "his wife" instead of "my mother".
But regardless, asking what it is "supposed to look like" is a question that you either ask your therapist (if you have been abused so severely that you actually don't know which behaviours are abusive), or don't ask at all.
If I told you that a father is supposed to favour his sons over his daughters and all but ignore a daughter, would you then happily ask your father to ignore you most of the time and treat you as inferior the rest of the time? Would you then be happy with that kind of relationships because it is how things are supposed to be?
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2019-03-27, 04:14 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-03-28, 03:13 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Jan 2012
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- Alaska
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Biological father, stepmother. It's mostly that our relationship was pretty peacefully dysfunctional and ended up with us not talking much, and he keeps doing the same things that end up with us not talking very well. He deserves better, but I never knew how to respond to him, and now it's painfully obvious because I have to. It's a blend of me trying to support him in his time of need and wanting to pull my hair out when he gets really confused on how to talk to me and defaults to, of all things, dry history lectures. I had to listen to five hours of Napoleonic history last time I was there, and I could barely get a word in edgewise to qualify as 'talking'.
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