LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?

**Algeh** · 2019-03-28, 01:52 PM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by JusticeZero

Biological father, stepmother. It's mostly that our relationship was pretty peacefully dysfunctional and ended up with us not talking much, and he keeps doing the same things that end up with us not talking very well. He deserves better, but I never knew how to respond to him, and now it's painfully obvious because I have to. It's a blend of me trying to support him in his time of need and wanting to pull my hair out when he gets really confused on how to talk to me and defaults to, of all things, dry history lectures. I had to listen to five hours of Napoleonic history last time I was there, and I could barely get a word in edgewise to qualify as 'talking'.

My dad and I end up having, for want of a better word, "parallel conversations" pretty often. He will tell me in great deal about how his golf game is doing, and I will reply with equal detail about how my own hobbies are doing, and we will just continue our halves of the conversations as though they had something to do with each other. It is awkward as all get out, but I think he really likes talking about golf and I have absolutely nothing to say on the subject.

It might go better if you try to relate to each other in the form of some kind of structured activity rather than just trying to have a really long conversation with no obvious "hooks". My dad is too competitive for me to enjoy playing board games or most video games with, but maybe you'll have more luck with yours. Dad and I mostly watch tv together and talk during the commercial breaks or between episodes, which I would not say is ideal but gives us chances for short conversations about things we both have something to say about if we talk about the show we were just watching or tactics for whatever sport is on. (I do not follow sports the rest of the time, but at this point I have a decent tactical grasp of the 5 or so he watches most often so I can have short conversations about them.)

My dad never really did have a grasp on the whole "daughter" or possibly even "kid rather than small adult" thing when I was growing up though (highlights include the time we played most of Leisure Suit Larry 3 together while I was in elementary school on the general theory that we played all Sierra games as a team since it was helpful to have a second person keeping the map/notes and helping brainstorm the puzzles), so I'm not sure I'm a helpful baseline.

**Heliomance** · 2019-03-31, 05:46 PM (ISO 8601)

Happy trans day of Visibility, all. I was visible outside the house/hospital for the first time since surgery! I think I overdid it a bit though, and I am crashing hard

**Heliomance** · 2019-04-01, 10:24 AM (ISO 8601)

I just looked at myself naked in the mirror for the first time since surgery, and I'm genuinely crying with happiness! That's really me! I did it! I got there at last!

**Lycunadari** · 2019-04-01, 11:08 AM (ISO 8601)

Congrats, Helio! It's great that you finally got there after having to wait so long!

**Lissou** · 2019-04-01, 05:00 PM (ISO 8601)

I am SO happy for you, Helio! It's been such a ride for you, it's a relief it finally went somewhere and you can be yourself and be happy :)

**The Succubus** · 2019-04-01, 05:15 PM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by Heliomance

I just looked at myself naked in the mirror for the first time since surgery, and I'm genuinely crying with happiness! That's really me! I did it! I got there at last!

I remember when you started that journey, so long ago. Congratulations on making it!

**Lentrax** · 2019-04-01, 10:29 PM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by Heliomance

I just looked at myself naked in the mirror for the first time since surgery, and I'm genuinely crying with happiness! That's really me! I did it! I got there at last!

Congratulations! You have made your dream a reality.

Thank you for letting us be there with you on your journey.

**137beth** · 2019-04-02, 08:19 PM (ISO 8601)

Congratulations Heliomance!

**Kesnit** · 2019-04-04, 08:45 PM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by Heliomance

I just looked at myself naked in the mirror for the first time since surgery, and I'm genuinely crying with happiness! That's really me! I did it! I got there at last!

CONGRATS!!! I'm crying happy tears for you. This is such an amazing accomplishment

**Xihirli** · 2019-04-04, 11:48 PM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by Heliomance

I just looked at myself naked in the mirror for the first time since surgery, and I'm genuinely crying with happiness! That's really me! I did it! I got there at last!

Hey congratulations!

Been awhile since I've been here.
I've finally nailed down my sexuality at pan upon falling for a man before I ever joined GitP with an nb and lady just recently.
I've scheduled some appointments with Hormone people and I have a decently wide assortment of clothing I can love myself in.
As far as my gay life is going I'm at my peak.

**Lycunadari** · 2019-04-05, 03:08 PM (ISO 8601)

Guess who changed hir name today and is now also officially, legally, nonbinary!

**Xihirli** · 2019-04-07, 12:13 PM (ISO 8601)

Is it you?

**Lycunadari** · 2019-04-08, 02:47 PM (ISO 8601)

You guessed correctly!

**Xihirli** · 2019-04-09, 11:13 PM (ISO 8601)

Woot woot!

Congratulations!

**Florian** · 2019-04-10, 05:10 AM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by Lycunadari

Guess who changed hir name today and is now also officially, legally, nonbinary!

And that while living in the backwaters of our only real conservative ruled state. Congrats, but you could have had it easier.

**Heliomance** · 2019-04-13, 06:49 AM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by Lycunadari

Guess who changed hir name today and is now also officially, legally, nonbinary!

Yay! Go you!

**Dire Moose** · 2019-04-13, 07:14 AM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by Lycunadari

Guess who changed hir name today and is now also officially, legally, nonbinary!

Go you!

Meanwhile, I’m stuck here in Arizona which has no such option...

**KyooTrap** · 2019-04-13, 11:06 PM (ISO 8601)

I get to introduce one of my partners to my dad next month!! I'm really excited and nervous. We might end up meeting his as well since they're in the same state, although it would be a long drive for them. I'm just super gay aaaaa

**Domino Quartz** · 2019-04-14, 04:22 AM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by KyooTrap

I get to introduce one of my partners to my dad next month!! I'm really excited and nervous. We might end up meeting his as well since they're in the same state, although it would be a long drive for them. I'm just super gay aaaaa

Congratulations! I really hope it goes well for you. I'm sure it will. I wish I had your courage.

On another note. To all the transgender/nonbinary people on here (or even just lurking) - You are awesome people, for surviving this long in this world of ours. Keep going! You can do it! I believe in you! I am totally serious on this point. I absolutely support you, and I know for certain that other people here do as well. The world would be the lesser for your absence.

**ve4grm** · 2019-04-16, 09:43 AM (ISO 8601)

Originally Posted by Domino Quartz

On another note. To all the transgender/nonbinary people on here (or even just lurking) - You are awesome people, for surviving this long in this world of ours. Keep going! You can do it! I believe in you! I am totally serious on this point. I absolutely support you, and I know for certain that other people here do as well. The world would be the lesser for your absence.

I don't jump in here much, as it's usually not my place except to support people, but as a random cis/straight dude I'll tag my name on this. We sometimes blend in with the haters and bigots, but if you need a supporter from our "side" we're certainly around and will be there if you call. Go you!

We may not always understand fully (how could we without living your life) but we support you and want the best for you!

**GAAD** · 2019-04-22, 02:06 PM (ISO 8601)

Um... Hi!

Some of you may remember me from a couple years ago when I posted more regularly. But uh.

I'm scared.
I'm exited.
I'm a girl.
My name is Lauren.

And I don't know what to tell my family.

I doubt they'll be surprised given I've been training my voice feminine for the last 8 years but still.
I'm seeing a therapist tomorrow, hopefully I'll be able to get me some HRT!

Also I can stop obsessively lurking on threads like this

**Dire Moose** · 2019-04-22, 06:07 PM (ISO 8601)

Wonderful to hear and good luck in your journey! I know it seems scary and intimidating right now, but just take it one step at a time and try not to stress out too much.

Oh, and since you’re just getting started here, welcome to the thread! Here’s the official hug.

GLOMP!

**Lissou** · 2019-04-22, 07:25 PM (ISO 8601)

Hey Lauren! Welcome back!

**GAAD** · 2019-04-23, 01:15 AM (ISO 8601)

Hey! Thanks. I'm kinda confused and scared about what to do and what to say and what people will think and everything's been turned upside down.

But, I really LIKE it when my friends call me Lauren. I LIKE being called a girl. Deeply. And I can't change that.

So... I guess I have to change other things, so that happens all the time.

I've been stewing for months about "will I regret it" and the only way to be sure is to do it and I've been female online for a full week now and it feels SO NICE. There's a little fuzziness in my chest and a surge of yeswarmth through my body and I will never forget the first time my friend used my name. My name.

You folks understand what I'm getting at, right? Sheesh I need to transition asap says my super cracked dysphoria

I feel so... off.

**SkepticalSquid** · 2019-04-23, 01:42 AM (ISO 8601)

Best of luck, Lauren!

I feel like I might be feeling similarly right now. I'm out as nonbinary to my close friends and partner, as well as my immediate family, but the option to seek medical transition has presented itself to me, and I want to try to take it. But I have to tell the rest of my family, and my martial arts sensei, who is like family to me, and I'm not sure how to say it at all. If anyone has advice, I'd love it.

But anyways, I'm very happy for you, and wish you all the best, and I understand what you're saying.

**GAAD** · 2019-04-24, 02:28 PM (ISO 8601)

So I told my family.

My mother is convinced that someone talked me into this and that I’ll come to my senses once I realize how hard this choice to follow this trend is.

My father is in shock. He is refusing to call me anything but deadname his baby boy. At least he didn’t kick me out of the house.

My sister is coming to visit next week and is going to alter a dress for me. Eeeeeee

These are all different responses and I don’t know how to deal with them. Anyone else have similar experiences?

**TerrickTerran** · 2019-04-24, 04:22 PM (ISO 8601)

Good luck, Lauren. It's always hard on parents but hopefully they will eventually accept you.

**Lissou** · 2019-04-24, 06:45 PM (ISO 8601)

I'm glad your sister is supportive! Give your parents some time to realize it's you and spend most of your time with supportive people (online if need be)

**Xihirli** · 2019-04-26, 03:47 PM (ISO 8601)

Getting Estrogen next week!

**GAAD** · 2019-04-27, 01:08 AM (ISO 8601)

Grats sis! Here's hoping I can get that soonish too. I'm jealous

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