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2019-04-05, 03:18 AM (ISO 8601)
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2019-04-05, 03:12 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
Sorry @Peelee, but I remember being called "boss" by customers when I worked retail in the '90's and I indeed found it irritating.
Off the top of my head as alternatives to "Madam" and "Sir" I suggest:
"Citizen"
"Colleague"
"Comrade"
"Fellow"
"Friend"
"Good gentle"
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"Person" or "Good person"
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2019-04-05, 03:26 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-04-05, 03:29 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-04-05, 03:39 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
I think you are mistaken in what you seem to thing "attribute" means. I can believe anything about anybody. If I believe something about somebody, as I understand it I am attributing that thing to that person. Attributing something to something or somebody doesn't imply that it's true, it just implies that you believe it. Believing it does imply you believe it to be true, but there's no connection between the belief and the true truth of the matter.
The end of what Son? The story? There is no end. There's just the point where the storytellers stop talking.
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2019-04-05, 11:02 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
for the record: i support the notion to call all men 'roosters' and all people hens. i think its very funny
also, we're getting dangerously close to a prescriptivism debate and that does not go well with a conversation about gender. this isnt a peanut butter and chocolate scenario
words have meaning, but that meaning is fluid and variedThanks Uncle Festy for the wonderful Ashling Avatar
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2019-04-05, 11:23 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-04-05, 11:26 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-04-06, 07:52 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
Light irritation can end conversations and give people poor impressions.
Yeah, being offended is a growing pastime, but regular pronouns work a whole lot better than 'boss'
(Personally I'm fond of social risks, I like to separate the wheat from the chaff, but if you're working in customer service or you're a chicken you best play it safe)Last edited by The Jack; 2019-04-06 at 07:53 AM.
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2019-04-07, 07:04 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
We've probably all been called "Ace", "Honey" or "Sweetie". None are bad terms but imply a familiarity that I've disliked.
The key word in the title of this thread is "Respectful". If we cause more rather than less irritation, we've defeated our own goal. Face it, there are plenty of irritating things already in our lives."We are the people our parents warned us about!" - J.Buffett
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2019-04-07, 07:09 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
I'm not sure If you're agreeing with me or disagreeing with me, but I do want to point out I've lived in a region of the UK where "'RIGHT MY LUVER' is a greeting.
Regional things are always bad.
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2019-04-07, 07:29 AM (ISO 8601)
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2019-04-07, 08:03 AM (ISO 8601)
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2019-04-07, 01:49 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-04-07, 09:35 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-04-07, 09:51 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
like, its not better that words that mean men are seen as neutral and normal, and words that mean women are seen are derogatory. thats not a reason why dude names are considered agendered, its another problem with how we associate womenness as otherness.
its a whole Issue
ill try not to poke myself with your edge, but this is such an over the top reaction to someone saying "hey heads up this isn't always appropriate"Last edited by The Extinguisher; 2019-04-07 at 09:52 PM.
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2019-04-08, 12:53 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
Sweaty honey baby child!
Your excellency?Last edited by darkrose50; 2019-04-08 at 12:54 PM.
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2019-04-08, 02:36 PM (ISO 8601)
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EDIT: On second thought, I don't wanna get involved in this. Post is quoted below if you wanna see how wrong I am.
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2019-04-08, 03:01 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
Yeesh.
1. Nobody was talking about the words' etymologies, even. Just that saying "Hey guys!" or "Hey dudes!" is considered neutral, while "Hey gals!" or "Hey chicks!" is for only women and could come across as derogatory.
2. Lowercase/no caps is part laziness, and part a generational thing. See this article: Mashable: Millennials have created a form of written English that's as expressive as spoken English
(Note that while it says Millennials, I think it's later millennials, and in large part the next generation as well. At 35, I'm an older Millennial, and it feels like it's largely younger than me. But it's interesting. And off-topic.)Last edited by ve4grm; 2019-04-08 at 03:03 PM.
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2019-04-08, 03:51 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-04-08, 04:00 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
I just hear everything in either a whiny voice, an empty voice, though it hard to describe exactly what I mean by that, or somebody shouting at me. Also, the lack of punctuation becomes annoying in places (e.g. "how is it possible that i fall in love with a new boy every week can i chill please").
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2019-04-08, 06:28 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
i specifically type in all lower case because it frustrates language purists
using etymology to debunk systemic sexism seems like a pretty over the top reaction to girls not wanting to be called dude, but you do you. ill note that any explanation that has to invoke "coincidence" multiple times is probably not very good thoThanks Uncle Festy for the wonderful Ashling Avatar
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2019-04-08, 07:11 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-04-08, 11:18 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
no one has suggested that? like, at all? at the very most we said how dude is considered derogatory when its misgendering someone.
the only thing im saying is stop treating dude like a gender neutral word. if you want to like refer to a mixed group of people, or a person of an unknown gender, use a word that is not rooted in gendered culture and specifically gendered culture where man = neutral
i was also saying in a facetious way to "flip" the standard that currently exists and is bad, both to highlight its arbitrariness and also to give the gift of a solid chortle to any who would be so inclinedThanks Uncle Festy for the wonderful Ashling Avatar
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2019-04-08, 11:30 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-04-09, 05:26 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
Speak for yourself. I happen to be a woman and I totally feel thrown under the bus for men's benefit when I am part of a group that is then addressed with "hey guys". Because it is the same effing thing that is done in my mothertongue all the effing time. Male terms are being used, and women are asked to pretend we are being addressed, too, even though no one ever would use the male term when talking about one specific person who is female. (Might be different with "guy", but I simply learnt to recognize the term as male and it raises red flags if someone seems to forget I exist in a group.)
The only exception might be if this group consists only of women, in which case I am merely confused.
That said, I am an adult human female, so something that seems to be an abbreviation for "girl" or a word meant to describe the offspring of chickens, also isn't right and the latter comes across as derogatory.
It is high time the English language evolve some colloquial terms to address women that don't either sound like one thinks the person in question is a minor, or like the person in question is a chicken AND minor.
You will, I am afraid, have to abandon the use of "dude" and "guy" to specify someone's sex (As in "Hey, that's a dude") if you wish for non-native speakers to accept the terms as neutral. At the moment, I am simply not buying it.Last edited by Themrys; 2019-04-09 at 05:27 AM.
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2019-04-09, 06:52 AM (ISO 8601)
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2019-04-09, 07:20 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
I've been listening toand I noted that in the series the DM (a woman) collectively refers to her players (all women) both as "ladies" and "guys".(That was the first video in the series, I'm not sure if the DM calls her players "ladies" or "guys" in it, and I'm too lazy to re-listen, sorry).Spoiler: Girls, Guts, and Glory: "The Drunk Ring"
Etymological it doesn't make much sense but the way I've heard it used "guy" is usually male only but "guys" often isn't, and is used as a synonym for "people" as often as a synonym for "men".
But yes to avoid confusion "person" and "people" are correct.
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2019-04-09, 07:29 AM (ISO 8601)
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2019-04-09, 09:36 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Respectful term for nonbinary people and people of unknown gender?
Hey, no worries. I actually agree with you... mostly. It's weird sometimes, even as a man, to use "guys" for a mixed-gender group, just because I know that "guy" is gendered.
That said, whether or not any particular person doesn't like it, it is indeed largely accepted as neutral (even by many women referring to groups of only women, as 2D8HP showed with his link). Is it right? I don't know. But for lack of a better term, it is accepted as such.
I'm also with you on the infantilizing nature of slang forms for women. Guy and Dude are also a little in that direction, so I think it's meant to indicate familiarity, but it's way stronger on the female terms. That said, I think "girl" and "boy" have in recent time, while still implying youth, come to not intrinsically imply childhood. so take that for what you will.