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2019-10-03, 04:47 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
Living on the streets is dangerous, and lots of people live on the streets here. The guy probably couldn't stash it anywhere, and he needed access to water, bathroom and heating.
It doesn't make it any safer for the rest of us, by his objections were legit.
I think you are thinking of this backwards. You aren't unhappy because you aren't in a relationship, you aren't in a relationship because you are unhappy.
Focus on having fun and being well adjusted, and people will respond to that. Confidence and self-assurance is attractive, and happy people don't blow past red flags and get into bad relationships.Last edited by Tvtyrant; 2019-10-03 at 04:59 PM.
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2019-10-03, 05:12 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
Oh, I'm happy for you! It's always nice to have acknowledgement from those people whose opinions you cherish, especially if it's from an unexpected source who probably isn't saying it just to make you feel good.
I do very much understand the crushing despair of this variety of loneliness, and I very much have to second TvTyrant's advice. It immensely helps one's mental state to be able to be in a place where you can be happy with you, and you don't feel that you need someone else in your life to be complete. I know that I was there for some time, and it takes a lot of effort to get out. But... eventually, it'll just click, and it'll be like a weight's lifted from your shoulders.
It does suck about your coworkers, though. Have you mentioned that you're not really fond of that teasing to them?
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2019-10-03, 05:20 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
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I use braces (also known as "curly brackets") to indicate sarcasm. If there are none present, I probably believe what I am saying; should it turn out to be inaccurate trivia, please tell me rather than trying to play along with an apparent joke I don't know I'm making.
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2019-10-03, 05:25 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
Eh, I choose to believe by the time someone is in the workplace they're mature enough to recognize such requests and tailor appropriately. Sure, there'll always be people who won't, but I choose to believe the default is on the good side.
And in any event, it's at a workplace, so HR is always a venue if that fails.Cuthalion's art is the prettiest art of all the art. Like my avatar.
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2019-10-03, 05:27 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-10-03, 05:29 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
Isn't "teasing" defined as "doing something because you were asked not to and you want to cause as much suffering as possible in the world"
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HR's job isn't to help you; HR's job is to help profits. Bring a lawyer.
EDIT2: Actually, maybe check with HR without a lawyer first, then bring a lawyer the second time if nothing changes.Last edited by enderlord99; 2019-10-03 at 05:32 PM.
I use braces (also known as "curly brackets") to indicate sarcasm. If there are none present, I probably believe what I am saying; should it turn out to be inaccurate trivia, please tell me rather than trying to play along with an apparent joke I don't know I'm making.
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2019-10-03, 05:36 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-10-03, 05:36 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
No.
Originally Posted by Peelee's Ye Olde Dictionarye
2.) Lawyers cost money. Talking to HR is free.Cuthalion's art is the prettiest art of all the art. Like my avatar.
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2019-10-03, 05:39 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
Teasing is provoking or making fun of someone in a playful way. It is usually a way of establishing intimacy and comradery. Like friends calling each other twiggy or big butt, or bringing up your friend's commitment issues "when are you getting married again?"
Bullying often is the same actions, but it is about establishing power and hierarchy in a nominally equal group. Bullies often pretend they are friends with the degraded person to avoid scrutiny, and create an external illusion of intimacy where there is none.
Edit: a perfect example of this in practice is boys groping each other. It is a common form of social bonding among athletes into adulthood, but also abuse. The line there is the relationship between the individuals and how comfortable they were with that as a form of bonding. I hated it, and made lots of enemies by treating bonding as bullying because I am naturally bad at distinguishing social interactions.Last edited by Tvtyrant; 2019-10-03 at 05:43 PM.
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2019-10-03, 05:41 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
If HR fails then I would report to the Department of Labors about it.
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2019-10-03, 05:45 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
I use braces (also known as "curly brackets") to indicate sarcasm. If there are none present, I probably believe what I am saying; should it turn out to be inaccurate trivia, please tell me rather than trying to play along with an apparent joke I don't know I'm making.
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2019-10-03, 05:53 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
That's not teasing, it is passive agressive behavior. Teasing between strangers might be the checkout clerk mentioning how many condoms you are buying, which acknowledges the awkwardness of them gaining intimate knowledge of you they normally would not have.
A teasing version of your story would be them saying something like "kissing must be hard," which acknowledges your request and that you are overstepping some bounds.Last edited by Tvtyrant; 2019-10-03 at 05:56 PM.
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2019-10-03, 06:00 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
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2019-10-03, 06:49 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
I use braces (also known as "curly brackets") to indicate sarcasm. If there are none present, I probably believe what I am saying; should it turn out to be inaccurate trivia, please tell me rather than trying to play along with an apparent joke I don't know I'm making.
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2019-10-03, 06:52 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-10-03, 06:59 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
She's plenty supportive.
She didn't see it happening in either of the cases I'm referring to; if she had, I'm sure she'd have intervened. She wasn't saying "it's fine that they're doing that" but rather "they don't know how much you hate it, because they don't know you" which is weird because I had literally told them "don't do that" but...Last edited by enderlord99; 2019-10-03 at 07:01 PM.
I use braces (also known as "curly brackets") to indicate sarcasm. If there are none present, I probably believe what I am saying; should it turn out to be inaccurate trivia, please tell me rather than trying to play along with an apparent joke I don't know I'm making.
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2019-10-03, 07:03 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
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2019-10-03, 07:05 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
Last edited by enderlord99; 2019-10-03 at 07:05 PM.
I use braces (also known as "curly brackets") to indicate sarcasm. If there are none present, I probably believe what I am saying; should it turn out to be inaccurate trivia, please tell me rather than trying to play along with an apparent joke I don't know I'm making.
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2019-10-03, 07:06 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-10-03, 07:11 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
I use braces (also known as "curly brackets") to indicate sarcasm. If there are none present, I probably believe what I am saying; should it turn out to be inaccurate trivia, please tell me rather than trying to play along with an apparent joke I don't know I'm making.
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2019-10-03, 07:22 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
Anyway. I'm enjoying D&D 3.5 games so far on Play by post here.
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2019-10-04, 01:03 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
Sometimes, polite isn't the right way to go about it. People sometimes counter-tease by acting offended in order to try and provoke an escalation of the teasing and see who gets uncomfortable first. Sometimes, light protests can be mistaken for this, and sometimes, the teaser want to find the point when you really lose your patience and drop the veneer of politeness. The latter can seem (and can be) mean-spirited, but establishing boundaries is important in a social relationship.
My response when people tease me in a way I'm not okay with is to drop into a very serious and deadpad voice and express I'm not finding it fun anymore. The idea is to show that my boundary has been crossed, and at the same time, they aren't going to get a fun reaction out of me. It works extremely well, but that might in part be because of my full personality and not just my behavour in the situation, so I'm not promising miracle results.Clouddreamer Teddy by me, high above the world, far beyond its matters...
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2019-10-04, 01:27 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
I use braces (also known as "curly brackets") to indicate sarcasm. If there are none present, I probably believe what I am saying; should it turn out to be inaccurate trivia, please tell me rather than trying to play along with an apparent joke I don't know I'm making.
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2019-10-04, 05:50 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
My Avatar is Glimtwizzle, a Gnomish Fighter/Illusionist by Cuthalion.
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2019-10-04, 05:53 AM (ISO 8601)
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2019-10-04, 05:56 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
My Avatar is Glimtwizzle, a Gnomish Fighter/Illusionist by Cuthalion.
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2019-10-04, 06:28 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
Has any one seen my jar of anti-protons or my cyclotron of positrons?
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2019-10-04, 07:22 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
To everybody who gave me advice re: my mental state, yeah, I know it's probably more that way round than the other way, but it still hurts for people who've not been outside a relationship for a decade or longer to go 'oh don't worry about it, it's nothing important'.
Even worse are those who don't understand how me being single can be a sore point when I'm attractive*, because obviously if I wanted a relationship I'd be with one of the people attracted to me (who, of course, don't exist). It mixes with the fact that people refuse to believe I could have social anxiety or any problems interacting with people because I can mask well when I have to. There's a lot going on in this area that is bringing me down, and a lor of it comes down to social anxiety.
* assume for the purposes of this thought experiment that I am not ugly.
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2019-10-04, 07:37 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-10-04, 07:50 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: SZbNAhL's Similarly Sibilant (if unpronouncable) Random Banter #223
Well, I got my Halloween costume today. I was going to be Deadpool but they didn't have the size I wanted so I'm going to be a Glowing Grim Reaper instead.
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