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Thread: Opinions can be wrong..?
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2020-07-25, 11:49 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Opinions can be wrong..?
1. Informed opinions, and uninformed opinions, are very real things.
You present a belief, or thought.
"I believe that the Earth is flat." is an opinion. I think, I believe, etc.
"The Earth is flat." is not an opinion.
Speaking to the former, you might ask "Why do you believe that the Earth is flat?"
That is, how did you arrive at your belief? What evidence or theories do you have, that support it?
Is your opinion informed, or uninformed?
If your opinion is uninformed, it can absolutely be a 'wrong opinion'.
"We all have the same information. How did you get that out of this? You're literally not making sense."
Where it gets complicated is;
2. A lot - if not most - people use the words 'feelings' and 'opinions' interchangeably, and thus, incorrectly:
Feelings, are Objective (to the person)
Opinions are Subjective (to the person).
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Feeling; I didn't like Terminator: Dark Fate.
Opinion; I think Terminator: Dark Fate is a bad movie.
Nobody can say that "Umm, akshully, you're wrong. You did like Terminator: Dark Fate."
Whether or not I like Terminator: Dark Fate, is objective. It can be right, and it can be wrong. You have no way of knowing that I didn't, or actually did. Nobody can say that the person isn't feeling what they're feeling.
Opinions however, can be changed, which, in turn, can create feelings.
I will tell you why I think Terminator; Dark Fate is a bad movie, this is my opinion:
Let's talk about objective things; Story, Music, Characters, Script, Effects, Acting, Directing, etc. Based on other things I've seen and how I know movies get made (i.e; Informing my opinion).
You, might say, that actually those things were done really well. Based on other things you've seen and how you know movies get made (i.e; Informing your opinion).
We can talk all day whether or not Terminator; Dark Fate is a good, or bad movie, based on things we can see and hear. You can argue against opinions.
But you can't tell me, whether or not I liked it. You can't argue against feelings.
For example; There are objectively bad movies, that people very much enjoy. There are objectively good movies, that people can't stand.
Almost like objective quality doesn't determine subjective feelings (although it most often does, because if something is good, why wouldn't you like it?).
Things brings us finally, to something egregious:
"I don't like superhero stories where superheroes don't punch people. Therefore, superhero stories where superheroes don't punch people, are bad."
You are not separating your feelings from your opinions, making them one and the same.
This 'opinion', 'can't be wrong', because it is also a 'feeling', and feelings can't be wrong.
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2020-07-26, 04:21 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Opinions can be wrong..?
why it's really really dang important that we define our terms and try and use them in a way we both understand.
[ETA] Or again on the 15 definitions
I'm using "Opinion" (mostly) consistently, "Favourite" consistently, "Opinion on Favourite", "Favourite opinion" consistently, etc..
(There's probably enough failures to spoil things)
However I do not use "Opinion" in the same way as "Favourite". If you've filled in the tautology so it reads "Opinion" in the same way as "Opinion", of course that sentence looks like a self contradictory definition.
I'm sure there's a similar effect the other way, but I'm not sure what it is.
I'm not sure how we get past that. If you define the terms I'm going to see a whole pile of undefined concepts and a really overloaded term. If I define the terms your going to see a whole pile of contradictory terms or repetition of definitions.
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Surely it's because they acknowledge that you know your preference better than they do. It may not require absolute certainty, but it is something that I believe you are better informed about than me. I'm fully prepared to (provisionally) accept that your knowledge of your favourite colour is pretty close to absolute. The scene in monty python where the knight gets his favourite colour wrong is meant to be funny.
If 'favourite' were just a special case of 'opinion' you'd expect there to be some statement that has opinion do that work directly, sort of like "In my opinion, colour is red", which I can't see. They aren't unrelated concepts, but they aren't the same.
(Related to that you slip from "Your favourite colour", to "your opinion of your favourite colour" in step 2, which you can't do in a proof about them being the same)
Cheesegear puts it better. (Although some of the thread is about the fact that we can say "you went to see Dark Fate seventeen times, and spent a fortune on collectables, something doesn't add up here")
your attempt to say the claim that you have a teapot in your kitchen is the same as a teapot on Mars for example
My (alleged) OPINION on the presence of teapots in your kitchen and mars are different OPINIONS. They are both OPINIONS.
5 and 7 are not the same number, they are both numbers. By saying 5 is a number and 7 is a different number I make no claim that 5 is the same as 7. Neither am I changing the definition of number.
Precisely because they are different opinions, it is a reasonable comment to observe that one of them is based on different information than the other.. In fact in the part you are making, I state that I have so much knowledge about my kitchen that I can't really call it an opinion (I guess a claim is a good word for what it now is).
In a minor irony, although my post was about the teapot in mars being DIFFERENT from teapot in house, and your objection being that my post was about them being the SAME. My opinion was probably based on flawed reasoning. If I'm crediting my being able to look round my kitchen as providing sufficient knowledge, I probably ought to take into account my knowledge of how teapots are made and the implications of this. The difference is arguably not as pronounced as I thought it was.
Originally Posted by XyrelLast edited by jayem; 2020-07-26 at 04:59 AM.
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2020-07-26, 08:00 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Opinions can be wrong..?
Can't really. The least of which is because you did exactly what I was worried you were going to do, switching words around to try a gotcha re: opinions aren't claims (even though they are) and also try to imply I messed up on making a formal logical proof when even with the least amount of charity it was clear I wasn't doing that.
This is where I think the real issue is. You're trying to say that saying something is your favorite isn't an opinion and I think the push back you're getting is that that's how most people use favorite. That's just common, English, venacular and that's demonstrable. You're trying to use the word favorite to be something else, and that's fine, but you need to like...make that way more clear. Because that's the root of the tautology (and I wasn't talking logical tautology btw. It's weird that you expect me to fit formal logic but you're not even approaching it yourself).
When most people use "favorite" they're stating an opinion. When I say "my favorite ice cream is mint", that's just my opinion. A low order opinion at that, because it's inconsequential. I don't need to provide evidence for it and people are going to generally take my word on it at face value. If I said 'in my opinion, mint is the best ice cream" people know by context clues that I'm saying "my favorite ice cream is mint" because that's how language works. As Xyril rightly pointed out. It may lead to ambiguities or gray areas or create misunderstandings, but that's just how language works. We short hand because we're lazy.
Then I'll reply to them.
Since you're saying what Jayem seems to be trying to say better, I'll give this a look. See if we disagree.
With you so far.
Nothing here either.
Oi! First bit of disagreement. Feelings can be either objective or subjective to the individual. At the risk of being cheeky, and because I'm writing this point by point, I suspect you're also one of those people misusing the word feeling. Not interchangeably with opinion but with another term. I predict it's going to be preference. White texting it because it's a prediction.
Feelings are derived from internal and external stimuli that you have to process. You can be fed the wrong stimuli and thus have a wrong feeling. I worry that you're also using feeling to mean something different here. A feeling is an emotional state or a reaction to something and emotional states are absolutely subjective. You're objectively feeling them, but again you're feeling an emotional state due to stimuli that your body may not actually be responding to correctly. Look at things like Mood Liability or Borderline Personality Disorder. Those are mental illnesses where stimuli produce improper emotional responses. They're objectively feeling those things but it's because the body is reacting in a subjective way. Everyone's body chemistry does this to a greater or lesser extent. But I don't think you're actually using Feelings in that sense.
Let's look at your example, it might clear things up.
Yeah see, the first thing there isn't a feeling. Not by any definition or usage that I know. It's a preference, which I called. In this case what's refereed to as Negative Preference which are generally called Aversions or as you got close to using, a dislike. Preferences are split into three categories. Positive, Negative and Indifference.
You're misusing the word feeling (which as explained about has everything to do with emotional states) while telling people that they're actually using it wrong. You're using it wrong too . You didn't like Terminator: Dark Fate for preferential reasons. Your preferences can't be wrong and they are influenced by your feelings but they're not the same thing and not solely motivated by your feelings. Those are internal due to bias and all manner of other things (that are both objective like brain chemistry and biology and subjective).
Preferences and feelings can change too. Feelings can change independent of opinions changing.
You keep saying feelings, but then you describe preferences. Knowing that, and you may disagree so I look forward to you correcting me if I've made a mistake, we agree. You cannot argue preferences.Last edited by Razade; 2020-07-26 at 08:18 AM. Reason: used the wrong quote bar.
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2020-07-26, 11:03 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Opinions can be wrong..?
In any case, we can possibly avoid the issues for a second. Lets first focus on the sentence "In my opinion your favourite colour is red". Was I right, was I wrong? Was it meaningless to ask right and wrongfulness of it? Is my opinion of your favourite colour not actually an opinion? If it's not a valid sentence, why not.
__And now trying to compare positions, etc...
[k]I thought it was you that switched the words![/k], let's have a look [spoiler, both of us were involved]
J: Actually the more I think about it, in my opinion, if you actually have an "opinion", it's a claim that also takes you beyond the pure subjective.
R: Not all claims are equal. Claims must have evidence aportioned to them depending on the claim itself. ...
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.... teapot on Venus I'd need more evidence than you having a favorite color. I don't need evidence of what your favorite color is.
J: For me to have an opinion of whether there is a teapot in my kitchen is odd (I know there isn't)
... For you to have an opinion on teapots in my kitchen is quite fine.
... Similarly (if I were to have) an opinion supporting teapots on Venus, it would be a genuine opinion, but almost certainly a wrong one and a little unreasonable
R: your attempt to say the claim that you have a teapot in your kitchen is the same as a teapot on Mars for example
J: There was no such comment about claims, they were about opinions. Furthermore you were replying to a paragraph focusing on the differences!
Ah... I begin to see how the terms were switched.
and also try to imply I messed up on making a formal logical proof when even with the least amount of charity it was clear I wasn't doing that.
2a: [Your opinion on your favorite color] is more than an impression but it's not positive knowledge.
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[your favorite color] is more than an impression but it's not positive knowledge.
Without taking for granted that the "Your opinion" in "Your opinion on your favorite color" is redundant as equivalent to "Your (favourite and I repeat) favorite color" (sorry, I can't even write it in a double opinion without nesting the first) rather than redundant because your opinion is self evidently as well-founded as it could be.
What would happen if I said instead "In my opinion your favourite colour is Red because [lame reason=Red alliterates with Razor]".
If it were the case that that we were contracting it because 'favourite' already was an opinion, then presumably it would still be an acceptable for me to contract it.
I'd contend that the difference is that you know your favourite.
In any case lets focus on the sentence "In my opinion your favourite...". Was I right, was I wrong? Was it meaningless to ask right and wrongfulness of it? Is my opinion of your favourite colour not actually an opinion? If it's not a valid sentence, why not.
Again consider "In my opinion I'm _age_", again I can (and should) contract it because I know my age, not because my age is an opinion.
This is where I think the real issue is. You're trying to say that saying something is your favorite isn't an opinion and I think the push back you're getting is that that's how most people use favorite. That's just common, English, venacular and that's demonstrable. You're trying to use the word favorite to be something else, and that's fine, but you need to like...make that way more clear. Because that's the root of the tautology (and I wasn't talking logical tautology btw. It's weird that you expect me to fit formal logic but you're not even approaching it yourself).
I'm also pretty sure conceptually we actually agree more on favourite (in my opinion, synonymous with preference). It's opinion that seems to be causing the clash. It's just that when you want to use your definition of "opinion" as the definition of favourite (before we've worked out opinion) that it looks worse.
Also I fully accept that there is a close relation. If something is your favourite you probably have guessable opinions about it, if you've made your opinions about something clear we can use this to guess your favourite, etc...
Oh and happy that your talking linguistic tautologies. But that linguistic difference reflects how you read and I read. If I write 'favourite' and 'opinion' and you hear 'favourite' and 'favourite' you're missing precisely why I wrote the two. If the sentence is about the difference it comes over as a contradiction.
Similarly the other way, when you write that there's an implicit "in my opinion" in favourite, I'm literally hearing you claim that you don't know what your favourite actually is, rather than whatever you mean.
[substituting the definitions from webster, possibly imperfectly to try and show how it's parsed]
"in my opinion my favourite colour is red" -> "in my opinion the colour I like best is red" -> "I have a belief that is less certain than knowledge that the colour I like best is red"
Whereas preference and favourite, I'd be really happy to treat as being tautologous.
*I might double check favorite, but I think we agree on favouriteLast edited by jayem; 2020-07-26 at 11:10 AM.
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2020-07-26, 05:24 PM (ISO 8601)
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Right. You brought up claims and I was using the teapot as an analogy to demonstrate that you were equivocating between your favorite color and mathematics because one needs no real evidence at all (favorite color and kitchen teapot) and the other requires a fair bit of evidence. The switch in the analogy may be on my end, in that we have the evidence for math. We don't have the evidence for a Venetian Teapot.
But the switch is entirely on your end. Because you stated, at the start, that there's no difference between the claim that it's your opinion (and here's the problem because math isn't an opinion and this is where the equivocation is) on 2+2 =4 and your favorite color are equal. When they're not. If that's not what you meant, then that's fair and absolutely take the time to clarify. But it's absolutely, without a doubt, plain as text what you said.
I actually had to go back and see if I'd even said that it was. Not until my very last post. I pointed out before that under the definition provided by another poster, when you said it didn't fit, that it fit at least two of the four provided usages. Which is, despite you telling me how I have to demonstrate it, all I actually have to do to demonstrate it. Does the usage of the word align with a label we call opinion. Yes, it does. That's how it's used colloquially.
I also know my opinion. The sentence "In my opinion your opinion is red is the best color because red alliterates with razor". They're equivalent statements, just with different words because that's how language works. Stating "my favorite is" and "the best color is" are both opinions and generally taken to mean the same thing when used in casual conversation. That's literally been my line from the very start of this. That's why I said when you tried to say they were different that they were in fact a tautology. Again, because you've tried to do this before, not a logical tautology.
You aren't wrong that it's your opinion but your opinion can be predicated on wrong information and thus be wrong. Those aren't the same things and that's where the real trip up in this entire conversation lies. Opinions can change, they change based on (as I said to Cheesegear) external and internal stimuli. Opinions are formed by the brain which receives information. That information can be muddled either by incorrect stimulus response or cognative bias or a slew of other problems. Humans are not perfect thinkers, we form wrong opinions all the time and we change opinions often.
You can hold the opinion that my favorite color is red, but it might actually be green. It is green, by the by, I don't prefer red. You change your opinion when I go "No Jayem, my favorite color is not red" or "no, my opinion is that green is better than red" or, to use the same wording, "no, my opinion is that green is the best color". All three of those things tell you the same information. You can then change your opinion or, in fact, be wrong.
They're all different however from a preference. If you say "I don't like green, I like red", that's not the same as saying red is the best color or that it's your favorite color. One is a preference, the other an opinion. Your preferences can't be wrong. The difference is small but important and it's where Cheesegear switched words. Saying "I like, I dislike" is saying how we feel (Cheesegear then went on to say that it is a feel-ing, which it's not. It's an expression of preferences which is different than an emotional state) while saying "Red is the best" is telling us what you think. Humans are empathetic beings and we blend our preferences with our thoughts all the time without realizing it.
But a preference, a colloquial feeling, isn't a rational response. Opinions are (generally) rational.
Right except here we go again with equivocation. Your age and your favorite color are not in the same field. You don't contract the sentence because stating your age isn't an opinion, we can measure it. Usually by cutting a leg off and checking the rings. Or birth records for the squeamish. You can't do that with your favorite color, which is why you can switch "my favorite is" with "in my opinion x color is".
Chalk it up to how sloppy language is. I actually don't think favorite is a preference though I absolutely understand that people use it that way and I think in a colloquial sense that's fine. If I were going to express a strong or even exclusionary preference I'd say something like...love or something along that line. Saying something is my favorite goes beyond simple preference, as mentioned above. When I say I love something or hate something, I'm telling you something about how I feel about the object or thought in question. When I say it's my favorite, I'm telling you that I think it's the best/use whatever word here to mean a top order and that's an opinion which can be scrutinized based on my own actions.
You used the example of pointing out someone's favorite not aligning with their actions, and I pushed back on it. Not because I disagreed but because it was too broad a way to defeat the opinion. It's a good start, I agree, to go from pointing out that a person's actions aren't aligning with their statements. But if, for example, we go to a sandwich shop every day for lunch and you know in the past I've said my favorite (or the best/any of the other terms we've used here) sandwich is a chip butty but you never see me order it at this place, and you conclude that I'm misrepresenting my opinion then you could be wrong. I may just not like how this one place does it. This is the "maybe I'm wearing red for work but every other time I wear brown". If we go to 20 chipshops and I never order a chip butty then you're probably right to conclude that I actually don't think what I said.
And that's where the difference is actually really easy to see. We don't generally act out against our preferences. We very often act out of line of our opinions and that's how you can see which is which.
Right, which is why they're synonyms.
I mean, I never brought up logistics until you did. Right, which is why they're synonyms. They're words that can, but don't always, mean the same thing and it's why language is sloppy and why giving precise usages of your words is important. Otherwise you get misunderstandings.
Right but that's you reading into something that isn't there, and you ought to have taken a moment to clarify instead of assume.
I don't think we do, but I went into that at length and I think I made my demonstration rather clear on why.Last edited by Razade; 2020-07-26 at 05:25 PM.
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2020-07-26, 07:41 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Opinions can be wrong..?
You aren't wrong that it's your opinion but your opinion can be predicated on wrong information and thus be wrong.
Oh and that's easy too :) I can fill in the missing sentence, and possibly reorder. As I said you skimmed so close to picking up the same things and then things went horribly wrong.
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There was also a separate thought, about how even when there was room for different opinions some were much wronger than others that picked up the same example.
It's too late to look at the middle bits. My first use of claim was so minor I wasn't even aware of it, but it was definitely there.
I also know my opinion. The sentence "In my opinion your opinion is red is the best color because red alliterates with razor". They're equivalent statements, just with different words because that's how language works. Stating "my favorite is" and "the best color is" are both opinions and generally taken to mean the same thing when used in casual conversation. That's literally been my line from the very start of this. That's why I said when you tried to say they were different that they were in fact a tautology. Again, because you've tried to do this before, not a logical tautology.
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I don't prefer red.
a) Actually took us back to the thread topic. We have something that the two of us agree is an opinion, that turned out to be wrong. (ok it was so artificial it was more of a random guess, but I could have used other opinions)
b) I think makes the nesting clear
Right, which is why they're synonyms.
I mean, I never brought up logistics until you did. Right, which is why they're synonyms. They're words that can, but don't always, mean the same thing and it's why language is sloppy and why giving precise usages of your words is important. Otherwise you get misunderstandings.
If we're treating opinion alone as being synonymous than I'd expect us to be able to do the above substitution and that doesn't make sense [and as I think of favourite as being something you can't (except in such complicated cases that worrying about them let in loopholes) say is wrong, this would have implications to the OP]
If we're treating favourite as synonymous with a special type of opinion such, I.E. something like "My favourite" is synonymous with the "My opinion of the best", that's something I'm much more relaxed about.
Whether a 'favourite has to be an 'opinion' or not doesn't affect the thread, so long as we've got our opinion that (is not a favourite) and has a clear right/wrong, and so we can agree on our answer the OP without having to build on something we may disagree on.
I actually don't think favorite is a preference though I absolutely understand that people use it that way and I think in a colloquial sense that's fine. If I were going to express a strong or even exclusionary preference I'd say something like...love or something along that line.I don't think we do, but I went into that at length and I think I made my demonstration rather clear on why.
Regardless we've got the important thing sorted.
Right except here we go again with equivocation. Your age and your favorite color are not in the same field. You don't contract the sentence because stating your age isn't an opinion, we can measure it. Usually by cutting a leg off and checking the rings. Or birth records for the squeamish. You can't do that with your favorite color, which is why you can switch "my favorite is" with "in my opinion x color is".
I'm not in the habit of saying "I think I'm British", I would say "I think your American (posting time and lack of U's)".
The "my opinion of your opinion" shows that it is perfectly possible to nest opinions. From these two things it seems reasonable to assume that "My opinion of my opinion" is an example of this and that something similar could be sade of "My opinion of my favourite".
And as such any relationship between "My favourite colour" and "In my opinion the best colour" has to be argued on it's own merits. I'd probably favour them being highly correlated or mutually causal rather than fundementally directly synonymous.
Two reasons: in the first post you gave a perfect example of a case when the favourite is not the best. More generally I'm not sure that I ever actually think my favourite colour is the 'best', it's definitely the 'best at making me individually respond the way I do to favourite things', but that's different claim.Last edited by jayem; 2020-07-26 at 07:58 PM.
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2020-07-26, 08:59 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Opinions can be wrong..?
Sure but this is the "generally" coming in. Sometimes it's not used the same way and that's just because language is sloppy.
Right but this is acknowledged. Sometimes synonymous words don't substitute. You've presented one such occurrence.
We're treating it like we treat all synonyms which is to say, using them when they apply and not using them when they don't. That's not a special type, that's also just how speech works and we generally learn about this through following other people's language patterns as kids.
Well no because there's nuance and the answer to the OP's question is that some opinions can be right or wrong while others can't and they have to be evaluated on a case by case basis.
Ok but then you (and Cheesegear) have to admit that you're using the world Feeling in a way that isn't the same as the general use of the term because you both just are. While you're at that, you should probably ask yourself why and see if you can't come up with something else. Especially if you're going to hold people (and this is more Cheesegear) to not using the terms "wrong". If you're going to swap words around and then expect logical proofs, and this is more you, then you better have your ducks in a row otherwise you're going to get called out like you have.
These aren't the same either. I'm either American or not and you're either British or not and you can demonstrate them. You also changed "my opinion" to "I think" which..I think you did because I brought up an opinion tells us what you're thinking. But that doesn't mean think=opinion are 1:1 either.
Except you miss a beat here. You know your thoughts, you don't know mine and that missing knowledge is why you can nest the first and not nest the second. Just because you can do the one doesn't mean you can do it elsewhere.
It depends on the situation but I've already hedged that particular area enough to the point that me repeating "there are cases outside the norm"/general is not specific isn't doing anyone any good.
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2020-07-27, 02:26 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Opinions can be wrong..?
Well no because there's nuance and the answer to the OP's question is that some opinions can be right or wrong while others can't and they have to be evaluated on a case by case basis.
His position was that given any opinion, it can't be right or wrong. To do that you'd either need to exclude lots of things I think would be opinions (and we've now confirmed at least one of them is an opinion), or that those opinions can't be right or wrong (again we've confirmed that said opinion doesn't come in that category)
Had the OP asked about favourites, subjective opinions, I wouldn't be so sure. Hence I clearly don't actually treat them as being synonymous.
Well you've got 2nd favourite, least favourite etc... (which I'd accept as being special cases of favourite, but at some point it's looking more like "likes")
Our opinions about our governments, colleagues, motivations, others motivations
Most interesting book, most passionate book, longest book I've read.
Any thing unknown about an object.
For every 'favourite' (X out of Y), I think just asking the question 'so why do you think, X is the best out of Y', will reveal at least one non-favourite opinion. (I leave open the possibility that that one of those opinions could be you don't actually think X is the best)
For every persons favourite, someone has probably considered "what is their favourite" (with the intention of selling, giving, being, critiscising) it.
For a large number of opinions you hold, you've presumably considered and rejected it's opposite. For others you've changed your mind.
Ok but then you (and Cheesegear) have to admit that you're using the world Feeling in a way that isn't the same as the general use of the term because you both just are. While you're at that, you should probably ask yourself why and see if you can't come up with something else. Especially if you're going to hold people (and this is more Cheesegear) to not using the terms "wrong". If you're going to swap words around and then expect logical proofs, and this is more you, then you better have your ducks in a row otherwise you're going to get called out like you have.
And it's a minority that explicitly includes Cambridge [url=https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/feeling#cald4-1-3], Merriam Webster (4a : often unreasoned opinion or belief). As you say that doesn't prove it's the best use, and I'm not holding you to it, and you can call for clarification when we build on it.
But at that point it's a minority that's sufficiently large for me to be happy to not feel like some sort of freak for using it in that way (as well as meanings 1-3 in their context).
These aren't the same either. I'm either American or not and you're either British or not and you can demonstrate them. You also changed "my opinion" to "I think" which..I think you did because I brought up an opinion tells us what you're thinking. But that doesn't mean think=opinion are 1:1 either.
It wasn't targeted as a deliberate response, if there were any motivation it would have been to highlight the absurdity of me qualifying my statement.
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Re: Opinions can be wrong..?
This is literally the exact opposite of how I use favorite, preference, and love/hate. Favorite is simply strong preference for, whereas if I love something then I think that it should be considered to be good, even by others - it's a value judgement born of my feelings ("I love it, therefore it is good" with the second half just going unsaid), not just a preference. In fact, I'm not even sure what you're trying to say here, as I've never seen favorite used the way you are using it.
"Blue is my favorite color" and "I think blue is the best color" are NOT functionally identical to me, and I don't think you're in the majority for saying they are. "Blue is my favorite color" is akin to "I find blue more aesthetically pleasing than I do any other color," saying NOTHING about the actual value of blue. "I think blue is the best color," however, is a value statement akin to what you claim to mean by favorite, which, as I've said, I've never heard anyone use favorite that way before.
As for what counts as opinion... preferences are more closely related to feelings than they are to opinions. Opinions are beliefs (as, for example, of values) or suppositions of fact without proof positive. For example: It is my opinion that your interpretation of "favorite" is not the most commonly held one. I arrived at this opinion through examining my personal experience and this thread. However, I do not have solid statistical data conclusively proving that I am correct. Therefore, it is an opinion.
Also: if you actually use favorite in the way you say you do... wow. Do you actually have a favorite color in that sense? Because that's... I would question the sanity of anyone claiming to have a favorite color in that sense. Anyone who actually thinks there is a best color... that's kind of insane. Unless I have misunderstood you and you think "X is the best Y" means different things based on context? Because in my usage, "X is the best Y" doesn't mean "I prefer it the most" it means "I think that others should also value X most highly of Y." That is, it's an opinion, not a preference.Last edited by Fiery Diamond; 2020-07-27 at 05:07 AM.
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Not as such no, I very clearly specified that that was on Cheesegear but you also said you more or less agreed with them....so yeah.
Also notice that (at least for Mirriam) that definition is number 4 on the list. I bet you if I looked the way I was using it was much higher on the list, because those listings are based on common usage. Weird that you didn't include that while trying to be pithy. I wonder why *Checks*
OH HEY. Number 2. Surprised it's not higher but I totally get the first usage being the most common.
Wow, good to know that you just throw everyone into a bin as "insane" if they deviate from your usage of terms. That's...really gross, actually!! You clearly did misunderstand though because I made it really clear that context is important in my back and forth with Jayem. I do my best to be pretty precise with my wording and hedge my bets, I throw in a lot of generally and in most cases to make sure that it's really really clear that I don't mean things in an absolute way.
But that, to me, is a really strange way of using "the best". Because I'd never personally presume to ever tell someone what they should value based on my own personal experiences. I think you might be off base on just how common people use it my way, if that's how you use it. When someone tells me fruit loops is the best cereal I take it to mean that's their opinion and generally that seems to be the right assumption. I almost never take it to mean they think I should also feel that way. I do sometimes but when I do, I respond in kind like this. Because it's just like, your opinion dude.
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We're supposed to presume good faith, but this strikes me as very disingenuous. You're obviously a reasonably intelligent person, and you acknowledge the inherent ambiguity of language and the importance of context. For example:
You clearly did misunderstand though because I made it really clear that context is important in my back and forth with Jayem. I do my best to be pretty precise with my wording and hedge my bets, I throw in a lot of generally and in most cases to make sure that it's really really clear that I don't mean things in an absolute way.
Personally, I agree with your position much more than Fiery Diamond's when it comes to how most people delineate terms like "favorite," "opinion," and "best." Personally, I'd be very surprised if somebody has never encountered the use of "Blue is the best color" to mean "Blue is my preferred color," or "Blue is the color that is most aesthetically pleasing to me." And if Fiery Diamond had argued "anyone who uses the word 'best' to mean anything other than my own idiosyncratic way is insane," I would probably be right the righteous indignation train.
That said, context matters--like you say. At least from my first reading of his post, it seemed clear and unambiguous that he wasn't criticizing people who "deviate from [his] usage of terms," as you assert. The allegedly "gross" comment was clearly directed to people who believe that there can be a [value judgment] "best" color.
And honestly, I don't entirely agree with him on that point. I agree that the idea of one color being morally "the best" is crazy. I think that the idea of of one color being "the best" in a morally-agnostic, but somehow objective, universal metric has no basis in logic, but I wouldn't go as far to call the idea insane, simply because it has a quasi-basis in sound reasoning. Some colors are better suited for certain roles than others--by a given metric or for a given function, there can absolutely be a "best" color. On that basis, it's not insane to think that you might look at a bunch of these metrics on a meta-level and come up with some sort of overall ranking--even if such an idea doesn't really stand up to scrutiny.
Because I'd never personally presume to ever tell someone what they should value based on my own personal experiences.
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I don't think I was that covert about there being other uses.
The reason was because the other uses were irrelevant. I didn't care what else I used the word for, or what you instead used the word for, just that other people used the word the same way I sometimes do.
The multiple uses is one reason I wouldn't want to make heavy use of the word 'feelings'. You consider all the problems the OP, you and I and everyone else has had, where we were at least (trying to be) individually consistent. Imagine what it would be like where we also have six significantly different usages*.
The other is that feelings(4) is defined on all those dictionaries in-terms of opinions, so while that gives me some company feeling(4) the way I did about the relationship, it doesn't really give anything to build on.
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I do think it true that there are opinions that can't be wrong.
And definitely true that there are preferences that can't be factually 'false'. Possibly true that there are no preferences that are themselves are incorrect**
And that your examples were examples of opinions or preferences that fall in that category.
If your friends had started out by saying "Opinions have to be true/false" and then everything followed exactly the same, I would by 90% on your side (99.99% if they'd said "Preferences...")
*There is a handicap that if they know they are wrong, they aren't their opinion. The easier it is to show that it is wrong, the more it will look self evidently wrong (and hence a bit artificial). While if they can show it's genuine, and not self evidently wrong, then you can believe it's not wrong.
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What does it even mean to say Red/Brown is false, it's a colour, colours don't do veracity.
However:
It could be that for some arcane reason, hypnosis?, you were somehow fundamentally wrong about what you think your favourite colour is. (quite how that would work is an exercise to the reader).
My favourite cartoon is The Late Show, would also have issues.Last edited by jayem; 2020-07-27 at 05:33 PM.
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I didn't call them gross, I called the sentiment gross. I totally get that they're using it in a colloquial sense. It's why I used quotations around insane. I do think it's gross to use insane in that context, in the same way I'd think it was gross if someone used the word gay to describe something they think is gross or as often is the case, stupid or unnecessary. Of course I don't think Diamond was actually calling them mentally ill. I'm not even indignant, just frustrated that people are still using it for what is close to a pejorative slang. Which I also don't think Diamond was going for which is why I didn't just ignore it and report it.
I think they got very close. Close enough for even a little indignation.
Considering I've flat out said I don't believe in absolutes in this very thread, I think it's fair to assume the latter.
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Saying that something is "the best" is, inherently, an incomplete claim. "Blue is the best colour" means nothing at all, unless it can be applied to something - best for what?
Without any other context or clues, it might be reasonable to assume the answer is "pleasing the person making the claim", and so it's simply a statement of preference, no more or less loaded than "my favourite colour is blue".
But in reality, there is always context. Even if I create a brand new Twitter account, post "Blue is the best colour" without any clue as to what I'm talking about, anyone who reads it is going to make their own assumptions. I might be talking about the background of Twitter, or a line on a graph, or my new face mask. Anyone who thinks about the statement will see it in the context of whatever they are currently preoccupied with, and their reaction will be based on that."None of us likes to be hated, none of us likes to be shunned. A natural result of these conditions is, that we consciously or unconsciously pay more attention to tuning our opinions to our neighbor’s pitch and preserving his approval than we do to examining the opinions searchingly and seeing to it that they are right and sound." - Mark Twain
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Of course opinions can be wrong. I've been curating the MitD thread for ages. It is filled wall-to-wall with opinions: on what is and isn't a clue, what abilities fulfil those clues, what MitD is, and so on. Inevitably, most of those opinions will turn out to be wrong. Heck, I'll count myself lucky if any turn out to be right.
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There is always an optimal answer for any given question and so an optimal choice for any given problem.
This means that while you can find a solution through different ways, there's always one that is objectively better.
The whole issue is "what are the criteria to define what is best ?"
The distinction you can make between "opinions" and "facts" here is a difference on these criterias :
Asking for opinions is asking about subjective preference ("what do you like better")
Asking for facts is asking about actual objective truth ("what are things")
Of course, it might be your opinion that something is while, in objective truth, it isn't.
If your opinion is that the grass is red, we have objective ways to verify this and prove you wrong.
It is an opinion presented as fact.
If your opinion is that sweet popcorn tastes better than salted popcorn, we can conduct a poll among people to know what is the majority answer.
But that's really, in the end, just an opinion, since there's no real objective truth, as it's purely a matter of preference.
We might dig further to know WHY you prefer sweet over salty for popcorn.
You might have actual arguments which don't boil down to "I like it better".
And for this, we can examine objective truth... and so find facts.
So yes, opinions can be wrong when they are routed in incorrect facts.
But if they are really just preferences... they can hardly be wrong, as the criteria for right or wrong would be "what do you like best ?".
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I think the whole "second opinion" terminology has occluded a key distinction--analysis, predictions, factual assertions of things not proven incontrovertibly, they're not "opinion" in the strictest sense. They're factual assertions. And like you say, they can be wrong.
People like to call them "opinion" to acknowledge the fact that analysis has subjective elements and that reaching the wrong conclusion doesn't always imply that your reasoning was flawed or invalid. Individuals might have different information about the situation at hand and different education and training with which to understand that information. In terms of making accurate and useful predictions--particular in science--some models and methods are provably better than others, and despite the fact that we acknowledge that human knowledge might never reach the level of perfection, theoretically there could be a perfect (or at least best) model out there.
Things get wonkier when you involve human behavior--particularly humans who could interact with your predictions. Rich could theoretically decide to troll everyone in that thread and reveal that the MitD is actually three Minbari under a trench coat, using dragon orbs to enact all of its demonstrated abilities. At which point literally everyone would be factually wrong about their prediction.
However, being factually wrong or right doesn't definitively tell you how reasonable they were in making that prediction. If the strips leave clues that conspicuously coincide with the most prominent traits listed in the Monster Manual, it's pretty reasonable to say that this is the monster. If someone else points to a history of deliberate subversions and fake outs by the author and claims that the "obvious" choices would never be picked, that could also be compelling analysis. And if someone claims that Rich will spin a wheel of monsters, and that they predicted his choice because they spun their wheel of monsters, which is connected to Rich's through quantum entanglement... then you should probably ask some more questions before getting too invested in their claims.
That's a fine hair to split, but sure.
I think they got very close. Close enough for even a little indignation.
I totally get that they're using it in a colloquial sense. It's why I used quotations around insane.
My actual objection, which you might have overlooked, was to this (emphasis added)
Wow, good to know that you just throw everyone into a bin as "insane" if they deviate from your usage of terms. That's...really gross, actually!!
I do think it's gross to use insane in that context, in the same way I'd think it was gross if someone used the word gay to describe something they think is gross or as often is the case, stupid or unnecessary.
However, I find it hard to get indignant about this particular use. For some things, I think it's perfectly rational to believe a best example exists. A car, for example. You have metrics that you can use to compare cars, and you can theoretically have one that's equal or superior to another one by every conceivable metric. Once you get into trade-offs, you can aggregate metrics into a single, unified value that should hopefully have some general value for comparing cars. At that point, you get into preference-ish territory, but there's still an inherent logic in picking an overall meta-metric that matters to you, and using that to determine the best cars for what you think the quintessential function of a car is. (Even if that function is "look cool, regardless of functionality.)
However, for something like color, or race, I find it much harder to get indignant about asserting that it's inherently irrational to believe that one is the overall [value judgment] "best." Yes, maybe you have a point that it's more politically correct and sensitive to use a more neutral term like "irrational" instead of "insane" or "crazy," and if you had devoted substantial text to emphasizing that point rather than breaking down all the ways you thought that someone else's definitions for "opinion" didn't match those of "normal people," then that point would have come across better.
That does raise another interesting issue: Aren't you now telling people how they should be using and valuing terms based on your own personal experiences? In terms of slurs and pejorative uses, I think society is generally on the right track in terms of values, even if individually we don't always live up to those values. We recognize that some terms are offensive when we see the history of use in an intentionally offensive way. We acknowledge that even when there isn't malicious intent, the use of a term might offend some people, and that when those people take offense, then our lack of malicious intent doesn't somehow invalidate their offense. And I think it's good that some people, when governing their own words and actions, are considerate enough to try to predict what might be offensive and to give it a wide berth.
However, I'm much more ambivalent about the trend of taking offense on behalf of others. I don't suffer from mental illness, so I don't claim to speak from that experience, and if someone wants to point me to some body who could legitimately claim to speak on behalf of folks with mental illness asserting that "crazy" is effectively the n-word, then I have no reason to question their claims and experiences. All I can say is that the folks I know well who openly struggle with mental illness don't take the position that you do. They've never claimed that they find the use of "crazy" or "insane" in every context to be inherently insulting or demeaning. Many have expressed that they really don't like it when someone lumps the whole panoply of diverse mental illnesses under the same "crazy" umbrella, or call them "insane" as a way to dismiss the opinion or to attack the credibility of someone just because they suffer from depression or bipolar disorder. However, I don't think I've ever noticed anyone taking offense or conspicuously avoiding the use of the term in more neutral contexts. (Also, one of these guys is a college drinking buddy who talked people into streaking with him eight times before finals, so I'm pretty sure the phrase "this is crazy!" has been uttered in front of him countless times.)
It seems that at worst, something like "crazy" could be compared to a word like "thug": Offensive for its use (or overuse in certain contexts) and arguably a dog whistle in others. However, the defining characteristic of a dog whistle is that it has a long history of neutral, inoffensive usage to hide behind. As a good citizen, it's probably a good idea to familiarize yourself with the problematic contexts so you can avoid inadvertent offense, but I think most people already do that. (At least, for me and most people I know, it seems universally accepted that calling someone with mental illness "crazy" pretty much makes you a huge jerk, if not worse.) However, jerks co-opting a term doesn't seem like enough justification to go around trying to eradicate all prior uses from our vernacular.
Considering I've flat out said I don't believe in absolutes in this very thread, I think it's fair to assume the latter.Last edited by Xyril; 2020-07-30 at 05:57 PM.
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I don't think it's too fine a one, it's important. I'm not calling them gross, I'm calling the usage of a term like "insane" to sweep people up into a category (I realize that's not exactly what they were trying to do but I don't think it's squinting when one might conclude it is) gross. There's a slew of words that I can't even bring up on these forums due to a change in the sensitivity people have, that's changed them to slurs of a sort. That's not me decrying PC culture, I'm just saying if we've relegated those words, and I think you know at least one or two off the top of your head, than insane ought to be on there. Mental health issues have a hard enough time being taken seriously even in this day in age.
I'm not so much against, because who the hell am I to tell you what you can say...I don't want that job..., as pointing out it's not particularly a good look. Crazy has been used in a lot of different contexts so that one doesn't particularly bother me, irrational is a fine one to use and I certainly think that's what Diamond was going for more on the point I contended. Insane just has a good deal of hefty baggage with it, often as a brute dismissal in a context that crazy or irrational just doesn't. As someone with mental health issues, I am certainly more cognizant of it as a pejorative having heard it to render any thoughts I might have on a subject moot simply by merit that my brain chemistry is out of wack. Which I don't think Diamond was going for.
I didn't miss it, rather I think there was a mix of both. You've certainly argued the point well that I might have not been taking it in the best of faith but I'm still convinced there was a mix of both what I was contending and what I missed bringing up and you've rightly pointed out.
It's fair, I won't skip an opportunity to press the point that absolute anything isn't anything I ever argue even if I don't qualify it in every statement. If for no other reason than to make sure that people will know what I don't that it's implied.
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That's the problem when people can't accept the difference of opinions. For example when I post a negative movie review about the Avengers: Infinity War everybody was making a big deal about my negative review. All I was doing is to express my honest opinion of the movie. I mean seriously they can't force me to change my opinion to like something that I hate just to make everybody happy.
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Well their opinion is that they can.
Opinions are funny that way. You are watching what is called tribalism and sunk cost fallacy combining in a very funny way*. That is the idea that if you don't like what they did and express it, then that is an attack on everything they stand for. Since they put effort into liking A:IW trying to change their liking is an attack on their core beliefs. It's all very silly, but the TL:DR is if you don't like exactly what they do you are attacking their personal values.
*well that's my opinion, it is the best way I can describe it really
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I understand that. But if people want me to change my opinion on a certain topic then I'm not going to change my opinion to align their opinion on that topic. People are entitled to express their opinion, so do I. They don't have to agree with me on my opinion and I don't have to agree on their opinion. So the feeling is mutual.
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You've brought this example up a few times now. I went back to look at it. People weren't making a big deal about your negative review being negative because of it being negative. People were saying you weren't honestly engaging the film on its own terms.
Nobody minded that you didn't like it. Heck, nobody gave Magic Hat grief for not liking the entire MCU. They reacted poorly because you did not engage the film on its own terms, and some of what you said such as "The Heroes didn't make an effort to stop Thanos" was blatantly not true, because the heroes made multiple efforts to stop Thanos, they just failed.
This goes back to what I've said about constructive criticism versus not. The heroes were never going to win in part 1 of a 2 part movie. That's not how narrative structures work.
No one's saying you have to agree with them, they were just trying to help make your movie reviews better and more objective. There's a pretty wide gulf between "I didn't like this movie" And "This movie was actively bad." Both are objective statements, but the first is based on subjective criteria, and the second has to be based on objective criteria.Last edited by Mystic Muse; 2020-08-02 at 02:10 PM.
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Ok since we got that clear maybe this is a better example. A few years ago I made a Facebook post about my dislike of Judge Judy. The reason why I dislike her because she verbally abused her guest on her show. It was a very reasonable and valid opinion. Anyway, a Facebook friend of mine got upset about me because of what I said about her and I told him "I have a right to express my opinion whatever you agree with me or not and I have a right to speak my mind on that." And he said that "I have the right to block you." and he blocked me on Facebook permanently over a TV show.
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Whether you like or don't like something - is not really a question that can be debated. If you don't like it, you don't like it. Fine, whatever. Others may disagree, and that's also fine.
But there is another kind of "opinion", the kind that appears to be something more than just a matter of personal preference. If you say that something is "good" or "bad", let alone "best" or "worst", then you have to be prepared to defend your opinion. Explain your criteria, and how you arrived at that conclusion. Then others can understand your reasoning, and form their own judgments as to whether your judgment is valid.
Which is why professional reviewers write a great deal more than "I hated this movie because it didn't end happily". They'll write about how the movie sets up expectations, then fails to fulfil them. How it forgets about its own loose ends. See here, for example."None of us likes to be hated, none of us likes to be shunned. A natural result of these conditions is, that we consciously or unconsciously pay more attention to tuning our opinions to our neighbor’s pitch and preserving his approval than we do to examining the opinions searchingly and seeing to it that they are right and sound." - Mark Twain
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Well I can't specifically speak of this situation, it may not apply here. But I can emphatizse with the idea that it feels like other people cannot let me have my opinion. The internet has always been like this IMO. I sometimes get this overwhelming urge to try and "correct" people online. It's super futile but still.
If we are going to be honest now I checked down a couple replies, it can't be discounted that people are against a negative review just because it's a negative review and then just picks something in it to try and dismiss it outright. For argument's sake let's say you watch A:IW and do indeed think it sucks because the heroes didn't win. Well, one way to look at it is: I went to the movie and didn't realise I was ending up in a "To Be Continued..." I hate those sprung on me in tv shows as a kid and I would probably not appreciate it now. I may not realise at the time I wrote the review that this was what bothered me. The only thing I could tell is I saw it, heroes lsot and I thought it was bad. That doesn't mean I was wrong however. Or that pointing out there is a supposed logical flaw, from the perspective of someon reaidng ti without my experience, means the other person is right. We had different frames of references.
Err... yes it can? Why you like or dislike something is kinda fundamental. It's why pressing the sadface emoji on a feedback form pops a "can you please tell us what was wrong" prompt, whreas the positive emojis usually won't. Not all likes or dislikes are easy to dig out, but usually it's worth digging a little deeper than the surface. There exists huge industries based on the idea to that figuring out why you like or dislike things matters.
The difference between a debate and the thing Bartmanhomer is sorta describing is that in the former people don't take it as a personal insult that you didn't think the same way and berates you on every point of disagreement. It really should be about paring down to understand the others viewpoint, but mostly it turns into trying to change it.
I don't like Reservoir Dogs, but I like the Sharknado movies. I bet most you will want click the spoiler tags for the explanation. Instead of just shrugging and and going "meh likes and dislikes matters not".
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It is a funny thing, I can on the face of it appreciate that Reservoir Dogs has good acting, good directing, good writing. I should enjoy this.
On the other hand I can tell Sharknado has terrible acting, sucky effects, mediocre directing and mediocre at best writing. Yet, I enjoy it more than the former.
The thing Sharknado has is love of making film, it knows what it is and doesn't try to be more than it can. It knows it is flawed and can't live up to standards it would like so it just is what it is. And I can appreciate that. You can feel it all throughtout, "we loved making movies but this was the best we could do, but it was a blast doing it". And for the record as they make more of the franchise this charms wears off for me. The second one I cna still feel the wonder, "omg! we got to make a seocnd one!?! how did that happen". After that they are eaten up by the souless chasm that's Hollywood and people trying to muscle in on a surprise hit.
I couldn't for a long time put my finger on why I don't liek Reservoir Dogs, until in a the chat of a game I said I didn't like it, and someone said yeah it's the violence scene in it. And I realised they were absolutely correct. That long tortuous, literally, thing in it just makes it badwrong for me. I would never have though of it myself because e.g. Kill Bill vol 1&2's gratituous violence does not bother me at all. I think Kill Bill feels too over the top silly, whereas Reservoir Dogs comes over as "real".
I can apreciate that on most, probably all, metrics a film is evaluated Reservoir Dogs is a far far better film than Sharknado. And the scene in Reservoir Dogs I can objectively say is vey powerful, emotional, imapctful, it gets to me clearly. But it also means I can't enjoy any of it.
And as another example (and yes it's another Tarantino because I want to cut down variables) I never could enjoy Inglorious Basterds either, my specific gripe here (I think) is that it's so wildly a-historical I can't get past that, and it ruins it all.