Hi. Details below, skip to the last paragraph for the actual questions I've got.

So My group is a fairly causal play group, we usually don't even remember each others characters names, just using the players names, if that's any indication of how casual we are.

Most of us are fallout fans, and having heard that Exodus was meant to be fallout D20 but had the license pulled, they went and changed some names and art, and published anyway. So it's a bit rough around the edges, but still a decent game. We picked up two new group members, they've been gaming together for a while, and haven't given me any reason not to trust them.

Turns out I don't enjoy being storyteller as much as I thought I would in this setting, and the new girl wanted to run a few games, that's where the issue starts.

I gave the group some robots to fight, and the new guy wanted to reprogram them. No issue there, but I explained they were close-combat only, and programing he couldn't remove with his current skill checks kept them from touching computers. Just some restrictions I felt were good for flavor.

Now that I'm not running the game, the groups trans-genetic-mutant (Read: super mutant) is on a different experience scale (I can't find any evidence of this scale in the book) and the robots that were re-programed are... different. What the group knows I gave them stat=wise is AC14, a +2 strength bonus, with PDR:4 (physical DR) Now that I'm not running the game an NPC rolled a natural 17 and missed one of the robots, and the one we took with us has an SMG. As a final note, the new guy seems to know everything about the game, and is leading us from treasure to treasure, flat out telling us to ignore some areas, and to inspect some otherwise uninteresting areas.

I want to take back over when she's done, but I don't want to take over and change everything back, 'cause I know that's a jerk move, but I have no idea where she's getting this from. There's no ECL bonus on the races, nothing about each race leveling differently, everything I've told them about the robots was completely ignored, and it's become a game of "Watch us two role-play and meta-game while you all sit there."

Help?