Quote Originally Posted by Blue Ghost View Post
It's been a while since I've read C.S. Lewis's The Four Loves, but I found his discussion of Philia quite interesting, though I'm not sure I agree with it. If I recall correctly, he says that the difference between Philia and Eros is that in Eros the lovers look toward each other, while in Philos the friends stand beside each other looking toward something beyond themselves. I have not experienced Eros, but in my friendships, my friends and I are always looking toward each other more than anything else. Does that mean that Lewis was wrong, or that I'm doing it wrong? I do sometimes want my friendships to be fixed on something external...
It means that by standing side by side, we look at at something bigger, and that bigger thing is the unity that we have as friends. So in a way, we are looking at ourselves while still being side by side.