Quote Originally Posted by rogueboy View Post
First thought at reading this: how are you going to get those interactions, if you aren't willing to trust that they might not break faith with you? I realize this probably doesn't help, but I guess my point is this: you're going to have to change something fundamental about your interactions with women if you want things to change (and yes, I realize that this probably isn't news to you). I'm just throwing thoughts out here, hopefully it causes something you (or someone else) can build on, preferably towards something productive.
I do periodically have interactions of the sort, but usually only after knowing the person for a while and trusting them to the degree that I allow myself to be influenced by their attentions.

In the last three cases, it has led to them coming to me some months into the relationship and admitting there was someone else, and me telling them (in complete honesty) that I knew. Perhaps, if that weren't the pattern, I could more freely engage in such interactions.