Quote Originally Posted by MonkeyBusiness View Post
Actually, your experience is not unusual. It is normal, even typical: as you note, your father seems to be taking this calmly as well. Grief is more than sad feelings. It can include anger, fear, and numbness.
Yeah, my mom said she had the same, and my dad was just passing by and said he too.

I guess part of it may be, that we're at least used to it in theory. My mom is a pastor, my dad works in a mental institution for dangerous criminals, I worked in a nursery home, and most of our family friends are nurses, firemen, and police officers. That gives you a different perspective at things, you are lot more in control, knowing what's going on.
But there's probably also the experts's curse as work here. An architect can't walk down the street and a critic not watch a single movie without analyzing everything and nitpicking about every tiny detail. And when you're trained how to spot people struggling with grief, you can't help but making yourself a case study.