Shouldn't most important organization led by female be Azure city resistance?
Resistance is certainly more important than some random bandit group.
Haley was de facto leader, and strategist after all.
I don't see any implication with Miko and Redcloak that they are straight. They both looked asexual to me, especially Miko, since there is maybe a reference in SOD that I missed about Redcloak's sexuality, but Miko is (at least to me) clearly asexual.