...I wasn't endorsing the way of doing things that I've experienced and that seems to have been the experience of the majority of my cohort/peer-group.
Edit: I certainly agree that people having the ability to explore and grow into their sexuality or asexuality freely or as freely as possible is for the better. I think I'm misreading you here somehow, but I can't quite place my finger on how, sorry. I should not try to think on New Year's Day.