Quote Originally Posted by Lissou View Post
My boyfriend has told me at some point that he felt like he was getting a lot from me and was giving very little.
There's this sentiment going around, that in a good relationship both people feel like they're getting more than they give, and somehow the math works out. It's pretty apt.

Quote Originally Posted by AuthorGirl View Post
Yeah, as for the hurt-reduction strategy, I agree with you 100%. It doesn't help. It especially doesn't help when someone says "I haven't forgotten about us, let's try again in maybe half a year" and then finds somebody new in the same week. (Is my bitterness showing?).
Ugh ugh ugh uuuugggh. I mean, I understand the feeling behind it (it's been 2/3 of a year since I broke up with my ex and I'm still holding out hope that we'll somehow magically work out one day). But it's just cruel to involve the other person in your lies to yourself.