I have no problem with a bet . However, no idea where to get Devonshire cream
However, my assumptions are:
- the "time limit" starts once you hit the "I'm not against new relationship but I'm fine with being single",
- you have to work towards the goal, not against it,
- you have to start meeting new people.
Agreed?
Umm... so, you don't meet new people but you met new friend-of-a-friend?
Should I ask what are the reasons? Or should I leave at the fact that you actually meet new people, just rather rarely?
I have found out that my biggest bursts of creativity come at two times: when there's nothing else to do to amuse myself, and when I'm having rather powerful unhappy feelings.
It's hard to decide to stay alone.
But you forget: you are not alone. Just single.
One thing my sister always does (I'm not a big fan of this, but she's a woman and she deals with things differently than I do) is... don't be disgusted with yourself. Be disgusted with him - he's the one who's pulling you through this mud, if he were such a great catch, he wouldn't do this to you and he would be up front.
Become disgusted with him. It might help.
That's actually nice!
Let's take a look at the wider picture: One or two out of...? And will the others - the ones that stay - still make the relationship so unbearable that we'll have the same discussion later?
Ok, so why did you break up? Don't answer me. Just answer yourself - if you are compatible, what happened?
It was three years for me too.
And let me tell you - it was worth it. The three years. Because I now remember that time - and when I was again placed in unhappy relationship, I ended it. Just for the reason that it's not worth waiting for someone who does not want to work on the relationship - or be in it. Because someone else might be much better match - and will stay and work through the bad times.
Apologies.
But yes, I would do that for a friend of mine anytime.