Quote Originally Posted by Comrade View Post
Pardon me for sort of interjecting here (I'd like to offer some manner of useful or productive input soon, just don't quite have the time to respond yet), I just found the premise real pertinent to myself because I've been kind of puzzled lately over the question of attraction. Three times this year I've found myself sufficiently attracted to somebody to think 'I should/would really like to ask them on a date' (though in only one cases have I ended up doing so). That feels kind of excessive, but I don't know if that's just because I went from zero cases of attraction to three in just a year. Or maybe I really am just really flighty with my affections. I feel like I have no real context or lens for that.
Compared to the neurotypical, allosexual population for number of people whom one wants to bone and/or date per annum, that is not flighty at all, though it's hard to judge the actual substance of those crushes/attractions/affections.

Well, some people who are neurotypical and allosexual will actually only have a few instances of someone they are interested in pair-bonding with, but barring extreme circumstances, they'll encounter someone sexually attractive with at least some regularity even if they don't have the time to stop and enjoy it.

Come to think of it, I'm curious if polyamorous people find more people they'd be potentially interested in romantically than average.