Originally Posted by
RedMage125
Eilistraee is the light in the darkness for the drow, but that said...she is her mother's daughter. The small surface societies dedicated to her are dominated by the clergy, who are EXCLUSIVELY female. They're more benevolent than Lolth's to be sure, but they still thought of males as inferior.
In previous editions, the sword dancers were clerics (specialty priest kit in 2e, PrC in 3.5e), and thus HAD to be female. I don't think you necessarily have to stick with that, however. But I'd say the Swords Bard is a better starting platform then the wizard, if for no other reason than which stat you're building for.
I do like the Dark Maiden, though. If you want some great reading on her, read the Lady Penitent Trilogy by Lisa Smedman. Some things are easier to understand if you've read the War of the Spider Queen series before, but it's not-strictly speaking-necessary. It might give you some inspiration, especially if your DM is on board with the Masked Lady amalgam.