Youre pretty firmly in the minority camp there. Im not offering a lot of sympathy for people who play a game based off of D&D, and with the Baldur's Gate label in particular, and then getting upset when they do something actively foolish that they should know is foolish and then getting killed. At least you CAN load a save in BG. If somebody fed themselves to an Illithid at second level in my campaign, or the equivalent, i'd tell them to get out the character rolling dice and to be more careful next time.
Come to think of it, i have. Dont stop to turn around and cast a spell at a bunch of orcs when you only have a d4 hit dice, 1st level AD&D wizard.