I’d like to point out that V didn’t really leave to become an adventurer, that just happened, they just kinda, left for human lands to, I dunno, study magic alone? Which didn’t help Inky get any money or save the world or protect the nation or well do anything of use to anyone but V who got to level up more. Only later, after having spent a significant time in the non elven lands, did V start adventuring, again to get more magic and levels and seemingly also not like, sending any gold back to help their family. Not a good spouse by any means