Abusive? Not overtly. Exceedingly manipulative? Yes. And he infantilizes her while he does it. That is my entire meaning.

Their dynamic is closer to parent and child than boyfriend and girlfriend. She idolizes him, views him as essentially perfect, and does anything he says.

He, on the flip side, seems...fond of her? I guess? In a really distant way. Like a pet, almost. But a really useful one he can point and click to solve problems that require brute force and not much else.

Their whole dynamic is icky.