I just said that I was frustrated, not that I wanted advice that I obviously can't follow. I had even made the end of my post sorta self-mocking because I knew I was metaphorically urinating into the wind.
The hobby is totally full of people less socially skilled than I was at 20, and I was as introvert as I could be. Straight up be people who are amazed girls/women exist. These people are real, I have met them.
Granted, I've had such a small number of girls or women play in my campaigns or at other campaigns I was in. I've literally had twice as many people (each) who were autistic, transgender, from South America, Libertarian, Anarchist, from Eastern Europe, personally had been or was a soldier.... and I think some other rare demographic I can't recall right now.