My swordsages are usually real heavy on Shadow Hand and Setting Sun (tend to play a reworked version of the unarmed variant), especially if I intend to go into SSN (which, frankly, oozes awesome from every pore).
When I want a 'Diamond Tiger,' I usually go for a Warblade/Swordsage combo instead of straight Swordsage. Desert Wind I avoid like the plague.