Why not some mix of Knight/Warblade/Tactical Soldier? You draw attention to yourself with Knight Challenges, direct your allies through White Raven maneuvers (not all of which boil down to "Charge!") and use Tactical Soldier to create interesting flanks and otherwise battlefield control.

Person Man's Knight Handbook covers a lot of that, especially the nummy parts of Tact Soldier.

Them's my 2 coppers. Take as you will.