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2016-01-19, 01:50 PM (ISO 8601)
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Home game with a younger player - looking for advice
My old group fell apart and I wound up assembling a group of strangers using Facebook and Meetup. I talked to everyone online a bit, then we met at a game store to make characters and ensure we all got along. Everything went smooth, but one of them wasn't able to make it so we scheduled a meeting for another day.
I wound up searching for him on Facebook and noticed he looked young. The group so far is 20, 23, 29, 30, and 41(ish). I sent this guy an e-mail asking his age - he says he's 17. Apparently he lives on his own and moved here from a different state after finishing high school. I don't know if he's in college or what. I still plan on meeting him this Friday so we can see if we're a good fit, but I can't help but feel a bit odd about his age. On the one hand D&D is essentially a board game - yes, more complex and involved than Monopoly, but still just a game you get together with others to play - so his age shouldn't really matter. But on the other hand... I feel odd about inviting a 17 year old into my home.
I don't feel like it should be an issue, the guy seemed cool enough in our discussions, and I was playing D&D with an 'older' crowd when I was 15-18 years old. But I can't shake the odd feeling. So I'm looking for advice/opinions on this.
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2016-01-19, 02:41 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Home game with a younger player - looking for advice
I'd just try it out. Don't make an issue of his age; if he's on his own, he's making his own choices anyway. Don't tolerate anything you wouldn't from anybody else, and don't expect anything you wouldn't from anybody else. If you've got young 20-somethings in the group, he'll probably fit in okay with them, since it's more being on one's own than being a particular age that governs cultural behaviors.
At worst, he'll come of like a college freshman to their college seniors. Unless other personality issues are at play, anyway.
In short, don't worry about it unless he proves to BE a problem.
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2016-01-19, 02:46 PM (ISO 8601)
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2016-01-19, 04:04 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Home game with a younger player - looking for advice
There should be nothing in the way with this that I can see based on age alone. It seems like most of you are as close or closer to his age than you are to the eldest.
I regularly play in a group where the youngest is about 20 years younger than the oldest (the rest of us being at 6+ years older than him) and the biggest issues we run into are the rest of us make all sorts of references to old music and movies and shows he doesn't get.
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2016-01-19, 10:24 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Home game with a younger player - looking for advice
My concern was more with the 'oddity' of inviting a 17 year old into my home. I'm not so worried about playing with a younger person as I am that aspect of it. I mean, maybe if he knew someone in the group it would be one thing, but we're all strangers. If I was to mention to my coworkers, "Yeah, one of my D&D players is 17 years old", I'd get a lot of strange looks and comments - but I also work with a bunch of angry old men.
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2016-01-19, 11:44 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Home game with a younger player - looking for advice
Don't let him drink.
Well That could have gone better.
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2016-01-20, 12:13 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Home game with a younger player - looking for advice
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2016-01-20, 03:57 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Home game with a younger player - looking for advice
My D&D 5th ed. Druid Handbook
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2016-01-20, 04:33 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Home game with a younger player - looking for advice
Would some people assume the wrong thing about a 17 year old hanging out with a bunch of older guys? Oh, probably. But there are also people who think D&D itself is evil, or all sorts of weird things like that, so why worry about it? Just don't bring it up to anyone you think might react strangely.
The only way he needs to be treated differently is to not be fed alcohol. Depending on where you live, that may be true of the 20 year old as well. (Where I live, the drinking age is 19, and the next province over it's 18. But I have heard of it being 21 in some places.)
My Dad lived independently at 17 (he was a college freshman in a different town from his family). And as a 26 year old who still lives at home, I've found a maturity gap between me and people my own age who live independently. So I doubt he'll stand out much with a bunch of older guys - especially since one is only 3 years older.
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2016-01-20, 08:49 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Home game with a younger player - looking for advice
That's about the age I started so I cant see there being an issue
OH and in the UK I would expect him to bring his own drink
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2016-01-20, 01:19 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Home game with a younger player - looking for advice
Yeah, let it be, see if he works out. I've had problem players of a lot of different ages... like the guy in his 40s who we didn't ask back when he started getting creepy at other players.
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2016-01-20, 09:02 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Home game with a younger player - looking for advice
This seems like a complete non-issue to me. I've been that younger player, I've been in games where I was the oldest, age has never caused an issue. Plus, 17 isn't that young, particularly with them living on their own.
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2016-01-25, 03:15 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Home game with a younger player - looking for advice
In case anyone is curious I met the player the night before to get to know each other and build him a character. We wound up just hanging out and chatting for about 3 hours. The next day was game time and everything went beautifully. I feel like a total tool for having worried about something this silly.
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2016-01-26, 10:28 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Home game with a younger player - looking for advice
Glad it all went well
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2016-01-26, 10:55 AM (ISO 8601)
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2016-01-26, 12:20 PM (ISO 8601)
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2016-01-26, 12:34 PM (ISO 8601)
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