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2017-07-13, 07:03 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
Googling it does seem to suggest there's a correlation between being trans and playing TTRPGs, but I can't find any real numbers.
I doubt it's okay on this site, but are there sites I could visit to ask more... explicit questions regarding physical intimacy involving trans people? I don't want to smut up the thread or anything, but I doubt porn is a good place to start looking.
And don't, like, jump me for my ignorance or something and give me some condescending reply like "They do it the same way you do" or whatever. I'm looking for either information or a person who can point me toward information, not "Why don't you already know everything about this"-type dismissal.
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2017-07-13, 07:06 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
Kay but i dont think theres any place where you can get a generalized answer on that. Trans people are a wide variety of people who all enjoy physical intimacy in different ways, same as cis people. We quite literally "do it the same way you do"
I dunno I guess if you had a specific question I could answer in a PM but I can really only speak for myself there.
Not trying to be dismissive or anything just saying that youre not going to get a universal answerLast edited by The Extinguisher; 2017-07-13 at 07:08 PM.
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2017-07-13, 07:28 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
Google your question or what you think a blog post or webpage article that answers your question would be titled. If you get a bunch of porn use filters, but I'll be shocked if you don't find more or less what you're looking for within the first three pages. If you have a question, usually someone else on the internet has already asked it.
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2017-07-13, 07:43 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
Even numbers on general trans demographics are shaky. It's possible you could find some information out there, but I doubt anyone has done any kind of rigorous study, so I'd treat any statistics with skepticism. That said, I'd definitely place a bet on the tabletop community having a higher percentage of trans individuals than the general population; there's a lot of reasons for trans people to find it appealing.
Right now the generally used number puts us at about 0.6% of the general population. The estimate before that was 0.3% of the general population. So... yeah. Treat any number with skepticism. If you just want a ballpark figure, 1 in 100 probably won't steer you too far wrong, and it'll be easy to keep in the head.
I doubt it's okay on this site, but are there sites I could visit to ask more... explicit questions regarding physical intimacy involving trans people? I don't want to smut up the thread or anything, but I doubt porn is a good place to start looking.
And don't, like, jump me for my ignorance or something and give me some condescending reply like "They do it the same way you do" or whatever. I'm looking for either information or a person who can point me toward information, not "Why don't you already know everything about this"-type dismissal.Last edited by AmberVael; 2017-07-13 at 07:44 PM.
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2017-07-13, 07:49 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
I might take a look at some of the sex education forums for the latter question. Scarleteen tends to be a good place.
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2017-07-13, 08:05 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
No one has actually studied this AFAIK, so you'd have to be involved with setting up a methodology to try to get a representative sample of players in order to survey them if you really wanted to get any kind of idea beyond what we know of the proportion of the general population, which is kinda shaky as has been pointed out..
I'm sure that at least one of the transgender related subreddits over on reddit deal with NSFW subject matter. r/asktransgender, r/lgbt, r/transgender would be places to start looking for them in the FAQs/sidebars/sister subreddits lists.
I recall that it came up in the sister LGBTAI+ thread within the past 48 hours that there are different concerns when it comes to fitting a bra for a trans woman vs. a cis woman.
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2017-07-14, 03:21 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
That'll teach me to ask after information that doesn't exist.
I do not think the way you think. If you try to apply your own mindset to the things I say, there will be miscommunications. If something I say seems odd to you or feels like it's missing steps, ask for clarification. I'm not some unreasonable, unknowable entity beyond your mortal comprehension, I'm just autistic and have memory problems.
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2017-07-20, 05:32 PM (ISO 8601)
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2017-07-20, 07:32 PM (ISO 8601)
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2017-07-20, 11:42 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
I mean, you could wean yourself off of this need to be actively and rabidly as homophobic and hurtful as humanly possible when there's not even anyone putting you on the spot to act in such a way.
It would be better for you in the long run, regardless of your relationship status.
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2017-07-21, 02:15 AM (ISO 8601)
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2017-07-21, 02:51 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
I guess that's true, it's just so hard, I can't help but think everyone suspects of me. And it's not as bad as I made it sound, I just say things like "Yeah it's a sin" or "I don't care about what they do I just don't want them near me" or "I don't think they should adopt children since, poor kid right?" Not "Gays should be put to death." "They are abominations" "Disgusting" or that sort of thing.
Most of time is not even me who says the stuff, I just nod and agree.
She doesn't want to leave, she was the one who build the house they are living in, and it was mostly her money.
And about my "Ex" I don't think he will tell anyone anymore, turns out he is bi, and is already going out with another professor from another campus. :X
Guess I really was just a little distraction, it sucks that I let my guard down. I will try to not let that happen again.
But still he may do it just for the kicks. I hate my life.
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2017-07-21, 04:45 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
I actually don't blame the guy for getting tired of that and wanting to break up.
I could live with those rules if, AND ONLY IF, there was a deadline to when these rules would fall away.
Otherwise it's not healthy for either person within that relationship.
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2017-07-21, 08:12 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
I'm a bisexual man, and the reason I mostly only refer to my first boyfriend is because of what happened to the second.
I invited him up to my room after a date which I thought had gone well hiking around the woods. He said that sounded great, but what about my roommates? I said they wouldn't mind, got my own bedroom, and they're cool people who I KNOW are LGBT friendly. He got alarmed, not only that my friends might know he was gay, but that they knew I was bi, and started talking about ways that we could backpedal that to keep our relationship an absolute secret. It got into some really insulting stuff that I can't repeat on this board even if I wanted to.
So I told him not to worry about it, there wasn't a relationship for him to have to hide anymore.
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2017-07-23, 07:24 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
Can anyone here recommend a good lgbt movie that has no drama? No suffering, just normal gay people being normal gay people in a normal gay life.
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2017-07-23, 08:19 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
Stand up to your family. Build HEALTHY boundaries to show that you care, but that they need to respect your wishes not attempt to destroy your phone's voicemail. Is this some sort of cultural thing, or is your family just weird?
I cannot give legal advice. But I would seriously consider looking into the laws of your region about what you can do. See if you cannot convince her to go to a therapist.
This is going to sound brutal, but these people cost you one relationship. Don't let them run your life into the ground. If you are international (to the US/UK at least) look into some living aboard programs.
It's not quite what you wanted, but D.E.B.S is pretty light-hearted and silly.Last edited by Honest Tiefling; 2017-07-23 at 08:20 PM.
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2017-07-24, 03:28 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
Argentine "Plan B":
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1408972/
There's a love triangle, but not much "suffering." It's a romantic comedy.
I somehow found the characters much more relatable than in the USA LGBT movies I've seen.Last edited by Sobol; 2017-07-24 at 03:52 AM.
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2017-07-24, 08:14 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
Priscilla, Queen of the Desert? It does have a few intense moments, but overall it's fun.
Or 3, a German movie. It is a drama, but for the most part the drama isn't because of "gayness".
Or uh... a friend of mine was recently in a low-budget exploitation film that I gather was initiated and headed by LGBT people. It's called [Short for a bundle of sticks] in the Fast Lane, and it's meant to be incredibly ridiculous. Haven't seen it yet, myself, though.The Iron Avatarist Hall of Fame!
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2017-07-24, 06:01 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
Shamash! The true sun god!
Praise the sun! \o/
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2017-07-24, 11:57 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
Not a movie, but the series "Looking" looked pretty real lifey to me. As in, I could easily relate to pretty much every character, and imagine living their lives and making their choises. It's good.
Well that was awkward.
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2017-07-25, 09:19 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
Shamash! The true sun god!
Praise the sun! \o/
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2017-07-25, 02:28 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
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I guess I can slow down of the blatant homophobia.
:<
But we had a lot of fun besides that, when we were alone, he said the experiences we had were unique and very deep.
Both, around here we are a lot more family centric than the USA but my family takes it up to eleven.
I tried she won't go; she had a bad experiences with a therapist and was even institutionalized in 1996.
Living aboard is not a possibility since I can't leave my mom, and she won't leave her house. Besides is not like the place we live is the problem, my family is the problem and I can't just fix that, running away won't solve the problem.Last edited by Luz; 2017-07-25 at 02:39 PM.
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2017-07-25, 03:46 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
@Luz
So you don't think running will help and don't want to try that, you don't think you believe that you can't come out without putting yourself into serious physical danger and you're unwilling to try and change opinions in your community in other ways. So what is your plan? Because the center cannot hold.
Your situation right now seems like it's surviving but not really living and it does not sound like it's sustainable in the long term. Not unless you want to arrange a marriage to a nice young women who you'll probably be betraying.
I'm not going to say that you should follow in the footsteps of a trans friend of mine who in one day, finished her name change that she'd been working on covertly for months, moved to a new apartment and changed her cell phone number as a way to escape the people in her past. But it is possible with enough planning.
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2017-07-25, 04:48 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
Well, I would never have a beard if that's what you are asking. I wouldn't lie to a innocent girl who has nothing to do with my sh1tty family, I’m not that huge of a jerk.
My plan is go on pretending I'm not gay until either my mom dies and I can go on with my life far far FAR away, or I die and well that's the end of that.
Is it a good plan? No. Is it a fun plan? Nope. But it's what I can do.
But that's the plan B, the plan A was go on living my "gay life" in the shadows, but that's too much work and too much stress.Last edited by Luz; 2017-07-25 at 04:49 PM.
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2017-07-25, 05:20 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
Luz, is there some equivalent of adult protective services where you are?
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2017-07-25, 05:26 PM (ISO 8601)
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2017-07-26, 03:17 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
I just made the mistake of watching Closet Monster and 1:54, two very good films that I heartily recommend (but they are intense and dark), and I also want some gay fluff to watch.
Pride isn't quite what you want, but it's still very uplifting. It's about gay groups raising money to support the miners strike in Thatcher era England, so there's definitely suffering, but I found the movie very charming. And it's got that light touch that I always appreciate in British productions, it's why no American made coming out movie has quite topped Beautiful Thing for me.
If you like Looking, may I suggest the series Eastsiders? It's still a drama, about a couple dealing with infidelity, but it's less political and just more about relationships. Plus, some really cute guys.
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2017-07-27, 10:48 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
Oh, you could maybe try the Australian TV series, Please Like Me? I haven't seen any of it, really - it's not my style of humour - but it's a comedy about (at the start, anyway) an awkward guy realising he might be a bit not straight.
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2017-07-27, 11:19 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
The Gay and Wondrous Life of Caleb Gallow has been blowing up on Tumblr. I haven't watched all of it, but its pretty funny.
Its a free web series on You Tube.Last edited by solidork; 2017-07-27 at 11:21 AM.
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2017-08-07, 09:14 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread IV 2b or not 2b?
This little animated short has been making the social media rounds, and yes, it's totally adorable. 4 minutes, will melt your heart.