Gay-mers

[cupkeyk]

I am not sure if this is going against any of the forum rules though.

There is a thread in 4chan about parties and the token gay guy is present.

As a gay-mer myself, I found surprised that there were others. Aside from my boyfriend who I begged/coerced into dnd, I know no other gay-mers.

Unfortunately, gay-mers in 4chan were identified as backseat combatant rules lawyers (basically, they make buffers or faces and direct combat from the sidelines). I unfortunately fit that bill. LOLz

Does your group have gay-mers?

Do they fit the stereotype?

Really, I have always felt isolated as a gay gamer. isolated from other gay men, not from other gamers, oddly enough. The larger population f gay men look upon dnd like the plague

[Artemician]

Gay people, whether they game or not, are no different from regular people. It is sad that you have to deal with discrimination and labelling by other people, but that's the world for you.

And gamers, whether they are gay or not, are no different from other people too.

I wish you the best of luck in your endeavours. Don't let other people get you down! Do the things you want to do, and to hell with them.

[Collin152]

I disagree. There is a differance. Gamers play games. Others don't. That is a differance, and no amount of sugar sucking will make it any differant.
Differances aren't all bad. Open your eyes, world! Embrace our differences!
We can't let this world be like Anthem! I hated that book!
Heheh, not entirely serious.

[SilverClawShift]

Gay-mers gay-mer gay-mers gay-mers gay-mers

Ugh. Don't ever say that phrase again. Not cause it's offensive, it's just too darn silly

In any event, one of the players in my group is gay. He's currently a paladin who's becoming a death delver after dropping into negatives one too many times for his own mental stability. Usually dropping into negatives cause he was headbutting something two size categories larger than him in the face. So yeah, the stereotype doesn't exactly fit.

[cupkeyk]

Ain't t weird that gay people discriminate me because of my hobby. Oh well. So much for progressive thinking from a marginalized minority.

[Fhaolan]

I have gamed in groups that are almost entirely homosexual, barring myself. It's very interesting being a minority in that kind of situation. There was one flamer guy, one 'barelyinthecloset' guy, one bi guy, one lesbian, and myself (the lone straight). The group dynamic was fascinating.

[Eladrinstar]

We have lesbian gamer in our main group.

I once played a game with a guy I think might have been bisexual. He is always flirting with everyone, and I mean everyone, during rehearsels for our school's plays, always lurking in the dark backstage and groping people when they least suspected it. He could have just been messing around.

But when we played the game, I knew something was up. He initiated romantic dialog with a female NPC. He got way close to me and leaned his face into mine. This was typical behavior for him. My girlfriend, expert at photographing awkward moments, swooped in with her phone and took pictures that are probably still on the internet. It was really hard to keep a straight face and continue the dialog. Heh heh, straight face.

And no, before anyone says anything, I'm not homophobic. I'm just a heterosexual male. There is a difference.

[SilverClawShift]

Ain't t weird that gay people discriminate me because of my hobby. Oh well.

D&D is just a hobby that it takes a very specific kind of person to become interested in.

[Winterwind]

I have played for seven years with a player now who became lesbian during that time. Actually, she kinda became lesbian due to roleplaying, because after becoming interested in roleplaying she started to hang around in chatrooms roleplaying there as well, played a male character and became engaged with another girl. And, strangely enough, this relationship expanded to real life, even though it took months before that other girl learned the player I'm speaking of was actually female. They have been living together now for quite a few years.

Didn't change our relationship or our behaviour towards her in any way, though, even though one or two players (and, admittedly, myself ) were rather disappointed by it.

[de-trick]

I'm not touching some of this with a 10 ten foot pole, not a homophobic either, nice to see that people of all walks of life enjoying a game together I think we used to have a metrosexual in are gaming group, good guy(had lots of miniatures)

[Kompera]

As a gay-mer myself, I found surprised that there were others. Aside from my boyfriend who I begged/coerced into dnd, I know no other gay-mers.

Um, why were you surprised? If you think about it, roleplaying would seem to play to many of the stereotypes attributed to gay men.

1) Lots of dramatic acting;
2) Sitting around chatting with a group of people which is nearly always predominantly male and is very likely to be 100% male;
3) How pretty! Miniatures! Oooh, look at the colors!
4) I've got pink dice! And with 8 sides, too!
5) I'm a flighty elf! Hehe, I bet you thought I was going to say "fairy"!

I do not at all intend to offend with the above. Like I said "stereotypes". They exist, I did not invent them, I do not hold to them. My own personal view is that I could give a rat's ass what any two (or more, I still could give a rat's ass) consenting adults do in the privacy of their own sexualities. I am not my brother's keeper, I only ask that my brothers treat me with the respect with which I will treat them.

[Wooter]

I don't see why homosexuals would be adverse to gaming. Although judging by the gay people I know, I think that they would be more into the role playing aspect rather than being all munchkiny.

[GryffonDurime]

When I moved off to college, I finally got my chance at playing Dungeons and Dragons when a friend of mine dragged me off to join a group he played with. Lo and behold, I was the third gay person in the group...our DM is beginning to wonder if he just attracts them like a magnet.

And I don't know about stereotypes...I play spellcasters. Lots of spellcasters. Spellcasters who enjoy telling the universe to sit on it.

[Collin152]

Heheh, who doesn't like being a spellcaster, gay or straight?

[GryffonDurime]

Heheh, who doesn't like being a spellcaster, gay or straight?

People who are afraid of power. Obviously.

[paigeoliver]

I know at least 3 or 4 gay-mers myself. Likely the number is much higher, just not everyone announces their orientation.

[cupkeyk]

,
4) I've got pink dice! And with 8 sides, too!
5) I'm a flighty elf! Hehe, I bet you thought I was going to say "fairy"!

I got fuschia dice as a gift one christmas. I hated them. I hate pink, especially fuschia. I kept them somewhere and never seen them again. If gray elves weren't all that, I would hate elves too. The high and mighty thing is annoying.

[Dhavaer]

The first other gamer I met was also the first gay guy I met. Funny, that.

[The Extinguisher]

I'm a "bi-mer" if that counts?

I don't see what's so surprising about a gay person playing D&D. Gay gamers are gamers too.

[averagejoe]

I'm a "bi-mer" if that counts?

You know it doesn't.

Sorry, couldn't resist.

[The Extinguisher]

Best of both genders

I've never had a problem with it, but I'm anything but stereotypical, so that could be why.

[Vuzzmop]

Why on earth should being gay, straight, female or male have to do with a roleplaying game? If you play the game well, you shouldn't be able to twell if someone is of a particular sexuality. I play in a group where all of us are straight, with one, possible exception which I think might take a while to figure out. It doesn't affect the group dynamic in any way, and we all readily play either sex characters and role play as appropriate.

We do however, take every oppurtunity to joke about the femininity of elvish male pcs. Just too easy.

[Quietus]

I just want to say this :

To everyone using the term gay-mer - STOP.

It's worse that those who've come up with this sick attempt at a cutesy meme are gay themselves, but seriously, you're just going to take your own orientation and turn it into some horrible, twisted joke. It's NOT funny, it's NOT cute, and it makes me want to snap the word in two and burn it.

I refuse to accept this term - who's with me?

[Artemician]

I just want to say this :

To everyone using the term gay-mer - STOP.

It's worse that those who've come up with this sick attempt at a cutesy meme are gay themselves, but seriously, you're just going to take your own orientation and turn it into some horrible, twisted joke. It's NOT funny, it's NOT cute, and it makes me want to snap the word in two and burn it.

I refuse to accept this term - who's with me?

It's not a joke. Or an insult. Do you see anyone laughing? Or complaining that it offends them? No?

It's just an abbreviation, a portmanteau. There's no negative connotation, and nobody takes it as offensive.

[Lord Tataraus]

Wow...never thought there would be so many (I will not say that word) gay gamers, but I guess i never really thought of that. We did have a lesbian play with us a couple times but she was weird, really, really weird. Dressed all goth, but acted completely opposite. She wasn't very good either. I don't think a gay guy would be to comfortable in our group though, the lesbian wasn't. I am homophobic, not as in homosexuals are the devil!! Just, uncomfortable. Unfortunately, it offends, which is not my meaning by it. *shrug* Ever have trouble with anti-homosexual attitudes in gaming?

[kamikasei]

I refuse to accept this term - who's with me?

Honestly, if gay gamers want to use the name, I'm just glad to see such a meaning attached to it instead of having it available as a "huh huh, you game, that must mean you're gay, like a gay-mer" insult for lackwits.

It seems perfectly innocuous to me. I don't get your strength of feeling here.

[Reel On, Love]

I am homophobic, not as in homosexuals are the devil!! Just, uncomfortable. Unfortunately, it offends, which is not my meaning by it. *shrug* Ever have trouble with anti-homosexual attitudes in gaming?

I... why? It's good that you're aware of it and recognize it as a bad thing, I guess, but why would you be uncomfortable about playing with a gay person? We're talking D&D, not doctor.

[Magnvo]

There is a thread in 4chan

Rules 1 and 2.

That said, I've never played with anyone I knew was homosexual. The place I play at doesn't seem like it'd attract anyone, regardless of orientation, for that matter, and in school I never asked. I don't care about your orientation as long as you're willing to roleplay, even if you want to munchkin while you're at it.

Just my two cents. Forgive me if I'm not making sense, I'm tired and barely skimmed the thread.

[Vuzzmop]

I just want to say this :

To everyone using the term gay-mer - STOP.

It's worse that those who've come up with this sick attempt at a cutesy meme are gay themselves, but seriously, you're just going to take your own orientation and turn it into some horrible, twisted joke. It's NOT funny, it's NOT cute, and it makes me want to snap the word in two and burn it.

I refuse to accept this term - who's with me?

Raises tentacle. Why make gay people different to anyone else, its only their sexuality, and its a game, not a guy on guy orgy. Geez.

[Lord Tataraus]

I... why? It's good that you're aware of it and recognize it as a bad thing, I guess, but why would you be uncomfortable about playing with a gay person? We're talking D&D, not doctor.

Bad past experiences and uncontrollable discomfort. Sure its D&D not doctor, but its long periods of time that I just can't handle. I know my phobias and limits and I try to stay away from them because I can't control my reactions sometimes. For example, I have a bad fear of heights and when I set it off I go into a nervous break-down, not fun. So I stay away from instances where I might set off the phobia, same kind of thing with homophobia. It does not mean I can't interact, its just the hours upon hours of interacting. I guess, sort of what I'm saying is that not all homophobes are for purely conscious reasons and should not be universally condemned.