LGBTAitp - Part Seventeen!

[KenderWizard]

A big welcome to everyone, to LGBTAitp's sexy seventeenth incarnation.


This is a thread where we Playgrounders, and LGBTAitp in particular, gather to discuss, share our experiences, give general advice and support one another in such matters as arise relating to, well, the world beyond heteronormativity.

Please note that although the title of the thread names only the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Asexual communities, it is intended as an all inclusive environment.

• Everyone is welcome. Let's try to keep from seeming otherwise.
• Keep this topic free of politics and religion. (so, don't violate the board rules, plz)
• It's beyond the scope of this thread to discuss whether LGBT is "Right." (And really, most discussions probably should avoid moralizing too much anyway)
• Please refrain from posting sexually explicit content. (Keep it friendly as well as board safe )

If you would rather be anonymous when asking for advice or sharing your story or views, you can use the address below to send a message to be posted in this thread via proxy.

http://anonmail.smeenet.org/

Keep in mind that content which contain strong language may be filtered (Plus, y'know, the forum-filters), and content that violates the forum rules won't be posted at all.

Here are the links for the previous threads, where much of use or interest may be found:

1. LGBT people in the playground
   
2. LGBT people in the playground - part II
   
3. LGBTitp - part III
   
4. LGBTitp 4: We are a family?
   
5. LGBTitp - Part Five
   
6. LGBTitp - Part Six
   
7. LGBTitp - Part Seven
   
8. LGBTitp - Part Eight
   
9. LGBTitp - Part Nine
   
10. LGBTAitp - Part Ten
    
11. LGBTAitp - Part Eleven
    
12. LGBTAitp - Part Twelve
    
13. LGBTAitp - Part Thirteen
    
14. LGBTAitp - Part Fourteen
    
15. LGBTAitp - Part Fifteen
    
16. LGBTAitp - Part Sixteen

*modified from the original.[/I]

[Asta Kask]

Spelling error! Seventeeth!

They haven't created a thread for people with spelling OCD so I lurk here.

[KenderWizard]

Spelling error! Seventeeth!

They haven't created a thread for people with spelling OCD so I lurk here.

It took me SO LONG to work out what you were talking about... By which I mean, there is clearly no spelling error, shut up!

[Asta Kask]

Much better. Maybe I should shut up now and let someone who is actually LGBTA speak.

[noparlpf]

Goodness me, these threads run through fifty pages very quickly.

[Miscast_Mage]

Ah, new thread smell; smells like gay. So how are we all, QUILTBAGS?

[Asta Kask]

Quiltbags?

[Niezck]

Best acronym ever.

[Asta Kask]

Does it stand for everything, or is it just a random acronym?

[noparlpf]

Check out the Wikipedia article on LGBT, under Variants.

[H Birchgrove]

From the previous thread:

You should really try it, it's pretty good.

Mine are fine, but I think it's just the style is named italian cut - even if that's not the name, the one with the junk-pouch. Both comfortable AND flattering!

ALSO is Lidel like our Lidl, where you get cheap stuff?

Ah, so "Italian cut" underwear aren't necessarily made in Italy? I should have guessed so.

I meant Lidl, I misremembered the spelling. They have the same name here as in Germany.

'You' was more of a general term. Although if your love burns at the right temperature you may find work in the forge.

Nah, I think it will get uneven.

I apologize if I offended you. I've always been myopic about the line between flirting and sexual harassment.

Oh, it wasn't that bad, it's just not a topic I discuss "freely".

You were talking about masturbation, right? I won't get it out of my head if this remains a mystery...

There, I said it.

[Coidzor]

Check out the Wikipedia article on LGBT, under Variants.

Or last thread, I'd say circa page 36.

She thought I was some depraved bi person like on those private school specials.

Sounds like bad PR, more than an intrinsic factor in all bi-straight relations.

Though, I must say, it is quite the mystery why she'd agree to date you in the first place, knowing that.

Bi, yes. Enjoy sex despite the fact i cant feel it( nerve damage), yes. Depraved, no.

Although that particular bit of TMI might have had something to do with the perception/discomfort as well as the bigot tree. :/ Nerve and brain damage are pretty uncomfortable topics, what with there not being any go-to appropriate response to such an existential quandary.

[turkishproverb]

New thread. Hugs for everyone!

*HUG*

[KenderWizard]

Oh, it wasn't that bad, it's just not a topic I discuss "freely".

You were talking about masturbation, right? I won't get it out of my head if this remains a mystery...

There, I said it.

I think people should talk about masturbation more. Especially female masturbation, and LGBT+ masturbation, and basically masturbation that isn't straight cis guys getting off to exploitative lowest-common-denominator porn, and the jokes that arise thereof. Not that there's anything wrong with being straight, cis, male, and getting off to standard-issue porn, just that it's a very restrictive paradigm, especially for those of us who are never going to fit into the image. And even for the people who do. I mean, I only found out that women "could" masturbate in my very late teens.

[Niezck]

I think people should talk about masturbation more. Especially female masturbation, and LGBT+ masturbation, and basically masturbation that isn't straight cis guys getting off to exploitative lowest-common-denominator porn, and the jokes that arise thereof. Not that there's anything wrong with being straight, cis, male, and getting off to standard-issue porn, just that it's a very restrictive paradigm, especially for those of us who are never going to fit into the image. And even for the people who do. I mean, I only found out that women "could" masturbate in my very late teens.

While I agree that people, in general, should be more open with regard to sexuality and all things related - perhaps not the best place to talk about it?

[Coidzor]

exploitative lowest-common-denominator porn, and the jokes that arise thereof.

...J-Jokes?! *cringes* oy gevalt...

(ION: I have found the interrobang of giantitp smileys.... )

...

I'll agree though, it is quite regrettable that the demographics who have an urgent need to know enough about their bodies and selves to keep themselves safe and happy are exactly those demographics most cut off from the information they need by society and prejudice. But, hey, that's just a side-effect of the greater culture accepting the ubiquity and truth of the sentiment of sex being weird and/or bad, so it's unfortunately not surprising in the least. Merely regrettable.

[Asta Kask]

It's the socratic problem - the first step of wisdom lies in knowing how little you know. But a person who believes he is fully learned will resist this. How, then, do we teach these people?

[KenderWizard]

While I agree that people, in general, should be more open with regard to sexuality and all things related - perhaps not the best place to talk about it?

Well I'm not suggesting talking about explicit detail or even any kind of detail, but more, the socio-political culture. Like the way we don't talk about sex, we talk about sexuality. I think it's relevant, if no one else does, clearly, there won't be a conversation and we can talk about something else.

...J-Jokes?! *cringes* oy gevalt...

You know, like in movies, or tv shows, or ads, or what-have-you.

...I'm going to have to hazard a rather unpopular and venturesome venture as to insinuate the possibility that such potentially sounds like it derives from what seems to be a probable basis of approaching it from, perhaps, the wrong direction if enjoyment is hampered by not looking like such a woman. (ION: I have found the interrobang of giantitp smileys....)

Okay, I'm confused. You are going to suggest that what I said is based on approaching mainstream depictions of masturbation from the wrong direction (?) if I don't enjoy it because I don't look like the women in it? Is that what you mean? I won't bother replying until you clarify so we don't end up in one of those both-missing-the-other circuitous arguscussions. I presume you're dancing around the point because you think I'll take offence, so I'll be as reasonable as possible, and you just spit it out!

Edit: Ahh! The conversation has been retconned!

[Darklady2831]

The Dark Lord of being Single, reporting in!

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[Triscuitable]

The Dark Lord of being Single, reporting in!

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If we're single, we have the biggest advantage of the universe. Ourselves. We don't have a girl/boyfriend telling us what to do. It's personal freedoms.

Also, icky girl-parts. That's another bonus to remaining single. That being said, men aren't much better off.

[Niezck]

The Dark Lord of being Single, reporting in!

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Being with someone is over-rated.

*Returns to lurk mode as usual*

[Blisstake]

I think people should talk about masturbation more. Especially female masturbation, and LGBT+ masturbation, and basically masturbation that isn't straight cis guys getting off to exploitative lowest-common-denominator porn, and the jokes that arise thereof. Not that there's anything wrong with being straight, cis, male, and getting off to standard-issue porn, just that it's a very restrictive paradigm, especially for those of us who are never going to fit into the image. And even for the people who do. I mean, I only found out that women "could" masturbate in my very late teens.

I don't think it's so much that people don't want to talk about masturbation, but rather that people don't want to hear about it. Which honestly is fine by me; it's a pretty private process (in my experiences at least...)

As long as people know there's nothing wrong with it (when it's... private), I don't believe much more needs to be said on the topic.

[Partysan]

Being with someone is over-rated.

*Returns to lurk mode as usual*

But being with someone involves real life cuddles. And there can never be a rating high enough for cuddles. Hugstarvation is deadly.

[TechnoScrabble]

Welcome to the club darklord. Have a hat and a seat. My vodka and I will get to you eventually.

[Darklady2831]

But being with someone involves real life cuddles. And there can never be a rating high enough for cuddles. Hugstarvation is deadly.

This.

I miss this xD

[Mutant Sheep]

But being with someone involves real life cuddles. And there can never be a rating high enough for cuddles. Hugstarvation is deadly.

I agree. Hugs are very awesome. *wanders out of thread looking for Skeppio*

[TechnoScrabble]

Someone should make arms that attach to your computer via usb and deliver hugs.

[Nix Nihila]

But being with someone involves real life cuddles. And there can never be a rating high enough for cuddles. Hugstarvation is deadly.

Am I the only one who cuddles with my friends?

Not to say, of course, that extra cuddling is not a good thing, I just don't think it should be exclusive to your significant other.

[Niezck]

Someone should make arms that attach to your computer via usb and deliver hugs.

I'm sure somewhere, somehow, that's been made. Likely in someone's mother's basement.

[Partysan]

Am I the only one who cuddles with my friends?

Not to say, of course, that extra cuddling is not a good thing, I just don't think it should be exclusive to your significant other.

I think so too, I just don't have sufficiently cuddly friends right now. But no, you aren't the only one.